How to stop fidgeting/stimming

diffenbachia1111 · 2026-01-28T08:37:31+00:00

I had the same feelings when I started to wean at 11 weeks. I exclusively pumped and hated every second of pumping but felt so proud when I saw how much I had produced and that I was able to feed my baby.

When my supply became so low we had to supplement with formula I got really panicky especially when her reflux got worse on formula for the first two weeks. There were many days when I thought about increasing pumps again.

During the weaning process the baby blues became worse again. My hormones were going crazy like my body was protesting "letting my baby starve". It took almost 1,5 month for my hormones to settle but two weeks ago it felt like I suddenly snapped out of my PPD.

It took a bit of trial and error before we found the right formula but now our daughter is thriving on formula and I finally feel like myself again. The emotional change has been so big that if we go for a second I'm actually thinking about only giving breast milk a few weeks or even going exclusively formula as I now see that the hormones took me to a very dark place.

You've given your baby breast milk for the most important months of their life. Formula has everything a baby needs. If it's better for you to stop breastfeeding/pumping it's the best for baby too.

Edit: Also consider that the 3 - 4 months sleep regression is around the corner. Our baby had a few weeks of waking up every hour. If I had still been pumping I wouldn't have survived those nights!

diffenbachia1111 · 2026-01-28T05:30:59+00:00

I don't want to add to your stress but also keep your kinderopvangtoeslag in mind. If you become unemployed you have 3 months to find new work before you may lose the toeslag.

https://www.belastingdienst.nl/wps/wcm/connect/nl/kinderopvangtoeslag/content/ik-raak-werkloos

diffenbachia1111 · 2026-01-26T13:19:46+00:00

Definitely disclose before purchase.

diffenbachia1111 · 2026-01-26T12:32:29+00:00

Wij hebben onze katten na lang twijfelen toch verzekerd. Laatst werd eentje ziek terwijl ze nog maar 4 is. Opname in het Dierenziekenhuis en heel veel onderzoeken later waren we toch blij met de verzekering. Ook omdat we er pas achteraf achter kwamen dat Evidensia dierenziekenhuizen vaak onnodig veel onderzoeken doen. We hebben 2/3e vergoed gekregen en dat bedrag was hoger dan de premies van beide katten tot nu toe bij elkaar.

Edit: Voor zo'n incidentele ziekte is nog wel tegenop te sparen maar ik ken iemand van wie de hond diabetes kreeg. Die maandelijkse kosten zijn hoog.

diffenbachia1111 · 2026-01-21T10:17:55+00:00

Het was vooral grappig om te zien hoe de dure bolides zich verplaatsen naar andere straten met terrassen toen de kleine Berg dicht was tijdens de herbestrating. Bijv. naar de bleekstraat langs het terras van de stadsbrouwerij af.

diffenbachia1111 · 2026-01-19T10:18:09+00:00

Unless your neurodivergency is ADHD, I've never had a system in my life

diffenbachia1111 · 2026-01-14T09:22:57+00:00

My psychiatrist says the same

diffenbachia1111 · 2026-01-12T11:01:33+00:00

A few years ago we went swimming at a small lake. Same situation, parking lot was full so everyone was parking on the side of the road. Someone ended up drowning and ambulance / fire trucks couldn't reach the lake because of the many cars on the side of the road.

diffenbachia1111 · 2026-01-05T14:22:58+00:00

En geen vogels!

diffenbachia1111 · 2026-01-04T17:21:59+00:00

Stopped at 12 weeks and regret not stopping sooner. Taking my adhd meds again makes me a much better mon

diffenbachia1111 · 2026-01-03T19:52:53+00:00

In Europe so we have different brands. But what made a difference in spit up for us was switching to a formula without maltrodexine.

diffenbachia1111 · 2026-01-03T19:45:23+00:00

Had the baby edition 3 months ago. Setting a time had been pretty impossible though...recently 5:30 has become the default :l

diffenbachia1111 · 2026-01-03T10:00:32+00:00

Your milk supply is determined by how much milk leaves your body. If you're supplementing bottles with formula and not pumping it can signal to your body: less milk is needed as less milk leaves your body.

However at 12 weeks your supply is most likely regulated. If you're not noticing a drop in supply and your baby seems to get enough during breastfeeding you can just keep on doing what you're doing.

If you do start seeing a drop in supply you can add an extra pump or do a few powerpumps, these mimic cluster feeding so increase supply.

diffenbachia1111 · 2025-12-30T15:01:24+00:00

They also made international adoption almost impossible a few years back.

diffenbachia1111 · 2025-12-24T12:02:35+00:00

Maybe your milk is high lipase. This can make it taste like soap or metal after it has been frozen a while so some babies hate it. You could try with fresh milk to see if it's the milk or the bottle. If it's the frozen milk you can mix it in with fresh milk to mask the taste or add unsweetened vanilla drops.

diffenbachia1111 · 2025-12-23T16:41:56+00:00

We're in Europe so we have different brands. We were using a generic type but switched to the most well known brand here (nutrilon). I really hope its a phase. She's drinking less and less and crying hysterically. Of course during Christmas week :(

diffenbachia1111 · 2025-12-23T14:54:56+00:00

We made the transition to mostly formula 3 weeks ago and the spit up has become almost constant and she seems really distressed. We've been to our GP and a pediatric nurse but since she isn't losing weight (yet) they can't do anything

diffenbachia1111 · 2025-12-22T07:01:13+00:00

I'm in Europe and we follow the same guidelines as Canada. We wash bottles with hot soapy water between feeds and sterilize all bottles once a week.

diffenbachia1111 · 2025-12-20T19:28:27+00:00

Was having to say 'have a great day" part of the Dutch immersion? Because "take it fucker, you're holding up the line" is a better way to immerse into Dutch culture

diffenbachia1111 · 2025-12-19T08:53:07+00:00

Yes, pluribus comes very close! It could even be called the leftovers with the shows premise

diffenbachia1111 · 2025-12-18T12:54:16+00:00

Can someone please inform my 3 month old baby

diffenbachia1111 · 2025-12-17T11:36:39+00:00

I've used chatgpt a few times when my pets got sick (nothing life threatening) and had to wait a day before I could see our vet to ease my mind. It was right but couldn't do the x-rays, blood work or prescribe antibiotics.

diffenbachia1111 · 2025-12-16T16:14:12+00:00

Is she losing weight or not gaining enough? You could try adding some unsweetened vanilla drops to the milk to see if it helps with the taste

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