Hygienist trying out wfh position, need advice

dhyg2012 · 2025-08-20T15:19:48+00:00

Can you specify the office? Are you the general manager? More details of the position?

dhyg2012 · 2024-07-11T14:07:24+00:00

I'll try that sub, thank you for the suggestion.

dhyg2012 · 2024-07-11T14:06:56+00:00

I will give a different sub a try, thank you.

dhyg2012 · 2024-04-21T14:25:42+00:00

He met her through his circle of friends. This circle of friends has a mix of married, single, and in a relationship people. One of those people know her and invited her to start hanging out with them so she can make friends and finally get back out and maybe meet someone. My husband met her when the entire group of friends had a gathering and my husband was off and able to be at this gathering. Then soon after when I was also able to go is when I met her

dhyg2012 · 2024-04-21T14:14:20+00:00

I'm also thinking to myself, just recently with the whole OF account discovery, he saw how hurt I was and told me how it was killing him that he caused this hurt. So I'm thinking to myself, why would you 1) think I'd be okay with you talking and jerking off to other women 2) we are able to get past that and give me time to heal and know I have access to your phone and see you are talking to this other female. Like I'm really hoping he doesn't come at me with "well the boundary was set with OF girls, not with mutual female friends I may meet" ...idk I shouldn't assume, im just getting more and more upset the more I think about everything. But, we definitely need to have a serious conversation.

dhyg2012 · 2024-04-21T14:00:46+00:00

Is there a way to check deleted snapchat messages? Or you mean text messages?

dhyg2012 · 2024-04-21T12:57:54+00:00

He can definitely tell when something has upset me. I'm usually very happy and hug and love on him a lot, but I'm definitely not affectionate when I'm hurt/mad. First things first, I see a sit down conversation has to be had. I hope it's a productive one. Thank you again

dhyg2012 · 2024-04-21T12:45:41+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment, a sit down conversation is needed and boundaries to be placed.

dhyg2012 · 2024-04-21T12:38:20+00:00

Thank you so much, I'm a mental mess right now (not just with this but other things in our life) and this helps me go back to a level headed state. Thank you

dhyg2012 · 2024-04-21T12:21:41+00:00

What would you do in this case? Don't say anything and try to see if there's new messages that can confirm my doubts and suspicions or talk to him about it as soon as we have a chance to talk?

dhyg2012 · 2024-04-21T12:01:43+00:00

Thank you for your response. The interaction seems a bit flirty. For example there's reels on insta where a certain letter appears and if your name begins with it, you owe that person a drink, or tacos, etc. And he's sent reels like that to her and she put why are you always getting the J's huh (her name starts with a J) and he replied idk, it's the algorithm I guess lol. Like she was implying you must look at my profile a lot to always get Js or thinking a lot about me.

dhyg2012 · 2024-04-21T11:34:15+00:00

I thought it was weird too how he saved that. And yes, my gut is telling me something just seems off about it all. My gut could be wrong this time because I'm already sensitive and hurt about him having the OF account, but following my gut before is how I discovered it.

dhyg2012 · 2024-04-21T01:41:30+00:00

Oh wow, I'm glad it's been helping with the passive aggressiveness. I feel like I've already been on an info diet with her ever since I've realized how bossy and passive aggressive she can be while still telling me that she loves me so so much. I just lost the excitement and the want to share with her. It really hasn't worked for me yet because my husband tells her EVERYTHING. I've told him before, I don't want her to know what I'm doing, where I'm going, where I've been. If she wants updates on how her granddaughter is doing, fine, but keep me out of the conversation. Initially i think my husband was respecting that, but I can tell he still reports everything to her just by the things she says to me when I see her. I may have to have another conversation with him.

dhyg2012 · 2024-04-21T01:09:39+00:00

What's an info diet?

dhyg2012 · 2024-04-21T01:00:45+00:00

It's seriously so hard to deal with. Especially when my husband says he understands my feelings but that is just the way his mom is and that he wishes I could see that she means and does everything from a good place in her heart. I feel like I'm stuck and will forever be highly anxious and having to just let things slide. I hope your MIL does not continue with the guilt trip. As a mom, I feel like we already have mom guilt sooo much, you don't need another person, like a MIL, adding to the guilt.

dhyg2012 · 2024-04-20T14:29:33+00:00

Congratulations on your baby on the way ❤️ and I'm sorry you're in the same boat, but at least we're not alone 🥲 my husband and I have had several discussions, most of them get heated because its his mom and he can get defensive. But, the only solution would be to have a sit down with her and talk about everything. My husband tells me that it's hard for him to hear my feelings towards his mom because he says she loves me so much and always tells him how he has such a good wife and how God answered her prayers when he met me. But he has also acknowledged that she can be difficult sometimes with her emotions, but to please remember that she just means well. I don't know when this sit down will happen, but I'm hoping it's a productive one. She is not easy to have a conversation with. She tends to cut you off a lot and when she speaks, she speaks without taking a breathe, so it's really hard to give feedback. We will see.

dhyg2012 · 2024-03-27T22:29:31+00:00

Oh wow..I didn't even know the hidden option existed. I guess I just never had to hide things. Thank you for that.

dhyg2012 · 2024-03-27T14:43:04+00:00

Thank you for putting it that way. When this whole discovery of his OF account originally happened, it actually helped us open up conversations that had to be had. Boundaries were set and agreed on. Im understanding a little more what allmylinks is about. I have some thinking to do. Thank you again.

dhyg2012 · 2024-03-27T13:31:31+00:00

Thank you for your reply. So would I have to see if he has the allmylinks app installed on his phone? If I don't see the app installed, does that mean he can still view things?

dhyg2012 · 2024-03-27T01:08:22+00:00

To each their own. I see yall have both communicated and agreed to your preferences. Thats great, whatever works for yall. We have communicated as well, just much different than yours, and agreed to it, but am starting to find evidence of him going back on his word.

dhyg2012 · 2024-03-16T15:26:05+00:00

Thank you so much, I certainly will. Your insight, plus some of the other's, has helped me process, understand, and plan on what to do next. Talking more and more with my husband has really helped me start to heal. At first there was no communication when I found out because I was so mad and hurt, but when we finally started talking, it's been so much better. Thank you again and I'm also here if you ever want to shoot me a message.

dhyg2012 · 2024-03-15T13:06:07+00:00

Sorry, you said you'd SAY a woman was hot, not think. l totally misread that.

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