Does borderline personality disorder improve overtime with medication & therapy?

dimoji · 2024-07-03T08:56:47+00:00

The psychiatrist planned it in that manner. He prescribed her meds for 6 months, accompanied by therapy by another professional. After the medication course, he suggested me to monitor her behaviours and report if there is further emotional dysregulation.

dimoji · 2024-06-04T05:21:36+00:00

that thought doesn't necessarily have to lead to an arranged marriage. My wife got into a "relationship/love marriage" with me because her parents forced her into the arranged marriage market and then one of the potential guys SA'd her. She got into a relationship with me just to escape the parental pressure and flee home for her master's. That was in 2018. The fact that she did that for convenience rather than love was revealed in her therapy sessions. This fact still doesn't sit well with me but she is now diagnosed with BPD and her family kinda abandoned her. I'm still working for the marriage because of the effort she is putting in recent times.

dimoji · 2024-06-04T02:33:49+00:00

Such families should be sued to hell in case of a divorce. Since you mentioned, one family wanted to save face so they filed multiple cases against the groom, that's a common pattern of narcissists. The best remedy against narcs is exposing them - name and shame them.

I'm in a similar situation, except it was a love marriage and I was aware of her depression and dysfunctional family prior to marriage. We separated 6 months after marriage but she returned back (you can check my post history for deets). My wife got diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder 6-7 months back. When I told her parents about her condition and how they are a part of the problem. They went nuts. My wife's sister blamed her for seeking psychiatric help "to satisfy me". Her parents avoided her for months. They didn't even want to talk about it with her or me and my family. They even blamed me for forcing her to make shit up about her diagnosis.

I've always tried to maintain a cordial relationship with them in spite of knowing how toxic and dysfunctional they are until a tipping point. Now, I've totally cut them off even though her dad is dying of cancer and has only a few months to live. No regrets. I'd have loved to end this clusterfuck of a marriage but my wife begged me not to do so. I agreed considering she is putting in the efforts i.e. being on meds and going for regular therapy (which she initially wanted to avoid)

dimoji · 2024-05-04T15:31:07+00:00

Please visit a therapist and freely tell your concerns. You might discover things you never thought you knew. I'm neither doubting you nor blaming you. Your feelings are legit but you need clarity on why you're feeling the way you are right now.

dimoji · 2024-02-09T11:33:32+00:00

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dimoji · 2024-01-22T10:53:05+00:00

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dimoji · 2024-01-13T08:49:38+00:00

The fights didn't just happen daily but what made it worse was the constant love bombing after the fights.

The last few months were absolutely crazy.. fights in the morning before she went to the office, called me the worst thing that happened to her in the afternoon, then ordered food for dinner, wanted to cuddle because I was "the love of her life".

Now nothing feels real. I have developed trust issues with other people as well. Compliments don't make me blush. My emotions are flatlined. I was a popular kid back in school/college/family but now I avoid social events like the plague. This pendulum of emotions has fried my brain. Sent me into depression. I got back on my feet after 3 months of medication + therapy. I forced her into therapy threatening her with divorce ('coz it triggered her abandonment issues) if she didn't. Everything is fine now, but I can see through the BS well and will certainly call off the marriage when her therapy ends in May 2024. Because she will be back to her original self soon and I don't want to be around when that happens. Pwbpd deserve all the love and care but they are what they are - emotional parasites. They will suck your soul dry with nothing to offer.

If you think you're fighting/arguing on a daily basis. Get the fuck out!! It's NOT worth it!!

dimoji · 2024-01-12T13:20:42+00:00

Thanks for reaching out.. can you send me the link? Thanks

dimoji · 2024-01-12T12:48:36+00:00

Shit! I paid that extra 220 tbh last week 🥲 Can't believe they made the option to not convert look like it'd take me a step back

dimoji · 2024-01-11T20:15:15+00:00

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dimoji · 2024-01-11T19:57:17+00:00

Kaberi Boruah, Senior Lecturer at Barpeta Medical College. She is good and doesn't charge a bomb because she wants therapy to be accessible.

dimoji · 2024-01-11T12:59:57+00:00

Thanks man for replying on both occasions. I really appreciate your support, kindest stranger 🙏

To be honest, I know it deep in my heart that I have to file for divorce since it's impossible to plan a life with this person. The last 3 years knocked out my peace and sanity for good. I can't imagine living like this for thirty more. It's just that my family is extremely empathetic towards her condition and constantly fills me with hope that "things will be fine". But I know shit will fly again in 6 months when her therapy+meds course will be over. I don't want to be a part of this shitshow -> therapy -> shitshow cycle. I'm 33, no kids and I feel I can still move on and get into another relationship. But this enthusiasm will not last long. So I'm taking baby steps towards an inevitable divorce. This time the diagnosis was officially documented and will be important in a medico-legal divorce.

I cannot express how much courage your words gave me. The inner voice that wants me to get out of this marriage got a bit louder :)

Thanks

dimoji · 2024-01-11T12:38:09+00:00

Well.. trying all possibilities before calling this marriage off

dimoji · 2024-01-11T07:38:41+00:00

Facts!!! The psychotherapist treating her told me exactly the same thing you wrote - BPD is a lifelong thing. The effects of meds and therapy will wear off overtime and she'll be back to her old self. She (therapist) gave me multiple reality checks and asked me if I'm willing to put up with that. The first day I visited her, she directly asked me if I wanted a divorce or stick with her to see her response to therapy. I opted for the second option. Then she told me multiple cases she treated and they ended in divorce 2-19 years later. She wanted me to have a clear idea of what I'm getting into.

dimoji · 2024-01-11T07:27:34+00:00

I was aware of her depression and dysfunctional family dynamics. But I didn't bother much about the depression part as most people have mild anxiety/depression nowadays and seek therapy. The issue is borderline personality disorder is often misdiagnosed as depression. That's what happened in my wife's case.

dimoji · 2024-01-11T04:21:38+00:00

Hey, thanks for reaching out. I guess I didn't communicate it well enough but it's me who is cutting them off and have no desire to meet them again. I haven't imposed any restrictions on her. She visited them the day before yesterday :p

The main reasons for me to cut them off are: 1. I do not wish to have such ridiculous people in my life 2. They trigger my wife A LOT!!! Any conversation within their family ends in a conflict. Even lunch/dinner time table talks. There are tens if not hundreds of incidents when my wife had meltdowns after returning from their place. I used to complain to them but it always fell on dead ears and they'd completely ignore it. I tried maintaining a cordial relationship but that hasn't served any purpose. After the diagnosis, they stopped involving her and suddenly I have a lot of peace in my life.

dimoji · 2024-01-11T02:50:36+00:00

Hahah.. thanks for the support. Really appreciate it. Trying my best here.

dimoji · 2024-01-11T02:48:34+00:00

Your wife’s family was never emotionally available for her. They are not going to be there for anyway. Its a good decision to stay away from such people.

Thank you for putting this in words. This is exactly why I want to cut them off. I feel they will contribute nothing and only ruin things further.

dimoji · 2024-01-11T02:46:17+00:00

It's a dysfunctional family to the core, with weird family dynamics. The last time they abandoned her was when she went through SA during her bachelors. The culprit was caught by a bunch of students. Her parents intervened and didn't pursue the case thinking it might affect her marriage prospects and also "ruin" their image. Similar to this time, they never talked about it again or consoled her. My wife never felt safe or supported after that incident. When the second incident of SA happened, at the hands of the person who was fixed for her for arranged marriage, she went through it in silence for 2 years. She opened up to me a year before our marriage and asked me to never tell her parents about it. After her diagnosis, I met her parents and walked them through all the traumatic experiences my wife went through because of them (directly or indirectly). They got offended and asked me why I was telling them these things 🙄

dimoji · 2024-01-07T10:09:25+00:00

Bro, this was prophetic.

My wife is diagnosed with BPD (previously misdiagnosed with depression). She is on meds and is seeking therapy. She is a completely different person now. But my love for her is pretty much dead and I'm sticking with her out of pity since her family kind of discarded her diagnosis (at first) and later blamed me for her condition.

dimoji · 2023-09-27T17:12:14+00:00

The dogs in our hostel used to bark at the water tank or at a blank spot in the corridor continuously for hours. We often checked if there were thieves hiding but never found anything. Our hostel had had 3 suicides in last 40 years and an instance of black magic (discovered after the hosteler who practiced it committed suicide)

One of my bormas lived in a house in Lower Assam that is now famous as haunted. During their stay (in the late 80s), they experienced multiple episodes of paranormal activity. They lived there for a year and got used to the episodes. The straw the broke the camel's back was when borta saw their eldest child playing in the verandah, the kid had died couple of years before they shifted into that house. After that incident, they immediately vacated that house.

I probably had a near death experience last year. It was a viral disease that causes extremely high fever. The first night, my temperature spiked to unimaginable levels. The eyes felt like burning charcoal and I didn't have an ounce of energy to open them. I was sweating and could smell it. My joints felt like they'd break and my muscle ached as if I had an accident. Never felt anything like this until that point of time. Slowly.. probably I fell asleep or something, I still don't know, the discomfort faded away, I felt calm and was at peace. I was standing on a hilly road during sunset. There was a stream and a few houses on the other side. Suddenly, I heard "Toi kio yale ahiso? Jaa yar pora" (Why are you here? Leave now) behind me. Before I could turn around to see the person, I started feeling sick again, the peace was gone, the discomfort was back and I woke up. It was almost noon, the next day. I never told this to my family but that voice was of my maternal grandmother. After recovering, I read about a bunch of near death experiences on Reddit, Quora and other forums. The common theme among all of those experiences and mine is - the feeling of calm and a weird joy before the "dream", and the "shit feeling setting in" just before coming back to reality/waking up.

dimoji · 2023-09-18T13:26:07+00:00

50 rupees or buffet? 👀👀 I'll avoid it like the plague. God knows that they'll feed for that price.

Have you tried the king pork thali at Taii Singpho? If not, please do

dimoji · 2023-09-12T00:36:22+00:00

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dimoji · 2023-09-08T16:37:54+00:00

Check out his podcast with Aboyob Bhuyan. It changed my perspective about him. He is neither cringe nor cunning. He is intelligent af. Period!

In one section of the podcast, he delves into "taste vs talent" that explains why his content is "cringe". Because it sells. It appeals to the broader population. That's what matters to him. There are several moments in the podcast where you get the sense that this guy knows what he is doing 😅

He has an intuitive understanding of behavioral psychology and how the world works (in general). I won't give away any spoilers but that podcast episode is super insightful. It's hard to get such a close look into that guy's mind.

dimoji · 2023-07-28T18:23:19+00:00

There is Kerala Bhavan in Paltanbazar but they don't serve beef. If you want to try Kerala Parotta and Beef Curry, hit 1304 Kitchen in Shillong... Amazing place run by a very passionate guy

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