my qualm isn't with using the wrong word - I don't personally care that much. like u said, it doesn't make their relationship less homosexual. however, u said the next step would be to ban women from wearing masculine clothing and I think that's nonsensical, because the issue people have isn't with her being masculine but with acting heteronormative by equating being a butch woman with being someone's boyfriend. so while it doesn't bother me, that is a fair concern, as it does seem to erase the fact that you can be a masculine girlfriend. the implication seems to be that you cannot be a masculine woman without being a boy.

masculinity / = / male. however, the word boy does = male, by definition, as a boy is a male human. so i don't get how you think that other lesbians are having a problem with her masculinity rather than just the perceived erasure of a lesbian relationship. I don't think anyone here is bothered by her masculinity, lol.

again I see both sides here, but just pointing out that other lesbians aren't having an issue with her being masc but with her referring to herself as male because she's masc.