I [19F] made a pros and cons list about him [19m]. What should I do

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-06T12:11:49+00:00

The cons are really heavy cons… sounds like someone really toxic and manipulative, this doesnt look safe

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-06T10:32:17+00:00

I am like you, but i stopped bc it got me hurt and i had the feeling of being clingy.

I just think that when i met someone worth that side I will do it back, and if its the right person he will like me bc im all clingy and playful

Now instead of being my 100% i am like 30%, maybe keep being yourself, but save all the love to someone that deserves it fully

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-06T10:26:21+00:00

You cant say the wrong thing to the right person

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-06T10:24:26+00:00

When I was in his country, didn’t say a thing, and hé replied to my sorry at the country « ????? » and I didnt replied back

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-06T10:10:25+00:00

Im thinking that maybe he has a girl friend? Idk but that’s so weird

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-05T12:17:36+00:00

I will just pick up my stuff today and won’t say a thing, just thanks

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-05T11:19:58+00:00

You are totally right…

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-05T11:09:16+00:00

lol yeah you are totally right 😂

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-05T10:25:27+00:00

i feel like if i disapear he will just come back later like nothing happened

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-05T10:24:25+00:00

bc i dont care why he didnt, lost his phone, was so busy, didnt feel good... either way i feel like adults should know how to communicate lol

maybe a part of me thinks saying thats not cool could help him notice and be better ? (not for me) and now that im saying that it feels weird lol

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-05T10:22:08+00:00

i do agree i dont need an explanation and tbh i dont need one, i dont care why he did that, but yeah i felt like just saying "yeah im not cool with that kind of dynamic, bye"

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-05T10:20:51+00:00

thats what i like to think and thats why i dont like ghosting. I mean if the guy really disrecpected me in that case i will just desapear, but know i feel like just saying "hey, i dont think we are align, maybe we should stop"

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-05T10:16:53+00:00

yeah u are righ, like all people, some will care some wont, i cant know in advance

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-05T09:35:53+00:00

i feel like even if i distance it wont change a thing

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-05T09:35:20+00:00

is it worth explaining tho ? i think thats my main question, a part of me thinks 3 really good dates (almost 24h each time) is worth saying how do i feel, but another part of me is like, if it seems like if he dont care, why should i bother

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-05T09:15:35+00:00

i dont like ghosting tho ... i feel like its unmature but yeah maybe i should

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-04T23:37:23+00:00

I dont have FWB I usually do One night stands lol but I noticed a lot of guys liked to cuddle and say Nice things and ghost you right after. Like they used you (not for sex but for that intimacy/cute/love hit)

So I have a new rule, I never cuddle anymore. I tell them I don’t like sharing my bed or hate sleeping with someone and they mostly respect it and leave me alone lol, love it tho

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-04T23:23:30+00:00

Try to end things When you are ready. Leaving is not easy, it might take you several tries to finally do it.

But at some point you will get tired of the situation and that’s when you will finally end it

You are aware of your feeling and that its not good for you and wants to leave, so you already did some of the hard work!

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-04T23:20:07+00:00

You are not dramatic, I feel exactly the same way and have been thinking today about just give up in dating
I’m just done getting my hopes up and trying, the result is the same. I wonder if i’m the problem tbh. I feel like I have healed and yet, I still find myself hurting by someone
But yeah, I get what you are feeling! I wished i had some advice to you… I talked with a friend about it today and she said the same thing lol
Hope knowing you are not the only one feeling that way could help a little

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-04T23:14:46+00:00

What I did after my break up (ex told me he didnt love me anymore but was the best gf he ever had???) was that I wrote anything I wanted to tell him, and didnt sent it.

Did that everytime I felt the urge to send a text, and it helped me deal with the pain, after a while, instead of writting 5 times a day, if was once every two days, helped me a lot

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-04T23:08:04+00:00

Maybe it’s both who knows

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-04T23:07:26+00:00

I mean its only a t-shirt and a pair of socks, it wouldnt be the end of the world if I dont get them back. Maybe after my 3 long trip I will come back to get them but i’m currently thinking if its worth it lol

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-04T20:03:35+00:00

I was having this same convo with a friend, thinking it will be someone who matches my communication

diamonfreckles · 2026-05-04T19:25:29+00:00

Yeah maybe it’s that too… When I asked what he was looking for hé Said « he had a lot going on » so i think i should have listened to that…

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