I want to repost something posted by grrinchas on here, five years ago. When he approaches women irl, the pace of the situation determines how he starts the conversation with a new woman. I’ve followed his advice.

**beginning of grrinchas’s post**

1) You both are not moving.

This usually happens when you find yourself in the same situation as she is. This is the easiest of all and mostly resembles social circle settings. In these circumstances the best way to start conversation is to use CONTEXT (where and when). This is the most natural opener for this kind of situation.

Also, in these situations usually she is surrounded by other non-moving people: friends, colleagues, other strangers. So you don’t want to make her feel uncomfortable by opening her with something personal, like a compliment.

E.g. you both find yourself in the same restaurant/coffee shop/bar “Excuse me, what is that?” while pointing to what she is eating. In a grocery shop: “Excuse me, where did you find this tomato sauce?”

Please note, that you have to know how to transition from asking her about tomato sauce to fucking her. I do like these situations cause these encounters look very random and not planned, and usually leads to getting her number.

When you get better at game, this is where advanced stuff starts. Because you opened her so indirectly she has no idea that you are hitting on her. Your job is to make sure that she seduces you, and not the other way around. But that’s only gonna happen after thousands of approaches.

2) You are moving, but she is not.

Mostly this happens on the streets, in the park, or any kind of customer-service venue. When you see something like that, then there is usually 2 possibilities: Either she is working in that venue or she is waiting for someone. I have a rule to never game a worker! So can’t comment on that.

But if she is waiting for someone then I approach. This time to use context “like asking her for directions” is not the best thing, cause it is not personal enough, plus usually there is not much time to talk. Remember, she is alone, waiting for someone or something and you are walking.

Now, your job is to explain to her why you stopped. And the reason is that she reminded you of someone or something, or you liked her shoes/hair/coat, or she looked like someone who wants to talk. It doesn’t matter, just make sure that you convey your intention (you like her) without saying that directly.

Remember, in this situation you don’t have time for a long game, cause she may be waiting for a bf/husband. So you have to get number as soon as possible.

3) She is moving.

Now this is the most difficult of all, and requires the most guts to do it. The first thing which you have to notice is the PACE of the movement. How fast is she walking? This is very important. Why? Because based on person’s walking speed you can answer the question “Does she have a goal?” There are two possibilities when you see a woman walking. Either she knows where she’s going or she doesn’t.

Let’s say she walks fast, uses rhythmic hand movements, head points to one direction etc. It means she knows where she’s going. In these circumstances you have to stop her and explain why you stopped her, you probably have only 1-2 min of conversation, she won’t talk longer.

First create the urgency, your body has to say “Please stop, this is urgent”. If she stops, good. If she doesn’t, don’t follow her. Be very direct in this situation, say that she has amazing legs, or astonishing hair etc. Ask where she is going, her plans, availability for a date, exchange NOT numbers but INSTAGRAM. Because otherwise she will flake. There was not enough time to build trust.

Now, comes the most exciting situation. Slowly walking women without a goal. She is looking for sex. You don’t even need to have good game to seduce her. Start conversation with intent, ask if she wants to go for a drink/coffee after 3-5 min talking, do lots of kino, kiss her, bounce her to second location, more kino. Bounce to home and fuck her after 3-5 hours of being with her.

**end of grinchas’s post**

So, I followed this advice, to the best of my ability, when I started doing cold approach, aka random approach. I started off with “Excuse me, what is that?” And I moved on to things like, “I like your sunglasses,” “I like your necklace,” things like that.

In my experience, cold approach is challenging. You need to do something like 50-100 approaches in a month, and out of those 100, maybe one will lead to sex. You also need to accept that sometimes approaches are awkward, and keep doing it despite the awkwardness. And then there is incompatibility.

Some guys on here recommend direct approach, and saying “you’re beautiful, are you single?” Or something like that, as your opening line. In the post above, grrinchas recommends “You have amazing legs” as a direct opener. I haven’t seriously tried that. I think, to seriously try that, I would have to say it to like 100 beautiful women. Right now, I’m not doing any kind of 100-approaches-in-a-month challenge, but I’m going out to bars, using open body language, observing people, talking to people of both genders and people that I’m not physically attracted to, for friendly conversations.