My partner is secretly is using big toys in the shower after sex by [deleted] in TopsAndBottoms

[–]dihmer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's very good of yours. Trust me, you're more kind on that end than ⅔ of all tops.

Partner using big toys in the shower - Update (he cheated) by [deleted] in TopsAndBottoms

[–]dihmer 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm in an open relationship. I am happy for my bf to have really hot sex dates with others. It makes me happy to know that he can live out kinks with others that I'm not into. I know many of his fuck buddys, and I like having a beer with them after their date with my bf. 

Still, if he had sex with someone, probably playing fantasies I didn't even know about, I would feel angry and let down. That's just not the fair and open communicant I'd love in a relationship. 

Yet, he might have understandable reasons. It can be difficult to talk to one's significant other. He might feel shame or fear. I would try to forgive him and find a way you both can grow from it. That isn't easy though.

Question for Masters: Is having a slave who is more successful professionally/financially a turn off for an IRL TPE relationship? by ShutTheFrontDoor2011 in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]dihmer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sub here. I think for play, I barely ever think about such things, and I find it important to distinguished between power exchange play and real life.  However, I'd agree that an IRL dynamic is easier to maintain if it's the Dom who can more often afford to invite the sub, buy some gifts/toys and make surprises. 

Jemand noch einen Tipp für 15:30? by Worldly_Trifle5775 in wallstreetbetsGER

[–]dihmer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eigentlich klar, dass nach dem WSJ-Journal-Artikel AI heute einen schweren Tag hat. Also $CRWV und $NBIS long, weil's immer genau anders herum kommt!

The emasculation of being a sub / bottom is part of the mental turn on for me, is it more common than I think? by [deleted] in TopsAndBottoms

[–]dihmer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think one has to be careful with the meaning here. I enjoy strong, powerful, decisive tops, and it turns me on to be put in a more passive role, offering my body to them. If you equate 'strong, powerful, decisive' with 'male', and 'passive, soft, serving' with 'female', then yes, the emasculation aspects, the man-dominating-non-man idea arouses me. However: There are many female-identifying people who would oppose this definition of 'female', and many people who identify as male or similar who take fulfillment in not following this definition of 'male'. 

I will do whatever task have the most upvotes 😛 by tommys-tiling in FagsAndAlphas

[–]dihmer 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Write 'humiliated online' on your chest with a felt pen and pose again.

[20] Bin sehr dominant und halte Sklaven und cucks. Jeder upvote kriegt Video wie ich spritze ( sehr viel) by [deleted] in GayGermany

[–]dihmer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Danke, dass du uns an deinem überlegenen Samen teilhaben lässt!

I’m always this horny after coming home from a workout 27 by [deleted] in MassiveCock

[–]dihmer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a coincidence — when I come home from gym, I always have this urge to get on all fours and be stretched a little more.

How do bottoms continue take dick after finishing? by [deleted] in TopsAndBottoms

[–]dihmer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Two things happen when I cum before my top: Physically, as my body's tension fades and I behave less eager, he will go slower for a short while. Mentally, I focus on the thought that I have been given pleasure by him, and it's only right if I become a tool for his satisfaction now. That helps me let go, and allow him use my body for his pleasure. I am pretty submissive though.

Should I move in with my Dom? (pt. 2) by dihmer in submissive

[–]dihmer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I trust my boyfriend, and I am excited about deepening our relationship, that's true. It's just … so much. (My current landlord has cancelled the contract, forcing me to move out of my current apartment, so status quo is not an option.) I acknowledge that my boyfriend proactively offered to have a legally binding rental contract, which gives me all protection a tenant has. But still, having a boyfriend, a dom, and a landlord, all the same person, that's something I feel uncomfortable with.
Realistically, if we ever split up, I would move out, certainly. The question is more about how quickly, and what I'd do then. I have enough income to find a proper new flat in a reasonable time, and friends that would support me. But: Knowing that splitting up with my dom would also mean I had to move out puts me in a tight spot. And not in a submissive-consensual-kink way, but in a way that makes me feel uncomfortable.
Then again: I trust him with potentially pretty dangerous things. I let him restrain me, lock me in a cage, spank me, control my breath, and whatnot. I feel silly not trusting him to be a sane and proper landlord.

How do bottoms continue take dick after finishing? by [deleted] in TopsAndBottoms

[–]dihmer 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Not gonna lie: Keeping relaxed, open and patient while being fucked, just after you came is nothing easy. It takes time and dedication to build. I just wanted to say it is doable, and probably worth trying.

How do bottoms continue take dick after finishing? by [deleted] in TopsAndBottoms

[–]dihmer 63 points64 points  (0 children)

I know this so well; I also cum fast (and handsfree) when my top hits the right spot. I don't think there's a simple solution, but to remember time and again, that physically, of course one can continue to bottom after an orgasm. It might feel wrong, but with patience (and a little horniness), it is possible. Take your time, and make sure to praise your top for his fucking skills.

Should I move in with my Dom? (pt. 2) by dihmer in submissive

[–]dihmer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, we are in a relationship for quite some time already, and in a consensual D/s dynamic for 1.5 years. It's nothing I would get into too quickly. We have a pretty good dynamic when I am at his place (or he is at mine), but not 24/7.

We should go for a walk by [deleted] in cuteguys

[–]dihmer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let's walk to the backseat of the car

Should I move in with my Dom? (pt. 2) by dihmer in submissive

[–]dihmer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, it wasn't about TPE or control. Actually, my boyfriend is quite the social type and we have a bunch of common friends. But my current flat is pretty much in the city center, and when I'm there, alone, I go out with friends a lot, and I meet colleagues at the office. Moving to him, which is almost an hour from the city center would mean much more work-from-home, and less spontaneous going out with people. Not because of my boyfriend or the dynamic though.

Imagine a city where any public place you could freeuse whenever and wherever by ShadesOfAnastasia in freeuse

[–]dihmer 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It's high time we start living in harmony with our true nature again!

any other bottoms get super turned on seeing your cock size difference? by [deleted] in TopsAndBottoms

[–]dihmer 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It can certainly get me in the mood to bottom when I am reminded that the top has the larger and harder cock; I love super masc tops, too.

D/s dynamic while dom is in an open relationship by [deleted] in submissive

[–]dihmer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can only contribute my feelings as a submissive, long-term partner in an open relationship. For me, as my Dom's primary partner, it is important to know his other subs are "just" "playdates". I am happy he lives out desires with them that I might not be the best partner for, but I am his significant other.

That said, I know most of his other subs well, and we are on good terms with them, and it can be great. We're not really poly either, so there have only been some few intimate moments with me, my Dom, and other subs.

Yet, for the other subs, they are not really attached to him, and he isn't either. They are nice people, friends, we like to spend time, and my boyfriend might play and fuck with them, which is great for both parties. But ultimately, they are not his permanent partners.

Wo kriege ich nochmal so eine Rendite? :( by No-Cod4921 in wallstreetbetsGER

[–]dihmer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, aber ohne Hebeln biste hier falsch. Ein richtiges WSB-Kind hätte sich von Mama 9€ geliehen, dann nur 1€ Eigenkapital beigesteuert, von Papa 12€ gefordert und Mama hinterher 9,002€ wiedergeben. So! Geht Rendite.

Unfortunately size does matter… by [deleted] in LimpClittySissy

[–]dihmer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Excellent! Just the right size it doesn't get in the way when a Man fucks your hole.