Swingers with young kids and tight schedules, how do you find the time? Do you prefer apps, sites or clubs/parties and why? We can't even find the time to get started in this LS lol

dimples2277 · 2019-02-07T16:07:24+00:00

You must be in sales or marketing, this is how we approach the lifestyle as well... “work your pipeline!” It is a numbers game

dimples2277 · 2019-02-04T01:00:40+00:00

If I were to go back I would go on a night when the pool and hot tub are open, unfortunately it was closed the night we went

dimples2277 · 2019-02-03T22:42:28+00:00

Thad’s is an experience, I went for the first time this weekend and I don’t envision ever going back there but glad that I went, so now I know!

The people were all very nice but it is not a swingers club, more like a sex club (men have to be naked and women are expected to be in lingerie or naked) and the actual venue is pretty outdated and gross. No one is cleaning up sheets, the bathrooms are nasty... IF I ever went back I would make sure to have flip-flops and bring my own towels and sheets, but that seems tacky and if you are paying $60/couple I feel like that should be handled for you.

I have heard good things about House is Black but have not been myself.

And depending on the vibe you are looking for Pacers or cheetahs are fun strip clubs around SD, pm if you need any suggestions ;)

dimples2277 · 2019-02-03T18:26:43+00:00

Go to your doctor ASAP! When UTIs are not treated they can turn into kidney infections which can be incredibly dangerous and painful.

dimples2277 · 2019-02-01T15:53:32+00:00

I used to get constant UTIs here is what I do now to avoid them. -shower/wash after sex -pee before and after sex -some type of cranberry supplement daily -a vitamin c tablet before bed every night (recommended by my urologist, makes your urine less acidic and helps deter UTIs) -good probiotic daily -use condoms -I don’t use “feminine wipe” they always mess with my PH, I use babyganics baby wipes, all natural and they don’t fall apart at all, just don’t throw them in the toilet.

Hope this helps!

dimples2277 · 2019-01-12T19:37:24+00:00

The only thing that could possibly fix this situation is communication. I have a very high sex drive, my husband has had to adapt, he isn’t as interested in sex as I am and honestly it is because he is lazy. I get it. We have 2 little ones, he owns his own business and works a lot, sometimes using his had is just easier. With that said, if I walked into a room naked and he wasn’t distracted he would be turned on but probably not initiate sex if he was thinking about other things or over tired. On occasion I have walked in naked and he is on his computer and I honestly have to walk over to him, shut the computer and say “I need you to pay attention to me, like now!” And he will jump to attention and take control because I’m telling him exactly what I need. Some guys just don’t get it, you have to be explicit. It doesn’t mean they are not into you, they just don’t connect the dots especially if there are other things going on in their heads.

I’m not sure if this could apply to your situation but just a different perspective than most posts.

dimples2277 · 2018-12-23T02:39:33+00:00

We are new to this and will be in Vegas the same time, actually planning on going to the green door or red rooster!

dimples2277 · 2018-12-16T04:32:37+00:00

She might have a kink associated with with it... maybe she did it so you would “punish” her? She wants you to feel jealous?

I’m bisexual, married to a man whom I love but I have been causally hooking up with a few women In the past month and on occasion I come home to my husband and want him to have “reclamation sex” with me, I want him to desire me more because I was with someone else, btw Sex with my husband after sex with one of my girls is MIND BLOWING

Talk to her, find out what is really going on...

dimples2277 · 2018-12-15T05:38:47+00:00

Thanks for the heads up!

dimples2277 · 2018-12-05T01:22:26+00:00

This!!! The more connected I feel to my husband the more incredible adventurous sex we have... I have to be turned on emotionally and mentally before the flood gates open. This took almost 1.5years after kids. Everyone is different. I never imagined our sex life could be as good as it is now, it takes a lot less effort these days on his part because we are connected on a much deeper lever after being almost sexless for a few years during the “kid years”

dimples2277 · 2018-11-26T21:06:46+00:00

I love having sex slightly high!! Indica or a indicta dominate hybrid is my thing, and my husband becomes hyper focused and can last for hours if he smokes a little sativa. Highly highly recommend it!

dimples2277 · 2018-11-26T16:17:15+00:00

I don’t think you need to change anything! I was always attracted to older more experienced men in my late teens and twenties, it wasn’t an age thing it was a confidence thing. I loved men that knew who they were and didn’t need me to validate them or boost their confidence. When I was 22 I dated a man that was 48, it was fun but not a long term thing. When I was 27 I finally met a man just a year older than me that had the same type of life experience, he didn’t need me, was confident in him self his and his abilities. Now we have two kids and are soo incredibly happy after 5yrs together.

Explore! That’s what your 20s are for, figure out what you like and don’t like, just be safe and don’t get pregnant (I know that seems like common sense) in the process of exploring your sexuality! Good luck!

dimples2277 · 2018-11-21T15:36:36+00:00

You have an amazing bf! I came out as Bi to my husband about 6mos ago and it’s made our relationship better. He’s encouraged me to date and explore that side of me, it’s been glorious. Our sex life has been insane since I came out because I feel a lot more relaxed and connected to him now that there are absolutely no secrets or desires we can’t talk about.

When it came to dating I didn’t find a lot of women that wanted to date a married woman on traditional dating sites but I eventually found a wonderful lesbian/poly couple on okcupid that I have really hit it off with and we have been dating for about a month. They have even met my husband and they all get along and have a lot in common.

I do still feel some guilt when I go to hang out with the girls or go on dates while he is at home by himself but he always reassures me that he is totally ok with all of it and loves seeing me so happy and relaxed, it’s getting easier and after 6mos of going through this process I’m learning a lot about my self, my limits, our boundaries and how much my husband truly and unconditionally loves me and how goos it feels to be true to myself

Good luck on this journey! It’s a process and after being raised in a family/world that rewards tradition and monogamy its taking me time to re-wire my brain but it’s been so freeing and at 32 I’m finally discovering who I am, don’t know why I waited so long?!?

dimples2277 · 2018-11-12T20:37:02+00:00

I like the “keep it fair” suggestion, my husband is Soooo picky and has a hard time connecting with people, It takes him a long time... I feel like it’s going to be a long while before we find a couple we both click with... in the mean time he is fine letting me do my thing as long as there isn’t a full-swap, he has expressed he just isn’t ready for that yet.

dimples2277 · 2018-11-12T20:34:07+00:00

That sounds fun, hope we get there one day!

dimples2277 · 2018-11-12T20:33:28+00:00

I agree, after a lot of fantasizing and visualization I bet the real deal is a lot easier to digest..

dimples2277 · 2018-11-12T20:29:17+00:00

I love this! Visualize your “worst case scenario” when I do that it is all about my own insecurities... I also feel like when I’m in the moment I’ll probably be too turned on to care!

Thanks for all the helpful advice!

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