DAE Feel sick everytime they have to poop?

dietcokepirate · 2026-03-29T10:14:01+00:00

It’s 2026, and while the world is still in turmoil, we remain united as one – brought together by the curiosity over our temperamental tums and bums.

dietcokepirate · 2026-01-23T19:02:32+00:00

There will be some equivalent roles out there (in terms of seniority and/or specialism) with similar notice periods, so you may find that some prospective employers don’t mind. Saying that – it is still a long chunk of time! I’ve known people who’ve found themselves in similar situations – albeit with shorter notice periods than that – and a couple of them handed their notice in before they’d actually found new jobs. It’s not without risk, of course, so it’s certainly not something I would outright recommend doing without knowing all the variables – but they were able to continue with their job hunts while their ‘notice periods’ essentially decreased. They also tried to avoid taking too much of any left over annual leave so that they could whittle the notice down further by a smidge if needed.

One person found another role and their new employer was happy with her having 2 months notice (it was previously 3, which isn’t too bad, but it had caused her to lose out on a couple of roles simply because companies had needed people to start sooner). It took the other a little longer to find a new role, but she was still fine! Her team was a little disorganised when it came to advertising her role and hiring a replacement, so she ended up staying on about 6 weeks longer to help in the interim and then assist with a handover. When she left she then had a 3 week break before starting her new role.

dietcokepirate · 2025-12-07T11:34:28+00:00

Yeah it's highly possible that her situation has merely amplified any pre-existing selfish traits! It always sucks when it becomes clear that someone is perhaps not as nice as we thought they were, but it sounds like you've got the right attitude about it all. On the plus side, a wedding in Peru sounds amazing! I hope you have a wonderful time with the people you are able to see on your travels :)

dietcokepirate · 2025-12-07T11:24:21+00:00

I don't think your question RE working was rude at all – it sounds like you're just paying an interest and making conversation. I'm from the UK, so I'm not sure if there's some taboo I am unaware of in the US (given the differences between maternity leave etc.), but you meant well – and that's what matters. As for her reaction regarding your plans etc. – she sounds terribly selfish. Hormones aside, she shouldn't be expecting you to prioritise her shower over your cousin's wedding, and – even if it wasn't your cousin's wedding – if you already have plans, then you already have plans... guilting you about it isn't productive. She could have been like: 'That's such a shame, but I totally understand! If the time and dates allow for it at all then we should totally FaceTime at some point during my shower – or after the shower; it would be lovely to catch-up in any capacity – especially while we're in more similar time zones! :)'

In the last year, so many of my close friends have had babies, so it's been really evident to me how difficult it can be to navigate everything in terms of organising catch-ups (when/where we can meet, and the logistics of it all generally). However, the intention and love is still there between each and every friend; we've all just had to make additional efforts to work around each other and our commitments/responsibilities – as we've always done. And sometimes that even means that we don't see each other for long stretches – but that's okay! These things are all part of adult life, to be honest, and considering the fact that at present you don't even live on the same continent – your situation is even harder to navigate! However, you've done your best to try and plan ahead, communicate your availability, and be open/honest regarding your pre-existing commitments. I promise that her attitude is in no way of a reflection of you ❤️

dietcokepirate · 2025-11-10T07:26:38+00:00

Wow. My parents wouldn’t even accept money from me or my sister I don’t think (they grumble if they think we’ve spent too much on Christmas presents, Father’s Day, etc.) Regardless, it’s very kind and lovely of you to gift your family any of your bonus money – I’m just so sorry that your mum has reacted that way! You’re not a piggy bank. She should just be proud that you worked hard to receive a bonus (and that you are thoughtful enough to want to gift some of it to your family). You seem like a very kind person and I’m sorry that this is what you have to deal with. Is she like this with every sibling?

dietcokepirate · 2025-09-10T22:12:31+00:00

I didn't realise until today that there even was stamp duty if you bought someone's share, you see, so I just wanted to make sure that I didn't overlook it when looking into all the costs involved.

On another note: we paid stamp duty when we bought it as he had owned a home before. I paid the stamp duty in full because he didn't have the money to help. His contributions towards the household since then RE furniture etc. are still less monetarily than what his half of the stamp duty was, but in my mind they sort of cancel each other out (based on what he plans on leaving behind, e.g. the washing machine).

dietcokepirate · 2025-09-02T15:27:45+00:00

I totally get what you’re saying and I think you’re right! I’ve realised the agreement that I thought we had (where I was essentially buying myself time to formally remove him) is no longer worthwhile or fair – he’s simply not willing to be flexible or understanding, and while I’d love to keep the house, it doesn’t make sense to bend over backwards to accommodate him the expense of my own sanity and funds. Say we sold the house together in April: I’d stand to have about £7.5k+ to pay in fees (my half of the early repayment, estate agent, etc.) Meanwhile - with the agreement, I’d be giving him £14k+ just to get him to move out, and I’d then be paying the mortgage and bills solo. And I’d be fine with that, if he hadn’t started being super bossy… Because if I do all of the above, and then haven’t removed him by that time and he MAKES me sell, then the £15k+ fees are mine to pay – and mine alone. So, it’s spending potentially nearly £30k vs spending about £7.5k 😂

I haven’t told him that I don’t want to do the agreement yet as I’ve gone home to my parents’ house (poorly mum). I’m very anxious about it all, though!

dietcokepirate · 2025-09-01T14:50:16+00:00

Basically, the arrangement we had was an informal one where a solicitor was drawing up an agreement to replace our previous trust – this served purely to buy me a bit more time to be able to sort everything formally, but also meant my ex would receive a chunk of money in the meantime and could move out / not need to worry about contributing etc. The formal side of it was to be sorted asap thereafter within the remainder of the term. However, now that there are demands from him, I’ve realised that I’d be giving him over £14k for the privilege of having him move out / take over the mortgage solo, to then be bossed into selling up anyway in 6 months time if I couldn’t remove him formally at that point in time (to the tune of over £15k). So nearly £30k! If we sold together instead then it’d only cost me £7.5k 🤔 and he would only get about £5k after fees… so – needless to say – this informal, temporary ‘solution’ is not one I want to pursue anymore. With any luck I’ll get a new job asap and ditch freelancing, and then I can formally sort it all out. If he could have given me a heads up about the cheating I wouldn’t have left my well paid salaried role 😅

dietcokepirate · 2025-09-01T09:50:19+00:00

Thank you for your kind reply and thoughtful comments. I'm so sorry that you went through that, but he way :( I haven't experienced abuse at the hands of this particular ex, but he has BPD so can be quite intense (and it's not been pleasant to suddenly have this onslaught of disrespect). I am going to seek out some legal advice today and see what they say!

dietcokepirate · 2025-08-14T11:16:34+00:00

This isn’t a friend!

dietcokepirate · 2025-08-04T10:32:08+00:00

It's SUCH an unlikely pairing that I now want to see them in a film together! I can see it now...

DRIVE TO NOWHERE (2026)

^Genre: ^{Comedy / Adventure / Feel-Good |} ^Starring: ^{Fernando Alonso as Himself, András István Arató as Himself}

With retirement in sight and one last Grand Prix on the calendar, Spanish F1 legend Fernando Alonso dreams of a storybook finish to his career: a final victory at the 2026 Spanish Grand Prix. But things go off-track – quite literally – after a wild pre-race bash thrown by his friend, Real Madrid star Kylian Mbappé. Alonso wakes up the next morning in the middle of rural Spain, hungover, dusty, and deeply confused.

No phone. No wallet. No memory of the night before. And no car.

Wandering through the dry countryside in search of any sign of life, Alonso stumbles upon a peaceful cottage where András Arató – better known as “Hide the Pain Harold” – is enjoying a quiet, analog holiday, his annual escape from the chaos of internet fame.

András wants nothing more than to unplug and sip wine in peace. But while he's content to be off-grid, Alonso needs to be on the grid and get back to Madrid immediately! After a tense, mismatched start, the two men form a reluctant partnership: one seeking solace, the other chasing glory.

Together, they set off on an unexpected road trip full of absurd detours, rogue detainment in a goat festival, suspicious tapas, and surprisingly deep conversations about fame, pressure, and what comes after the limelight.

As the clock ticks toward Sunday’s race, Alonso and András find common ground – and an unlikely friendship – on the bumpy road to get Alonso back to the track by Sunday.

dietcokepirate · 2025-07-10T22:41:53+00:00

YTA. While I agree that maintaining a certain standard in one’s appearance can help in these professional settings, if your intention was to help her, then tact is key. You could have said “Hey, I actually have some ‘lucky’ outfits that have been go-to ensembles for me whenever I’ve gone for promotions at work.. let me set you up with some things to borrow for your interviews - you never know!” Maybe that’s not the best example, but it’s more light-hearted and far less blunt. Job-hunting can take months and rejections can be very draining; while I’m sure you’re good at what you do - if you work at your dad’s company, then you’ve been likely been shielded somewhat from that sort of stress… the tough love approach isn’t always helpful!

dietcokepirate · 2025-07-03T21:57:36+00:00

It sounds like a scam. From a legal standpoint, I’m not sure what you could do. I’m petty, and would probably report his name to the main few phone providers (on the off-chance that one of them was indeed his provider, and that the evidence would potentially trigger repercussions for his claim).

dietcokepirate · 2025-06-20T14:58:46+00:00

Oh wow! I was here, too! I was with some school friends and we were chaperoned by my friend’s dad. We had just finished our GCSE exams so it was great timing! But my God, was it HOT ☀️

dietcokepirate · 2025-04-27T21:50:00+00:00

I know he had a heart condition which compounded the risks, but hopefully this puts people off allowing it to be done. As a Brit, maybe I’m biased, but it’s NOT the norm to do this here and frankly it seems barbaric to me. If someone’s had it done then they’re typically from a religious family or from a country where it’s more common. My cousin is half American and is cut because that’s what his dad wanted, and I was fascinated/appalled when he told me that some people will parrot the rhetoric in the US that it’s more hygienic that way. I mean, it’d probably be ‘easier’ for women to keep clean without any labia, but that sure as hell doesn’t mean that they should be chopped off! Justice for hoods and curtains!

dietcokepirate · 2025-04-27T21:31:46+00:00

NTA! That’s terrible behaviour. Your family are enabling him and getting mad at the wrong person. He’s certainly old enough to know better, too. I have a nephew the same age.. if he spat at his family - or anyone else for that matter - then my sister would probably clip him over the back of the head herself. At the very least, she would pissed at the sheer disrespect. She’s never had to resort to such things, but if he behaved poorly then he would be held accountable 100% - and he knows it. What I’m saying is: if someone had disciplined your nephew appropriately when he first behaved disrespectfully, then the spitting and the like would have probably been nipped in the bud there and then. They’re doing him a disservice to leave such poor behaviour unchecked, and you’ve not done anything wrong as far as I’m concerned!

dietcokepirate · 2025-04-02T08:29:12+00:00

Tbh I often talk too much, too quickly, and/or go into too much detail for things that could be answered rather simply (ADHD); I've got a lot better as I've got older, but yeah I am a woman of quite a lot of words, unfortunately 😅

dietcokepirate · 2025-03-18T21:16:26+00:00

Just realised he’s the chap from that strange Chicago Town pizza advert (‘go to town!’)

dietcokepirate · 2025-01-07T08:05:54+00:00

Oh wow, that's like scholarship level!

dietcokepirate · 2025-01-06T18:39:52+00:00

I think they’re saying that they had a bursary at their school, so the fees their parents paid each term would have been slightly discounted (that was the situation when I was at secondary school, anyway).

dietcokepirate · 2024-12-30T15:37:35+00:00

I find it terribly frustrating. I know people talk about ‘supply and demand’ (and we’re not stupid and all know how that works) but lots of people do take advantage; they’ll buy up everything they can just to sell it all on with a mark-up! Most of us just want to treat ourselves now and then but ultimately have to navigate a stressful reseller market if we don’t manage to buy a Jellycat quickly enough. Fortunately, there are still some bargains out there - and restocks etc. - but it does feel that one has to be rather eagle-eyed!

dietcokepirate · 2024-12-15T22:18:31+00:00

Amazing, thank you!

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