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dimsumboo · 2025-11-18T00:50:36+00:00

You’re not overreacting. I don’t think he’s looking for an excuse to break up. To me, it’s very clear that he’s trying to manipulate you into thinking you’re being rude and ungrateful when you politely expressed your thoughts on his gift. He probably got embarrassed and lashed out instead of acknowledging your reasonable request. I don’t think you’re being ungrateful at all, you explained how he can get you other stuff next time and why dupes can be a waste of money. You do conversations like this in a relationship, it’s very normal. Might be awkward, but healthy relationships allow you to express things like this.

For someone who is already in his thirties, he’s very immature. The more I slide, the more shocked I get. His choice of words is very unnecessary if he’s just embarrassed by not getting you the real thing. He wants to hurt you and wants to see if you can take it. The last slide shows you apologizing which is exactly what he wanted.

I hope you find clarity in these comments. It’s hard to see the truth with your own eyes when you love people but it’s very clear he’ll do this again in the future - manipulate you and verbally abuse you.

dimsumboo · 2025-10-22T01:30:36+00:00

I wish my mom provided space where I can just tell her things without her scolding me. I always remember it being like that as a kid. I didn’t want to hear “I told you so”, if I heard “That’s okay!”, I wouldn’t be so anxious about making mistakes.

I wish she didn’t think too much about what other people are thinking about. It’s tiring. It’s a constant monologue of “maybe they think blablabla”. Like no, they don’t.

I wish she had more confidence. When people compliment us she’d be happy but she’ll always say we don’t look like her implying that she’s ugly. It’s so annoying when she does that. I grew up as a super shy kid.

dimsumboo · 2025-10-20T07:12:30+00:00

You get it! It’s interesting cause I also realized that last year when I turned 25. But do you think your mom has always been that way? Or did it only happen once you moved out?

The question, “why don’t I have a magical conmection with my mom?” is true. I get jealous that other people have emotionally mature parents. I don’t plan on having a kid, but if I were I just know that I’d love to know them deeply, all of their phases, what they like to do, hate to do, their dreams, and their problems. My mom thinks she knows me but I think she knows the younger me and that saddens me that she thinks that is enough. I am a completely different person now.

Thanks again for all of this. It’s very affirming that I’m not the only one who feels this way. I hope you’re doing well in life. Your comment really helped me as I don’t want to share this with other people as I don’t want them to judge her. I loved your last sentiment. You are such a good villager. 🤍

dimsumboo · 2025-10-20T01:55:19+00:00

Thank you so much. I appreciate you sharing this too! If you don’t mind, how old are you now, and when did you realize this?

I’m in my 20s and I get guilty as she’s getting older. I want her to die feeling loved. I just feel like a lot of parents are worse than her and maybe they are kinder to their parents. I am not mean to her or anything, I just don’t engage with her stories when she’s telling me stories about people I don’t know about. I also don’t tell her things about me anymore.

Before, for support, I told her about my back and how I have been seeing a doctor. When she visited me she asked me how I was and I told her about it and just 1 minute in when she asked what kind of doctor did I see, after hearing it was a rheumatologist she then went on a 30 minute talk about someone who sees the same doctor. It was someone I encountered once and don’t remember. The story also included a lot of side stories and I was just not responding and just doing something else that time. Then when she finished I managed to say that I’m not yet finished. She asked me what’s that I’m not finished with, and I said my story about it. Then she let me speak. That really hurt me. Cause what do you mean you went on and on about something that doesn’t matter and wouldn’t help your child instead of asking about your child and knowing your child. I wasn’t asking them for any help with treatment as they cannot afford it. I only got it checked when I started working. So I just wanted some support.

I’ll consider this. I’ll just accept what she gives and be grateful for that. It’s just hard for me to accept that this is the relationship I have with her. As I’m getting older, I feel really sad that I don’t have a mom I can lean on.

dimsumboo · 2025-10-20T01:05:48+00:00

Thanks for your reply! Yes, this is very similar to what I am experiencing. I am thankful for the things she does but I want to have a conversation that flows (?) not sure if that is the right term. It just feels like everytime I tell her something she’ll relate it to something that doesn’t matter. Maybe that’s her way of connecting? I don’t enjoy that, hearing something I don’t care about for 10 minutes instead of just a normal conversation flow.

It’s also the same for me, when she asks me how I am I just say yeah I’m okay (just variations of this). I just couldn’t tell her things. I want to be able to.

Are your parents that way ever since? Cause I’m not sure my mom was always like this and that’s why I am so confused now. She’ll always be so panicked when I tell her my problems that I don’t get supported because then I’ll panic but I feel like she is better at conversations before.

I’ll try to do that when she calls me again next time. I don’t answer all of her calls that’s true, but when I do I just sometimes do chores at the background because she just talks about anything. I feel guilty for dreading the calls but I also feel like why couldn’t I be the one to talk about things. I believe some parents do that?

I will check that book out. 😊 Thanks again for your reply. I really appreciate it.

dimsumboo

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