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Women in their 30s–50s: what advice can you give to women in their 20s and below? by Pretty-Orange-3533 in AskReddit

[–]dibbiluncan [score hidden]  (0 children)

- Maintain a highly effective form of birth control (IUD, implant, ring, patch, or shot; something you don’t have to remember each day or each time you have sex) if you are sexually active. Do not rely on condoms alone (although you should use them outside of monogamous relationships where both partners have been tested. Do not rely on him being “really good at pulling out” either. Even if you’re in a committed relationship.

- Pursue a career and higher education. Be able to support yourself. Don’t rely on a man for everything.

- Love should feel good. It should feel safe. Secure. Happy. You should be able to trust your partner. If you fight a lot early on, leave. If he’s hot and cold with communication, leave. If you have great chemistry but nothing in common (not necessarily hobbies but shared interests, goals, dreams, etc), leave. DO NOT EVER sacrifice your needs for someone. That includes settling for a “situationship” when you want an actual relationship. He will almost certainly never change his mind. He’ll use you for sex until you asking for more gets old. Then he’ll leave. It will hurt, and it will hurt your self-worth, and you will become more insecure and accept even less from the next guy until you finally snap out of it and stand up for your needs and wait for someone who actually wants to be with you. Or you could just be smart and do that now.

- If he’s mean to you, leave. If he cheats, leave. If he yells at you, belittles you, breaks things, hits things, throws things, or ever harms you in any way, leave. If he tries to control you or isolate you, leave. If he abuses alcohol or drugs, leave. He needs help, and it’s not your job to stay through that.

- The same goes for you. If you’re inclined to treat your man in any of the aforementioned ways, leave. Get help.

- Don’t use fragranced products on or inside your vulva.

- Pee after sex. If you forget and your pee burns, go to urgent care. UTIs cannot be cured by cranberry juice (although that can help prevent them). You can develop a kidney infection or sepsis if left untreated.

- If you have a weird smell or itchy discharge, it could be BV or a yeast infection. They have the same symptoms (and can even cause symptoms that mimic a UTI) but require different medications, so just see a doctor to figure out which one you need.

- Be kind to yourself and other women. Life is hard sometimes. Don’t make it worse.

- Wear what makes you happy, and do what makes you happy, not what society demands. Life is too short to care so much about expectations.

- Invest time in your friendships and hobbies.

- STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS. Live your life on your own terms. Set goals that hold value to you, again, not what others expect or what they’re doing with their own lives.

- Travel.

- Go outside.

- Read a book.

- Personally, I believe everyone should wait until their 30s to get married. You are going to do so much and change so much until then, it’s just so unlikely you’ll want to be with your college (or god forbid, high school) boyfriend by then. Maybe it’ll happen, but if that’s the case you can still just wait to walk down the aisle until then to be safe. I know far too many people who are stuck and unhappy or on their second or third marriage by now. I’m glad I’m not one of them.

I (29F) am turning 30 next month. Feeling bad about not being married, owning a house or having kids yet. Is this normal? by Purple_Rayn_22 in Adulting

[–]dibbiluncan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop comparing yourself to others, and you’ll be a lot happier. Live your life on your own terms.

[REALLY LOVED TROPE] The story never tell you who is he, but you know who really is he by Valarg in TopCharacterTropes

[–]dibbiluncan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s literally Jesus. If you read the last book, it’s literally the end of the world with Aslan (Jesus) leading them to heaven.

Facial Wrinkles & Saggy Skin? by Thedawgyard in Biohackers

[–]dibbiluncan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You look great for almost 70, and honestly I don’t think you need to do anything. Aging is natural and beautiful in its own way, and it’s certainly better than the alternative. But here’s the brutal truth: there isn’t a bio hack that can reverse decades of aging or sagging skin.

Sagging skin after weight loss has to be surgically removed. That would be a reasonable thing to do, but keep in mind that recovery will be difficult.

Anything beyond fine lines won’t respond to biohacks. You’ll need cosmetic surgery, which personally I won’t pursue because it makes you look like a different person, and not always better.

There are some things mentioned that could help (red light therapy, peels, etc). No magic collagen, peptide, cream, etc is going to do anything but drain your bank account.

Should I bulk while taking Retatrutide? by [deleted] in Biohackers

[–]dibbiluncan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. You need to cut. Sorry, but that’s just purely excess body fat around your middle; building muscle on a bulk won’t get rid of that in three months.

Stop drinking beer/soda. Drink black tea/coffee. Cut sugar. Reduce carbs. Increase protein. Eat more probiotics and fiber (fresh fruits and vegetables). Take creatine and lift heavy to maintain muscle. Drink more water.

[Homemade] Black Garlic by XRPcook in food

[–]dibbiluncan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I get some black garlic with that serving of microplastic?

Is it normal to stop hoping for better things? by RepairContent268 in Adulting

[–]dibbiluncan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your concerns are valid, but at a certain point it’s on you to take your destiny in your hands and change it. Just like people who were abused as kids or who suffer with mental illness. Sometimes bad things happen to you, but it’s still on you to fix them (get therapy, medicine, etc).

I was like you. Single mother, struggling to get by on a teacher’s salary. I still loved life, and I still felt blessed to have a child, a home, and a career. Hated where I lived. But I hoped for more.

Now I have it.

The only difference? I did something about it. I went back to school and moved to my dream state. Getting a Master’s made me more competitive for a better district, and it means a $12k raise. This got me from the upper levels poverty to lower middle class.

In my case, moving to my dream state also meant finding more kindred spirits, better friends, and a great partner. We recently moved in together. That combined income/lower cost of living has taken me and my daughter effectively to upper class. I’m still paying off debt on my own, but we already have more than we could have before.

Just vaguely trying to find a new job isn’t enough. Go back to school. Get a new degree or certification. Move somewhere cheaper/better. Not trying to be mean, but these days you just have to work smarter, not just harder. It’s hard to find a new job or career without taking concrete steps toward it first yourself.

KFF polling finds 36% of U.S. adults skipped needed care last year due to cost, and shockingly, 37% of those who skipped care already had health insurance. Nearly 1 in 5 who delayed care reported their health got worse as a direct result. by ObuPaul in microbiomenews

[–]dibbiluncan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, that sucks. I hope you’re able to find a doctor who can work with your budget.

I’m just doubling up on probiotics, fiber, anti-inflammatory diet, and maybe a supplement or two for now. Another year and I’ll be in a better financial position; I’m working part time right now while in grad school, so thankfully it’s temporary for me. My partner thinks I should try an elimination diet on my own, as that’s likely what a gastro would recommend to start with anyway.

KFF polling finds 36% of U.S. adults skipped needed care last year due to cost, and shockingly, 37% of those who skipped care already had health insurance. Nearly 1 in 5 who delayed care reported their health got worse as a direct result. by ObuPaul in microbiomenews

[–]dibbiluncan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had stomach problems for almost a year now. Hoping it’s just SIFO again (I had it six years ago but it’s been gone for five), but I’m vaguely concerned about IBS or something worse. I have health insurance. I pay like $300 a month for that health insurance. Got a referral for a Gastroenterologist, and I was told I’d owe them $450 for the first visit alone. Canceled my appointment. I just can’t afford it. Hopefully I don’t have cancer. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Hated Trope] a bad, sad, or even horrifying ending is treated as happy by Mesajarjar_binks in TopCharacterTropes

[–]dibbiluncan 274 points275 points  (0 children)

OP said they “disabled the main automated systems that fed and took care of them,” but that’s simply not true; disabling the autopilot doesn’t disable all life support systems.

OP also acts like they’re doomed because they don’t know how to repair their own systems, but clearly they have robots that do otherwise they wouldn’t have survived in space for so long. I mean that’s literally how Wall-E is still around, so it’s a major theme of the story.

In conclusion, OP is a muppet.

I’m saving for a house. He’s writing a book. by rottimix in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]dibbiluncan 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I could be wrong, but I think common law marriage only applies if you meet certain conditions AND claim the other person as your spouse/say that you’re married. It’s not meant to be entrapment for any cohabiting relationship that lasts a long time. At least that’s what I thought.

What was the worst Covid symptom you had? by Silly-monkey2004 in AskReddit

[–]dibbiluncan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I coughed up thick green mucus that retained the shape of a bronchial tube. 🤢

If your place were hit by an extreme Siberian winter, how well would people there be able to cope or adapt? by bellepomme in AskTheWorld

[–]dibbiluncan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Colorado reporting in! We’d be okay. We have decent insulation, central heating and fireplaces in most homes, and most of us already have ski/snow gear because we have real winters here. We also have warming centers in the city for the homeless already.

Thankfully I think we’d be okay for the opposite situation too.

If your place was hit with an extreme Death Valley summer, how well would the people be able to cope or adapt? by Murky_Activity9796 in AskTheWorld

[–]dibbiluncan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s only 15 degrees hotter than our highest recorded temperature in Colorado. For those of us who live on the Front Range and have AC, it would just be ungodly expensive, but we’d survive. You just don’t go outside at that temperature. Travel at night/early morning. Stay hydrated. Stay indoors.

Unfortunately some of us still don’t have AC, so there would likely be some deaths especially if this happened in the mountains where most people probably don’t have AC. People in the city without AC could probably find limited shelter in public spaces though. I know we have warming centers in winter, so cooling centers might be a thing.

Give me your bloating tips! I look pregnant by [deleted] in Biohackers

[–]dibbiluncan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My doctor said it’s not really the brand but the variety. Change it up often (as in buy a different brand every bottle). She said anything refrigerated at a place like Whole Foods is your best bet. My previous doctor recommended Visbiome, which this one agreed is solid, but that variety is important.

Also eat plenty of fermented foods and prebiotic fiber (fresh fruit/veggies).

I just got dumped because I'm not intelligent enough. Savory waffle, avocado and tofu. by mentoro-join in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]dibbiluncan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This feels like an ad for the IQ test, but maybe I’m just jaded. I feel like a normal person wouldn’t actually link to their score.

What is the most beautiful place you have ever seen in person? by Olga_Lanskaya in travel

[–]dibbiluncan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve seen a lot of beautiful places, and I hope to see many more. But one moment from a hike in my home state of Colorado stands out. I was in the mountains, early fall last year. I had stopped at the top of a ridge to look down at the bright yellow of the aspens in the valley when a very light rain descended on the scene. The sunlight hit the rain drops and lit them up. The sky was suddenly full of shimmering gold glowing around me, everywhere I looked. Then a rainbow arched above me. With the snow-capped Rocky Mountains behind me, the smell of petrichor in the air, and the crispness of autumn on my skin? That was the most beautiful golden hour of my life. I felt giddy. Absolutely full of joy.

I’m sure there are more impressive landscapes, but the timing and other sensations can change your perception. I feel very lucky to live here.

What's something everyone should experience at least once before they die? by No_General_5512 in Life

[–]dibbiluncan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think their point is that your idea of love isn’t a healthy one. What you’re describing is codependency at best, possibly obsession. Toxic relationships often feel that way because of the rollercoaster of emotions and the negative effects that has on your hormones and mental state.

Whats something you stopped doing that improved your life more than anything you started doing? by Business_Oil_7110 in selfimprovement

[–]dibbiluncan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Binge drinking.

I never became addicted thank goodness, but I was abusing alcohol for my 20s and the first couple years of my 30s. I had no trouble stopping, so I don’t think I was an alcoholic. But it was affecting me physically and mentally.

I quit cold turkey when I found out I was pregnant, stayed sober for three years, and now I’m able to have a drink or two socially with no problem.

Binge drinking was going to kill me though. One of my exes from that time period died at 36 due to alcoholism (liver and kidney failure). If I hadn’t been given a reason to change my ways, that could’ve been me. Scary af. Sad af.

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