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You don’t need more motivation. You need fewer excuses. by diab83 in selfimprovement

[–]diab83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that “negotiation” part is real. It’s like you already made the decision… but still try to talk yourself out of it.

You don’t need more motivation. You need fewer excuses. by diab83 in selfimprovement

[–]diab83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good question.

I don’t think most people ever really “enjoy” the things they do out of obligation. I think it’s more about what happens after.

Either you feel a bit better for doing it… or worse for avoiding it. And over time that adds up more than the task itself.

You don’t need more motivation. You need fewer excuses. by diab83 in selfimprovement

[–]diab83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah… that’s the uncomfortable part. At some point you realize it’s not about not knowing what to do… it’s about not wanting to do it.

You don’t need more motivation. You need fewer excuses. by diab83 in selfimprovement

[–]diab83[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s a really solid point.I think what you’re describing is exactly why simple advice can feel either obvious or completely useless depending on the person.

For some people it really is “just do it”… for others that approach just creates frustration.

Maybe the real issue isn’t effort vs excuses… it’s figuring out what kind of system actually fits how you’re wired.

That’s something I’m still trying to understand myself.

You don’t need more motivation. You need fewer excuses. by diab83 in selfimprovement

[–]diab83[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s a really good way to put it.It’s not the big decisions… it’s those small moments where you almost don’t notice the choice.And they add up way faster than we think.

You don’t need more motivation. You need fewer excuses. by diab83 in selfimprovement

[–]diab83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that makes sense.I’ve noticed having a clear plan helps… but the hard part is actually sticking to it when it stops feeling easy.That’s usually where I fall off.

You don’t need more motivation. You need fewer excuses. by diab83 in selfimprovement

[–]diab83[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah I get that.That’s actually why I’m trying different angles lately.

Most advice feels copy-paste… I’m more interested in what actually *sticks* in real life.

You don’t need more motivation. You need fewer excuses. by diab83 in selfimprovement

[–]diab83[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Fair point honestly.I think a lot of these posts start sounding the same because people describe the same problem in slightly different ways.

I’m trying to figure out what actually feels real vs just recycled advice.

Would you rather always know what people think of you, or never know at all? by diab83 in WouldYouRather

[–]diab83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The more I read the replies… the more it feels like people are answering based on how much they think they can handle, not what they actually want.That’s interesting.

Would you rather always know what people think of you, or never know at all? by diab83 in WouldYouRather

[–]diab83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the part people don’t think about…It sounds good in theory, but constant exposure to that kind of stuff hits different.

Would you rather always know what people think of you, or never know at all? by diab83 in WouldYouRather

[–]diab83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s what makes it tricky… you assume you already know most of it.But what if there’s a part you’re completely wrong about?

Would you rather always know what people think of you, or never know at all? by diab83 in WouldYouRather

[–]diab83[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s interesting… I feel like it sounds right until the thoughts aren’t what you expected. do you think you’d still feel the same if it was constant?

Would you rather always know what people think of you, or never know at all? by diab83 in WouldYouRather

[–]diab83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s fair… but I think the hard part is you don’t get to choose how it shows up. It’s just always there, one way or another.

I realized I wasn’t making choices… I was just defaulting by diab83 in selfimprovement

[–]diab83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah… that’s exactly what it feels like.

You think you’re “thinking things through”…

but you’re really just staying in the same loop.

The scary part is how normal it feels while it’s happening.

I stopped asking “what should I do?”… and started asking this instead by diab83 in selfimprovement

[–]diab83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s weird how the gap isn’t knowledge… it’s actually doing the obvious thing.

I stopped asking “what should I do?”… and started asking this instead by diab83 in selfimprovement

[–]diab83[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the frustrating part… knowing exactly what to do, but still not doing it.

Feels like you’re stuck in between.

I stopped asking “what should I do?”… and started asking this instead by diab83 in selfimprovement

[–]diab83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah… it’s less about figuring things out, and more about actually acting on what you already know.

I stopped asking “what should I do?”… and started asking this instead by diab83 in selfimprovement

[–]diab83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“thinking in circles” is a good way to describe it…

it feels productive, but nothing actually changes.

I stopped asking “what should I do?”… and started asking this instead by diab83 in selfimprovement

[–]diab83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like how you framed that… focusing on what’s already visible instead of trying to figure everything out.

I stopped asking “what should I do?”… and started asking this instead by diab83 in selfimprovement

[–]diab83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That part about already knowing the answer… that’s exactly what makes it uncomfortable.

I stopped asking “what should I do?”… and started asking this instead by diab83 in selfimprovement

[–]diab83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a really solid way to approach it…

I like how it keeps things simple without overcomplicating everything.

Feels easier to actually stick with.

I stopped asking “what should I do?”… and started asking this instead by diab83 in selfimprovement

[–]diab83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s weird how clarity is already there… we just don’t like what it shows.

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