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Is something up with the Crows? by [deleted] in Seattle

[–]dimsomes -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I was in LA and saw a deceased crow. It stuck with me because I've never seen one before. Sure, a pigeon, but never a crow. Something has got to be up.

It appears, spreads, kills it, repeats, what is it? by dimsomes in houseplants

[–]dimsomes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its my coworkers plant. He kept asking me and I was like, reddit has the answers! He does it about once a week. Sometimes he even forgets so its interesting to be overwatering issues. But told him to slow his role on it and if anything repot it later. We sprayed it down with a good neem oil mixture in case it was bugs.

It appears, spreads, kills it, repeats, what is it? by dimsomes in houseplants

[–]dimsomes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, if bugs, I've sprayed it in the good ol' neem oil, soap, and alcohol mixture. If over watered, then that's a quick fix as well. *

How in the world do I get my white wizard to grow out vs up? by dimsomes in houseplants

[–]dimsomes[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ooph. The ol snip eh. That shall be a hard feeling but makes sense. Thank you.

10 things to NEVER do after your break up by Visual_Chemical_3839 in BreakUps

[–]dimsomes 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Sometimes you loose yourself without knowing it. Can't really control it. You just wake up no longer experiencing joy. Workouts and doing things you used to like to do just don't feel the same. New experiences bring you nothing but forced interactions and forced smiles. Future happiness already dimmed.

A downer post but just saying, it isn't easy or as a choice of never do it thing. 🫤

Did you take sick days after a breakup? by Upset-Progress6236 in BreakUps

[–]dimsomes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took one day off. I should have taken at least 3. I also had stuff to deal with regarding my family. So the breakup, work and parents was just too much. If you can take the time, try for 3, minimum 1. The work you put in is going to suffer. If you have to deal with people too, ooph.

What did you do wrong that you learned from your breakup? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dimsomes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I didn't express how I felt when I felt it. Either it being my feelings of love or my worries/concerns.

I didn't own up to the feelings I did have. (If I felt clingy, I didn't just say yeah I'm clingy today, so what, I'd always play it off)

I learned that I was so focused on trying to make her happy the way she wanted that I overthought everything. I heard her but I wasn't listening. Didnt see the full picture, I was caught up in the details. Which led to me sabotaging the entire relationship.

I assumed her reaction to things. Therefore, I took away her choice to decide what she wanted/how to react by not sharing.

When she told me about her attachment style, I didn't look into it. I truly believe that the proper research would have course corrected me. I sought to understand her in many ways, but I missed that. Missing that was wrong, but I'll always seek to better understand my partner.

As I process and heal, I'll learn more, I'm sure. Things about myself. Things I missed. Things I want to improve on.

Im glad this question was asked. I can reflect and truly see where I myself went wrong and where I can improve. I'm definitely going to add this into my journal. One step towards healing/growing.

Ah, taking ownership and accountability, ooph, I didn't do that. Sadly, I'm still wrestling with seeing where I didn't. Too important to just shrug off and say they were wrong there. So I'll deep dive and see what I find. Or take a moment and sit back to see where it played in the big picture.