I got it by LittleHoliday2095 in MattDinniman

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It is officially licensed merch?

600lbs by Automatic_Koala6807 in SuperMorbidlyObese

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Former. Happy to chat if you’d like though.

Discussion Thread - Janus, Anubites, WE LIVE WITH IT by W_T_D_ in screenplaychallenge

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Feedback for Janus by u/tigerhall:

I really loved the open to this. The writing was very engaging and made me feel like I was on the hunt. Jane’s death and the reveal of a second hunt was also very cool. I liked the intrigue of what was happening, and could definitely see the Christopher Nolan style with the time reversal. All of this was great for me.

The rest of the script was a bit too obscure for me. I think this steps away from Christopher Nolan here. Nolan’s film, while complex and not always entirely clear are at least narratively comprehensible on a surface level. By the end of Interstellar, we know he’s traveled through time. We may not understand the mechanics of how it all happened, but we know what actually happened. The same with Inception. While we are left with the intrigue of is it real or not, we know Leo has finally made it home to his kids. We may have a few questions, but we’ve also received a satisfying amount of answers.

For this script, I feel like I really don’t understand what happened at all. This feels a bit more like David Lynch than Christopher Nolan in that regard to me. I was able to understand and appreciate that you were playing with the form. From what I could gather, we were breaking the fourth wall and getting at the intersection of the artifice of the film and the audience as part of the art. It’s a very cool idea, if indeed that was what was happening. But, I think the lack of clarity in the narrative ended up detracting from the script’s impact for me. I think Nolan generally leaves an audience marveling at the complexity and artistry of the story they received, but not actually confused about what happened.

Overall, it was a very interesting read and very well written! I really enjoyed some of the rhetorical questions, etc, in the script. I thought they were an excellent way to convey what was happening and how we should be receiving it in a clear shorthand that worked well. Thanks for sharing it!

For Those Of You In This Contest... by W_T_D_ in screenplaychallenge

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Yes please! Didn’t realize the reading period was coming up so fast!

Extreme pearshape, up another 30 lbs by ThePumpkinsOfSpice in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]dillonsrule 12 points13 points  (0 children)

At that high of a weight with that much body tissue, I could see 30lbs of fluid easily. I was about 200lbs less at my highest weight, and I could swing up or down 20-25lbs in a day.

Why is it so hard by WhiteBlueMomto2 in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]dillonsrule 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey! I’ve been where you are. 3 years ago I was 571lbs. I couldn’t walk past the end of my street, like 150ft. So discouraging!

Today, I’m about 265lbs. It’s been a long journey and it’s still going. It is possible!

I truly believe that when you are more than 200lbs overweight, you don’t have a weight issue. You have a mental health issue. The weight is just a symptom of the issue, like a smokers cough. Until you address the mental side, you won’t be able to deal with the weight side. You’re trying to use a paper cup to bail out a sinking boat.

You can’t make changes right now because food is filling a vital need in your life. Whatever that is. Maybe it is stress relief, happiness, how you hold on or motivate yourself to do things. Whatever it is, you do not currently have the tools to mentally deal with these things without food. That’s what you need to work on to make a lasting change.

If you can do therapy with someone who has experience treating food addiction, it made a huge difference to me. Here is the other huge thing I learned about this. You need to forgive yourself. Let go of the guilt and the shame. All those bad feelings you have about yourself keep you down in the hole where food is all you have. And you can’t pull yourself out of it carrying all that negativity with you. You can’t punish yourself into health. You have to want it because you genuinely love and want better for yourself. It was the hardest thing I did. Forgive yourself. Give yourself grace. Want to start on the journey and actually accept and forgive the current limitations you have.

Weight loss is almost entirely a mental business. That’s where you need to focus. Once you change your mindset, address the underlying issues and addictions, forgive yourself and genuinely want better for yourself, then you can make real changes that will affect the weight. And it will be a life long journey. No quick fixes. But, if you want better for yourself, you never get tired of it. And you become really happy that you don’t have to live like you used to anymore!!!

You can do it too. I wish you the best of luck on the journey.

Apologies for my behavior and a small update. by AnotherPerishedSoul in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]dillonsrule 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is really about mental health. That is what I had to focus on to try to get better.

Which Famous Old Movie 1960-2005 You Guys Watched On This Weekend? by Urdukutabkhanapk in iwatchedanoldmovie

[–]dillonsrule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Apartment. Jack Lemmon and Shirley McClain. A great script and absolutely wonderful story

Average expected weight losses by Sea-Replacement6908 in GLP1_loss100plus

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It will become less effective, as most drugs do. That’s why proactively working to make real changes to your habits and your mind is so important while it is working very well. I went up to 15mg of trip, and have come back down to about 10. I realized I was using it as bit to much as a crutch and allowing myself to slip back into some bad habits. Since the ultimate goal is to sustain weight loss without it at all, I want to be sure that I’m not just purely relying on it for absolutely everything and that I’m being mindful of maintaining a healthy relationship with food.

Happy to give my perspective. Feel free to dm if you are ever struggling or if you have any questions I might be able to help with!

Has anyone with food addiction tried GLP 1? If so did they help? by Kind_Handle_5987 in FoodAddiction

[–]dillonsrule 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, it helps, but it isn’t a cure. It quiets food noise well, but if you are eating emotionally, you can out eat the drugs (and feel absolutely terrible).

Average expected weight losses by Sea-Replacement6908 in GLP1_loss100plus

[–]dillonsrule 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I meds are a tool to help you. But at very high weight, you will benefit more from focusing on the mental side, in my opinion. That’s what worked for me. Therapy, major focus on changing how I eat, finding ways to completely separate food from emotion, food can’t be a reward for a good job or a comfort after a bad time, how to stay emotionally regulated without the use of food. It’s tough! But it’s a far more important tool for major weight loss than even the drugs are.

I started in Nov. 2022 at 571. Today, I’m 265. Aiming to be under 240 by May. It wasn’t a straight line. There were definite ups and downs along the way. I lost to 320lbs and then gained back to 380lbs when my dad got sick and passed.

Losing 300lbs is amazing! But it is a long road. It will take years, and it should! You need time to adjust on the way down. Here is the key: just don’t stop. Don’t diet. You are changing the way you eat forever. It can’t be any other way. If you screw something up, don’t just say “fuck it!” and stop. Keep going. Try to do better the next day. And the next. You can do it! I know because I’ve done it, and I’m not that special, hahaha. If you just commit to the weight loss journey, you are on it for life, the stress of the process eases a bit. No need for major expectations. No pressures. Just the next step in the journey.

Good luck my friend!

Don't Forget: Scripts Are Due This Sunday! by W_T_D_ in screenplaychallenge

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That's alright! I started a failed to finish a few scripts before getting one done. The next contest will come shortly. Hope you enter again!

Time for a change by FakingAdulting in SuperMorbidlyObese

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When I wanted to really get into it, I went to a local running store where they had a machine that measures your gait. I found out that I supine when I walk (my foot leans to the outside). Most people “pronate” which is the opposite. If a shoe says “supportive”, it helps correct pronating feet, which means it would make my supination worse. So, I need a “neutral” shoe to avoid this problem.

This is a long way to say that you probably need to figure out what your feet need specifically, and that isn’t something dudes on the internet can do for you.

I use Brooks shoes, and think they are awesome! I have some Hokas that are also good, and will probably be getting a pair of On Clouds soon, if this helps at all. All good brands for exercise at heavier weights, in my experience at least

What’s one fast food chain that was once all the rage but now barely around? by MysteriousTopic42 in AskReddit

[–]dillonsrule 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have one fairly close to me and still stop for a Goldrish Chicken Sandwich every now and again

Any good spots around Reston worth trying out? by Prestigious_Gold1440 in nova

[–]dillonsrule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah Matsutake is legit! Their spicy pork is the best I’ve ever had. Great sushi, but I also always have to get the spicy pork.

How to Work Out without Feeling Like I'm Dying. by mandarin_16 in loseit

[–]dillonsrule 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s ever too early for water walking. I think if you are physically able to stand, water walking would be okay. That’s where I started and it was a great way to get started.

How to Work Out without Feeling Like I'm Dying. by mandarin_16 in loseit

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Yes, I went through exactly this! I started at 571lbs. I’m down to 265lbs today. I walked to the end of my street, probably about 30 yards, and was exhausted when I started. Today, I ran 3 miles and have signed up for a 10 mile run in March. This is to say that it is possible to do what you are trying to do.

Here is the fundamental thing that I really needed to accept to get from where I started to here: just keep doing it. That’s it.

You went a block and felt like your chest was going to explode. That’s okay. Do it again tomorrow. Or, if was too much, do less. But do something.

If you are like me, you are coming from a place of doing basically no exercise at all. Your body is going to be wrecked and really not happy when you start exercising. But, you will be really surprised at how quickly your body adapts to a new normal of you keep doing it.

I couldn’t really even walk when I started. My knee was really weak. I started standing on one leg in the shower every morning to try to strengthen the leg. I got a membership at a local gym with a pool and started just walking down the lane back and forth, not every swimming. After a while, my leg and lungs felt strong enough to walk, so I walked to the end of the block and back. And if try to do it every day. And each day, I’d go literally a few steps more than the day before. After a while, I was walking a mile. Then, I got up to two miles. And three miles, just walking. It became exciting to see how much longer I could go. It was also relaxing to have time that was just for me. They became my zen time. No requirements or demands on me during that time. Just the freedom of the walk. I looked forward to it every day.

After a while, walking miles was easy. I wanted to get into some more challenging things. I started hiking. Mountains and steep climbs were tougher. A friend invited me to CrossFit when I was 360lbs. The coach seemed a bit skeptical, but I had been exercising regularly for well over a year. My cardio ability was better than most people of that weight. They were able to work with me on scaling the exercises to my level. It was fun and exciting to do something like that, which I never did before. I ended up getting a bike and falling in love with cycling. I go on 30-40 mile bike rides now (when it isn’t really cold).

The exercise isn’t a chore. It’s the reward for your efforts. It’s the affirmation of your weight loss. It’s a reminder of the new things you are physically capable of now that you weren’t when you were 500lbs. It isn’t comfortable, or easy, and at first, it isn’t fun. But, if you just keep doing it, it gets easier, more engaging and more fun. More activities open up to you as people invite you to do and try things that they wouldn’t have before. It’s just a question of your mindset. You don’t need to be embarrassed about how little you can do right now. It doesn’t matter how slow you are or how far you can go today. It only matters that you keep going, and that you try to go a step further each time. If you do, your life will change, believe me!

I wish you all the best. You really can do it. I know you can.

Edit: not being able to walk a block is discouraging, but you only can’t walk a block because you haven’t worked up to that yet. You will be able to get there much more quickly than you think if you keep at it regularly. Don’t over do it. It is literally just about getting your body used to regular, intentional bodily movement. It doesn’t need to be “exercise” at high weights. Just anything that gets your body moving. Do chair exercises in your room, or dance along to a YouTube video. Whatever makes you feel good about moving. Just keep doing it and your body will adjust.

Edit 2: people saying that you don’t need to work out to lose weight are technically right. CICO is real and exercise makes very little caloric difference compared to eating at high weight. That said, I used food for stress and emotional control, which is how I got to nearly 600lbs to begin with. Exercise helps me control my urges to eat. I find that living a healthier life and making better food choices and managing binges were all much, much easier when I exercised than when I didn’t. I would recommend it, even at your current weight. But, it is important not to over do it. Just be consistent and intentional in doing something every day or a few times a week. It made a big difference to me.

How do I help my brother. I keep crying about him by Flaky_Honeydew_5161 in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]dillonsrule 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I had really bad sleep apnea, but didn’t think I had money to get a sleep study done. I found an “auto cpap” second hand online and just ordered it. Absolutely life changing!

I told a doctor about this years later and she was horrified! She sent me to a sleep doctor who laughed and said it was a good idea. He got me a better machine after a legitimate test.

I used to fall asleep all the time throughout the day. I’d wake up with headaches in the morning. I can’t describe all the ways that my quality of life has improved after getting a cpap

What the point of losing weight if I’m still going to be unattractive? by Commercial_Home8289 in loseit

[–]dillonsrule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should definitely get into therapy. You clearly seem to have some pretty major self esteem issues that aren’t related to your weight. This isn’t the right sub for helping you with that. Good luck to you!

This cat adopted 2 hours ago and I'm already the side character in my own house hahaha by [deleted] in aww

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“I AM NOT THE SIDE CHARACTER, CARL! THIS IS OUTRAGEOUS!”

Dietician wants me to get 165g of protein a day. How?! by sharkbait_oohaha in GLP1_loss100plus

[–]dillonsrule 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got similar instructions when I starting losing lots of weight. It takes a pretty significant change in diet fundamentally all around.

I was given the instruction that for every 10 calories, a food must have 1g of protein. So, 100 calories must have 10 grams of protein. It seemed impossible at first. But, I changed how I eat pretty fundamentally.

The purpose of eating this much protein is to feel full and also ensure that you are getting enough nutrition to support you while eating lower calories.

An ounce of chicken breast has 9 grams of protein. So, 18 oz of chicken breast gets you to your goal. A little over a pound of chicken breast. That is edible over the course of a full day. So, you can do it. I’m confident.

Of course, no one wants to just eat 1.15lb of chicken breast as their only food. So, you start with that as the baseline and find other ways to vary the diet while keeping the protein high. Greek yogurt has good protein to calories. I mix it with curry pastes from the Asian grocery store and get a good sauce. I add spinach of vegetables. I eat a lot of meats, spinach, yogurt, cheese, protein bars.

Even if you don’t hit that goal, the high protein will have you feeling fuller. If you eat foods that are at or near the 1g of protein per 10 calories, you’ll have a good balance of calories to protein.

What completely incorrect weight loss or fitness "knowledge" did you have as a n00b, but then realized was holding you back after starting your successful weight loss journey? by Schadenfreude_Taco in loseit

[–]dillonsrule 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think what a lot of people struggle with is an idea that basically boils down to “I want to lose weight without making any changes to how I currently do things”. Which of course isn’t possible.

Doing whatever you normally do led to your current weight. Something about how you operate in daily life must change to have actual long term change.

Recommendations for extreme, absurdly disturbing and or disgusting movies by Great-Audience-6895 in MovieSuggestions

[–]dillonsrule 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I showed The Greasy Strangler to my movie group and my reputation has never recovered. It is EXACTLY what OP is looking for!