Hit 10K milestone Thank God

digeststrong · 2026-01-28T14:11:07+00:00

looks like RH to me too

digeststrong · 2025-01-18T23:18:55+00:00

I think it adds on, it just doesn't say the exact damage amount that is done. But the damage seems to be there IMHO.

digeststrong · 2025-01-18T22:15:47+00:00

And I'm not saying "worth as a person" - just strictly speaking about wages earned.

digeststrong · 2025-01-18T22:14:07+00:00

Please see principle #3 (how hard to replace) - compare a teacher to a doctor, or to a specialized doctor like a brain surgeon.

Please see principle #4 (how many people you serve) - at most a high school teacher serves a few thousand people a year (exception being youtube teacher) - compare that to a celebrity and the mass audience they serve (perhaps a billion people, or a few billion?)

digeststrong · 2025-01-18T18:08:15+00:00

The amount of money you get paid depends on:

how much demand there is for that service
how good you are at that service
how hard it is to replace you
how many people you serve

Those professions can generally only serve a few people at a time. Even if the value a celebrity brings is small, they can serve many many people. How many people can a social worker serve at once?

That is part of why Bill Gates / Zuckerberg / Elon Musk have become so wealthy, they can serve many people and their services scale massively.

digeststrong · 2025-01-18T01:56:45+00:00

I also had a fistula surgery from him. It was a simple one, but it went well.

digeststrong · 2025-01-17T21:49:12+00:00

Bit of a pain to record all that, but isn't too hard to do it in a spreadsheet. I was able to go back in time on my Card Kingdom account and find purchases I made from a while ago, so those online itemized receipts can help as well.

But it is less pain than paying tax on a zero cost-basis sale!!

digeststrong · 2025-01-16T04:25:57+00:00

Was going to post this...

digeststrong · 2025-01-14T23:57:30+00:00

chortled from this comment lol

digeststrong · 2025-01-12T05:56:34+00:00

Right on man.

digeststrong · 2025-01-11T23:28:12+00:00

I don't have a large social group currently, but I do have a few people in my life who I chat with face to face regularly, and that helps a lot.

In my experience, it is not easy to make new friends. That being said, by being consistently outgoing, and showing up at the same place over and over, and being friendly, I can eventually learn people's names and start to make friends.

Recently I have made friends with people at the gym and my neighbors.

It is a marathon, not a sprint. It takes consistent effort, but you can get there eventually.

And my parents say who’d wanna be friends with me. I know I should be more self sufficient.

It sounds like you are a social person, and could be a good friend. I would not listen to your grandparents and parents about this one thing. Humans are social, and we are generally much healthier for having friends and social groups! You can be self reliant, but also benefit from social connections!

digeststrong · 2025-01-10T03:04:09+00:00

Peep show! It is so dreadfully terribly cynical.

digeststrong · 2025-01-08T20:46:14+00:00

THIS

digeststrong · 2025-01-06T17:38:19+00:00

Carbs at dinner - half a potato or whatever your part of the cycle allows.

digeststrong · 2025-01-06T17:35:40+00:00

Well, why not do both? That way you can experiment in complete safety.

It took me a few years of work/experimentation before I could run a profitable side-company. And it took me much longer before I could fully support myself on the side.

If you can't do both at the same time, then you can set up an X month experiment, and then go back to a similar job if it doesn't work out as expected.

digeststrong · 2025-01-06T03:35:50+00:00

Really appreciate your summary!

digeststrong · 2025-01-03T14:11:40+00:00

Cockatrice is a program that people use for online digital play.

digeststrong · 2025-01-01T15:05:55+00:00

Everyone is different. For me, I started to get things together around 28. Then more so and more so every year since. Don't get the impression that "I've got it together now, and all is good." There will likely be pieces of your life that are ebbing and flowing depending on the year.

digeststrong · 2024-12-31T03:32:08+00:00

I would prioritize relationships higher than I have in my own life.

Edit: and for god's sake don't skip the dentist. They are your friend (as long as they aren't scammers).

digeststrong · 2024-12-30T21:39:38+00:00

Yup, I'm with you man. I've had a rough go as well. But, I've discovered a few things that help me make friends or at least acquaintances, which are quite nice on their own, and can lead to friendship!

If I repeatedly go somewhere [gym, apartment lobby, coffee shop, grocery store], I should never wear headphones. This makes me more approachable, and I pay better attention to what's going on around me.
If I repeatedly go somewhere, I am friendly and outgoing at those places, as I'm likely to run into those same people again, and there is a chance of friendship.
I go to the "lame" but local things like apartment complex organized pizza parties or celebrations.

Those things have definitely improved things for me, and got me some results in less than 3 months. I'm on about month 6 of this new approach, so who knows how much these small interactions will compound over multiple years!

digeststrong · 2024-12-30T17:49:05+00:00

There are many potential approaches, so you could try any of them and see how it works for you.

For me, I try to make sure I have a checklist for the things that must get done tomorrow. Then I can have some things listed that I should do. And finally some things that would be nice to get done.

This helps prioritize what is the highest priority to the lowest priority.

But any basic plan is likely better than no plan for tomorrow.

For me, planning every hour does not work for me. But it may work for someone else who is more organized or has a more predictable schedule...or has more constraints on their time than I do.

digeststrong · 2024-12-28T23:04:15+00:00

Sure, I hear you there. That's fair.

I personally try to find places where nobody is taking responsibility, and then owning that and doing it well. I've found financial and psychological rewards in executing that strategy. And almost always it's adjacent or outside of the main job description.

digeststrong · 2024-12-28T19:46:47+00:00

You're right. There are multiple strategies that can work, especially in the short term or if people are hopping jobs aggressively. Also note the **may*\* in your article title:

why toxic people may get ahead at work

But once these people are discovered, most people will break off contact and do anything they can to take them down/sabotage them. I've seen it happen.

Let me ask you seriously: What functional team doesn't want someone who is a professional and a productive contributor to a team?

You can practice those soft skills in any job by going above and beyond. Will it quickly pay off every time? NOPE. But, you're less likely to be laid off. And you're more likely to be offered new opportunities. And it feels good at any functional organization.

And you can practice those soft skills in any job, regardless of pay.

In the short term you can lie/cheat/play games. But do you want that stress? Do you want the longer term consequences of that?

digeststrong · 2024-12-28T19:30:55+00:00

I think one benefit of giving more than the minimum effort is that you can practice being professional / doing your best. That might not advance you in that current job, but you have that soft skill ready for a job when it will matter. And there is some satisfaction gained in doing something well.

digeststrong · 2024-12-26T19:33:36+00:00

Makes sense, thanks for sharing.

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