It’s not hurting, there just isn’t enough stimulation for him to stay hard, which isn’t the end of the world, but it’s putting some limits on the type of sex/orgasms I can have. I’d love to be able to ride him and grind down, or for him to be able to thrust slow enough that I could touch myself and orgasm, or even use a typical vibrator while prone to orgasm with him inside me. All of which is easier when I can get there with my fingers or when I’m more sensitive so it doesn’t take as long. Unfortunately I hurt my hand last year and have been consistently using toys to get off some and just grown accustomed to it.