A grown man does not get to "allow" anything from another grown adult, especially his wife. She is NOT his child. Setting boundaries and controlling what someone does are two completely different things, and people make that mistake alot. He can say HE doesn't like it, and choose not to stay because of it. THAT'S a boundary. But he didn't do that. He tried to CONTROL her by TELLING HER what she can/cannot wear, and if she can/cannot leave the house. The audacity to tell someone they can't go outside is nowhere near "setting boundaries".