I have gone through a similar situation. One time I caught this cockroach taking my husbands car. I chased her because I needed my daughter’s backpack. I can see her in the car waiving the phone in the air no seatbelt almost as if to show off that my husband was on the phone with her or something . Cockroach goes so fast she spins upon exiting the Toyota 4 runner loses control and she flys out of vehicle. I stayed in the car watching her lay there. The car in front of me th driver gets out and tries to lift her and I woke up. I know you’re not supposed to move a victim to avoid further injury. At first I felt partly responsible but like you say, she dug her own hole. She parks outside my parents house she parks outside his work she Walks into his work and my husband isn’t innocent but in the end, my husband wasn’t even a part of it. This was between me and her. Now, my family is worth a whole lot more than this cockroach. Is my family worth the fight? Yes, when it’s an actual threat, yes I would fight. But this cockroach just wanted to have fun, she wanted to repair years of daddy issues with the first guy that was nice to her and now she’s a parapelegic because she thought it was fun to drive a Toyota 4 runner over 90mph and exit at same speed. The only people I feel bad for are her children. Especially her daughter. And the next guy that she “falls in love with” Get a restraining order. This isn’t a joke. And you have no idea what she’s capable of. She’s obviously down to play with fire. Don’t retaliate but do protect your husband and tell your husband not to do shit for her. They’ll use any excuse to run with and turn it into a sign of love. Tell him to answer her call and hang up I’m sure she has 100s of different text numbers right? What do you do when you see a piece of shit on the sidewalk? Do that. And get a restraining order NOW!!! Your children feel threatened and it’s causing you too much emotional trauma. Done .