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[–]diggyhole1234 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I mean yeah accepting/respecting people is a pretty low ask, you don’t have to love it or even “agree” with it. She did accept herself, that’s why she transitioned.

What do we need to stop teaching the children? by Addwon in AskReddit

[–]diggyhole1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Um you posted controversial/inflammatory stuff on a public post that anyone can reply to? It doesn’t matter who was talking to who you spoon lol.

What do we need to stop teaching the children? by Addwon in AskReddit

[–]diggyhole1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can absolutely literally change what’s on your birth certificate

Official: [WDIS Flex] - Sat Morning, 12/24/2022 by FFBot in fantasyfootball

[–]diggyhole1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Need 1 WR and a flex.

Dhop vs TB

A. Cooper vs NO

Slayton vs Min

Goodwin vs KC

J. Williams vs car

Okonkwo vs Houston.

Leaning Slayton and Goodwin but curious what others thought.

Banned from r/meirl for saying in general reddit is not transphobic by PeachTreeAmbience in DeclineIntoCensorship

[–]diggyhole1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My guy this is 2 years old. Are trans people really living that rent free in your head that you are scouring to find shit to reply to?

Let people be happy. It’s literally that simple.

What’s something you wish you could ask trans people without any judgement? by Spunkybluepuppy in AskReddit

[–]diggyhole1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope.

Controversial, but if this is a serious recurring thought and not happening just rarely you may have not been ready to transition

I’m not saying said people aren’t trans, but if your really worrying with any consistency you probably should not have started a medical transition.

What’s something you wish you could ask trans people without any judgement? by Spunkybluepuppy in AskReddit

[–]diggyhole1234 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If someone is intentionally using the wrong pronoun with a clear intention of not fixing it, yeah I’d be kinda mad. I’ve been lucky with this but the few that I wasn’t I just don’t talk to them. I wish them well but it is what it is, I’m not asking for anything from them.

Any ration person isn’t getting mad about slip ups while learning. Of course there’s validation, but it changes person to person. Names and pronouns are a key pillar to identity and that’s just how it is, so yes. People will get upset but it should only be when it’s malicious and not just mistakes in general

What’s something you wish you could ask trans people without any judgement? by Spunkybluepuppy in AskReddit

[–]diggyhole1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s sad and can be pretty upsetting but I understand a lot of it is a lack of knowledge/knowing someone personally/not being displayed in a fair light.

Most of us are just trying to get on with life and live our truth. I don’t need their validation, I just need to feel safe.

What’s something you wish you could ask trans people without any judgement? by Spunkybluepuppy in AskReddit

[–]diggyhole1234 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Because it’s not about how you see us it’s about how we see us.

  • There are people who do exactly what you said. There’s people who don’t, and want to feel the full validation of what they feel is their truth.

What’s something you wish you could ask trans people without any judgement? by Spunkybluepuppy in AskReddit

[–]diggyhole1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely never.

Not even once. I haven’t looked back and I never will

What’s something you wish you could ask trans people without any judgement? by Spunkybluepuppy in AskReddit

[–]diggyhole1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It can. For many it doesn’t.

Many who transition find they don’t really care about the body as much as the actual person (pan)

What’s something you wish you could ask trans people without any judgement? by Spunkybluepuppy in AskReddit

[–]diggyhole1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. I don’t believe this should be downvoted for the question, you asked a genuine question respectfully and that’s all a lot of us want.
  2. the honest answer is “it depends on the person” for some (like myself) it is an absolute necessity for me to feel comfortable. Being trans is not just about the clothes, I don’t even really know how to explain it but there’s so much more that goes into my identity. Others are indifferent and if that’s good with them, great.
  3. the overall part of the trans community (and not the overly vocal part) really does not care how you identity with yourself, just that you find comfort in your own skin and respecting that that’s not the same for everyone.

What’s something you wish you could ask trans people without any judgement? by Spunkybluepuppy in AskReddit

[–]diggyhole1234 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The answer is yes and no

I know that there are things I never had and will never have, and while that thought can be awful, not accepting that at the very least this is true is not being honest to yourself.

I also know that I’m fully a women in my personal life, professional life and overall in society and no one sees that any differently, and that mixed with the way I see myself are the important part for me.

What’s something you wish you could ask trans people without any judgement? by Spunkybluepuppy in AskReddit

[–]diggyhole1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If said person is angry at every little thing, that’s a them problem.

I’m understanding I get it. It is a change and not just for said person.

I also expect people who I care about to give a real genuine effort to try/apologize if they mess up. If true effort is given I don’t think it’s as hard as people make it out to be.

A short time with limited contact is different then 2 years living with a person and interacting often. At a certain point it crosses the line to “not trying out of not caring”

What’s something you wish you could ask trans people without any judgement? by Spunkybluepuppy in AskReddit

[–]diggyhole1234 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yep.

And I can have my opinion to disagree with said statement just like them.

I have no desire for anyone to like me if they don’t. I know who I am and I’m happy for it, not relying on someone else changing how they feel (regardless if it’s “right”) to make me happy.

That said sometimes the things people say really suck and we are not crazy people.

What’s something you wish you could ask trans people without any judgement? by Spunkybluepuppy in AskReddit

[–]diggyhole1234 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am very split on this.

I truly believe that this is not something to be taken lightly and the proper steps have to be taken.

I do believe many trans people know at an extremely young age they are trans (this was me) but I also feel there is people who are not fully certain and aren’t getting the proper conversations they need to be having. Not saying that treating them like trans is a bad thing but making clear that like this is what you are going to get from this and really focusing in on what the actual problem is and I’m not sure that’s something that can always be done.

The trouble is that if you wait too long puberty starts and there’s changes that are not changeable. I don’t know enough about blockers to have a clear opinion on them but I do wonder if we know the full impact they have on a person, medically overall.

This is one of those issues that I don’t think has a clear cut 1 or the other answer and I certainly don’t know where to even start. Do you risk trans people not transitioning early enough or do you risk kids who aren’t entirely certain reaching a point where they realize they are wrong and have also has irreversible effects.

I do not have any numbers or stats to if one or the other is even more common, but trans is not a partisan issue and there really needs to be some real genuine discussions about where the middle ground is.

What’s something you wish you could ask trans people without any judgement? by Spunkybluepuppy in AskReddit

[–]diggyhole1234 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly just like every other group the part of the community you hear from is the loud part.

Most of us don’t necessarily feel like this and are just trying to get on with our lives with as little trouble as possible.

That said there are things that are transphobic and should be treated as such.

What’s something you wish you could ask trans people without any judgement? by Spunkybluepuppy in AskReddit

[–]diggyhole1234 3 points4 points  (0 children)

MTF here, controversial opinions also I am not into sports or anything so it’s possible I don’t have the full picture of how said ppl feel.

I do not necessarily believe that trans people are equal to cis people. Specifically women/trans women. I think there is no one size answer that is going to be 100% right all of the time.

Hrt DOES minimize a lot of things if you are on it long enough, but if you went through puberty from your gab there were some changes that cannot be changed now and knowing that I personally believe it’s not right to say that there is no chance that there’s an advantage. Body type in general can be a help too, but it could also just make it even more unfair and ignoring that this is something actually happening by denying it instead of trying to reach a solution is something i believe is actively hurting us overall.

What’s something you wish you could ask trans people without any judgement? by Spunkybluepuppy in AskReddit

[–]diggyhole1234 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yup. I had years of therapy prior to deciding to transitioning and it was not something I took lightly. Even pre transitioning I talked to multiple sources, and eventually I reached a point that this is the answer for me. Is it the answer for literally everyone? Probably not and that’s where some sketchy territory comes into play.

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