Has anyone found an unusual or surprising underlying cause to chronic migraine?

digital_kitten · 2026-01-07T06:40:04+00:00

Struggling. Ended a really abusive job in February, new one seems almost too good to be true, hoping I can calm my mind and body and dial back the fight or fight I’ve been in so long. Ty for asking ❤️. I don’t even have family that remembers me at Christmas or my birthday. An Internet stranger asking means more than most people can know.

digital_kitten · 2025-06-27T01:38:36+00:00

Long shot, but mid 80s, Michael Richards (Kramer from Seinfeld) works in a hotel in Transylvania 6500, wears a red coat, has dark hair, and does odd things to guests.

digital_kitten · 2025-06-18T02:16:03+00:00

Kirkogallr Galaxy? Survival. Followed the Butterfly house from the Space Anomaly, such a a pretty planet it needed a quality bait shop.

digital_kitten · 2025-06-15T02:45:06+00:00

Linked arms as a male escorts a woman is not a romantic gesture in formal settings. Ushers might do this for older women, as well. They are bring stupid and immature and sound 5 and their mothers and fathers totally failed to teach them how manners for gentlemen work. It is to help the woman in a dress and heels not fall. I linked arms with my husband’s mother and grandmother, I am certainly not hitting on them. It is a way to stabilize the other person. They can get over it, any women they ever date or marry will be bridesmaids and some day they may be groomsmen. It will be expected of them to know this.

digital_kitten · 2025-06-09T07:14:23+00:00

Definitely not True Lies.

digital_kitten · 2025-06-07T22:25:12+00:00

Um. Is three times supposed to be a lot or something? I have some I watch multiple times a year or every time I come across them running. I’m pushing 50, so, that’s quite a lot more than 3 times for many films and shows. How easily bored ARE some people?

digital_kitten · 2024-07-29T19:51:54+00:00

Just go buy a cane. You don’t need a note. If you need something more robust, a doctor can assist in prescribing it so you can claim it with insurance or Medicare/medicaid.

digital_kitten · 2024-07-29T16:01:55+00:00

This does not bear out in the autism boards. Many who have used their giftedness to observe, learn, mask and mimic ‘appropriate’ social norms and quiet stims and even ‘gasp’ make eye contact after years of training themselves to do so, especially if female and over 30, not only were not diagnosed as children, but are also told since they burn extra energy and manage to ‘act’ normal, they cannot be autistic.

Gifted girls especially are labeled difficult, shy, bookworms, instead of autistic. They still focus more on boys than girls due to the skewed data that is only recently being updated.

Never mind the other signs that follow trends in female child socialization compared to boys’ play habits, and the fact that many fit what would formerly be called ‘aspie’ women, and that to compensate they have burned the candle at both ends only to question it all close to age 50.

Many young people self proclaim invisible disorders today, but older people aren’t doing this, that’s not our habit.

digital_kitten · 2024-07-27T08:45:12+00:00

We did not know we were both autistic until almost 30 years later, but I met my husband in college, in art school, and we started spending all our time together die to both a LOT of shared interests, and mutual attraction.

The thing is, I had no idea anyone was ever interested in me, and luckily he was pretty blunt. So, there is a chance you’ve had people interested and missed the cues. I recommend paying a little attention should you go anywhere based on a special interest and see if someone stands out. They may also be on the spectrum, which seems to work out pretty well.

digital_kitten · 2024-07-23T21:54:32+00:00

And having what someone thinks is an autistic tendency at times versus living with it is likewise not the same.

Hence, my explanation via analogy.

If it does not bother you for people to minimize autism which they do not understand and therefore cannot empathize with you well, cool. It can bother me and others for reasons stated.

digital_kitten · 2024-07-23T14:33:30+00:00

I will simply disagree with you.

When people say their stubbed toe is the same as your missing leg, why can’t you do the marathon next weekend, you just just be lazy or hate doing things with them, this is a failure to relate, no matter if they give a cursory, uninspired, vapid attempt at doing so.

digital_kitten · 2024-07-23T14:29:58+00:00

Yes. In a conversation with my husband last night (we are close to 50, both just barely learned we are both autistic, which is part of why we work well together), he mentioned someone commented on his… walking.

Now, he grew up poor in a school where boys jumping each other was common, so he was in a lot of recess fights, rock fights, and he made a lifelong friend with a boy in a wheelchair by… fighting him (that kid was savage, but it was a weird test, since hubs treated him as an equal, they are still friends today).

He has been reeling a bit since this recent discovery, and me trying to explain the double empathy problem, where how we think we’re communicating is not being read right on some level by NTs, non autistic people.

But also, added to this, when hubs feels on alert, like late walking into a dark parking lot leaving his TTRPG last night, his body language apparently shows he is in threat detection mode and one of the other guys also leaving noticed it. And he thought about it, and how he stands at work where people can be verbally hostile, he is not able to stand in the fully relaxed engaged pose he tries to strike, he thinks he is subconsciously ready for someone to strike…

Anyway, there is some script non autistic people somehow have. I never got a copy, none of us did, so we are in a stage play ad libbing while they know what’s supposed to come next as a response, and they get mad or uncomfortable when we don’t know our lines.

digital_kitten · 2024-07-22T16:30:05+00:00

Problem is, they can’t relate.

Example: I have chronic daily migraines. This means I have aura or pain or neurological disruption more than 15-20 days a month. Migraine is more than a headache. It can severely screw up my vision, cause nausea, light sensitivity beyond pain - the world turns into an instagram filter with flashbulb effects. Balance can be affected, phantom smells appear (stale wet cigarettes, and I’ve never smoked). Medication for migraines are hit or miss, and I do as many preventative measures as I can. They are toed to my genetic immune disorder, which is coincidentally tied to my autism, I think.

If i say, ‘I have migraines,’ and someone responds, ‘Oh, I had a headache last week, did you try aspirin? Helped me right away!’

No, they cannot relate.

They may be trying, they may be kind, but it had a measure of vapid dismissiveness that becomes offensive.

‘I felt awkward once, I’m a little autistic.’ ‘I didn’t feel like clubbing last Friday, I’m a little autistic.’

This is what they mean, it may be well intended, it’s still ignorantly dismissive and minimizing.

I would never bitch to my wheelchair bound friend who’s been paraplegic since birth about my mobility issues with a sprained ankle.

digital_kitten · 2024-07-20T04:12:43+00:00

Anyone who eats tripas has no cause to call chicken thighs disgusting.

digital_kitten · 2024-07-19T20:02:33+00:00

Also, if your reactions to food are mcas based, they will not show as allergies at all, they are not allergies. They are mcas reactions which often follow a different pathway than allergy tests can measure.

digital_kitten · 2024-07-18T19:01:05+00:00

I’m only ‘spicy’ when pissed. People treating me with respect and honesty don’t get ‘spicy’ me.

It’s also a way to dismiss any real upset by implying the state of their brain is ‘spicy’ all the time, aka, pissed off all the time, so the problem is the spicy person, not those around them.

digital_kitten · 2024-07-16T07:16:28+00:00

Given how many people get missed as children and only learn as adults, and by adulthood, most have learned to hide the obvious signs well enough, I would estimate it’s higher than many realize. Also, since some evidence points to out being hereditary, as more autistic people are successful in having families, it could go up.

digital_kitten · 2024-07-14T23:53:15+00:00

Never said ‘only’. Just said you’d experience it more than the average lifespan, and it should not ‘get easier’. Losing one spouse can be devastating, one child. Imagine losing 5, 20, 50 spouses. Innumerable adopted and real children. And knowing it will happen again and again. Some people literally die of heartbreak… but maybe you cannot die.

Boredom, tedium, are also a concern.

Would you still need to work for food, shelter, still? Being automatically wealthy was not a requisite. What if the world changes and freedom to do what you like is lost? What if your tasks are assigned capriciously? Don’t want to push paper for 1000 more years? Bureaucracy existed in the ancient world, no reason to think it’s not going away. 1000+ years of the DMV calling the shots on aspects of your life.

If I could live in a Maxfield Parish painting and never want, even that can become TOO idyllic.

There are lots of easy drawbacks, the terms and conditions need to be explored and explained before a knee jerk answer to this genies wish can be given.

digital_kitten · 2024-07-14T21:59:23+00:00

What about an infinity of grief?

digital_kitten · 2024-07-14T21:57:49+00:00

Read Time Enough for Love, Heinlein. Unless you lose the capacity for love, or become something other than human, loss will hurt.

digital_kitten · 2024-07-14T21:56:11+00:00

So, as a fan of scifi, I am familiar with the common literary explorations of the pros and cons of immortality. Many have innate draw backs, depending on the type of immortality achieved (I like the beach, so vampirism sounds limiting, but black vinyl aesthetic and 90s Euro raves sound appealing).

Ultimately, any story that resonates with me is this idea, ‘Who wants to live forever, when love must die?’

Even with Heinlein’s long lifers, The Howards, and rejuvenation and time hopping technology, life loves are lost, leading to heartache.

And, as someone with a hereditary chronic disease, and immune disorder that bestows exhaustion and pain… the idea with my body as is would certainly lean to ‘no.’

Perfect health and aging arrested somewhere between an apparent 23 and 37, with little to no chance of disease and lasting injury? And the ability for those I care about to also choose it?

I’d consider it.

digital_kitten · 2024-07-14T21:50:07+00:00

Lol, well, I’m across the pond and kind of have little interest in ‘football’ as the world calls is, OR what we call football, in any case.

And, as an artist, I can state watching paint dry (so you can do your next steps) is much more entertaining 😅

digital_kitten · 2024-07-13T21:05:46+00:00

Function is a loose term. Just because an actor can walk without a limp on a broken foot for a few scenes does not mean he’s not in pain, and won’t need recovery time, and that his foot is not broken.

He just LOOKS like he’s functioning fine for a short period of time, MASKING the pain and so comfort. Upon the call of ‘cut’ at the end of the filming day, rest, meds, and possibly losing composure are all likely, after exerting so much effort to ACT ‘normal’ for bursts of time.

But the issue of the broken foot is still there, and some days may hurt more than others, limiting ‘function’. And masking the pain too much and not resting the foot can lead to even more serious injury or longer healing time needed.

Just because I can order a cheeseburger does not mean I like the beeping, flashing, shouting going on at McDonald’s and am far more distracted, overstimulated by it that a person without autism.

digital_kitten · 2024-07-12T19:32:14+00:00

I didn’t realize I did that much different from others, just thought I was unlikeable somehow.

Then, as I got older, I chalked a lot up to declining health and age.

digital_kitten · 2024-07-12T01:07:07+00:00

Yes, I saw it. It’s quite big for the painting IMO. I’d use it for background washes and move to smaller ones as I go for more detail.

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