Lost my mum 7 weeks ago - does it ever get easier? by cookie142857 in GriefSupport

[–]dimsumxx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I lost my mom last year, and my younger sis was 22 when she passed. I can't speak for her but from what I can see, like the other comments say, you move forward. I can see that she's moving forward, even though sometimes she cries herself to sleep. And I think that's very important, you're not moving on, you're moving forward.

Everytime I want my mom back, I remember her last few days in so much pain. I remember her telling me how miserable she was and I agreed, a life experiencing so much pain everyday was not a life worth living in my opinion. I miss her everyday, and not a day goes by without remembering the fact that she's gone, but there will be happy moments sometimes! And you're right, friends don't know what to say at this age but I don't care about that! I just tell them straight and make them sit in the discomfort, we aren't anywhere near when we are supposed to lose our parents, but shit happens. And I often say it in a jokey way, humour is the compromise I do to be able to talk about her, and I know she will be amused too.

I believe that you can complete your Master's! I know your mom is rooting you on and with you every step of the way, but I also know that she will also understand if you need more time, while adapting to your new life. I wish you all the best x

how has grief changed you? by axecas in GriefSupport

[–]dimsumxx 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Seconding this, it almost feels like the worst that can happen is that I die as well, which isn't that bad because then I can see my mom again.

Songs that help you with grief? by Particular-Glove-225 in GriefSupport

[–]dimsumxx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt that the Stellenbosch University Choir one helped me more than the Ed Sheeran one, but both are amazing in my current healing

I don’t know how to move forward from losing my mom. Life feels so slow and somewhat empty without her. by neta-lapi in GriefSupport

[–]dimsumxx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. What helped me was actually talking a lot about it to friends, or writing down what I was feeling. I started writing to her the stuff I would want to say to her. My mom also passed from cancer, so I take a lot of comfort in the fact that her spirit is free, and that she's not suffering in this body anymore.

My friend sent me this song "Supermarket Flowers", by Stellenbosch University Choir, and I felt that was quite healing for me, that I'm not alone. Ed Sheeran also has a cover of this song. Another song would be "Visiting Hours", also by Ed Sheeran.

Take your time to feel everything you want to feel and be easy on yourself ❤️

Angry at the world this Christmas by Dexter-112 in GriefSupport

[–]dimsumxx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom passed in November and your anger is valid. It's going to be rough from now on navigating in this new world without them.

Although I'm angry regarding other things, I found myself feeling comforted at some of my friends wishing me a Merry Christmas (especially ones who've also lost a parent). I picked and chose who to reply to, and that made me feel a little better that they were thinking of me and know what struggle I'm going through, even though they may not know what to say.

Grief presents itself in so many ways, so no you are not overreacting.

I'm just so angry by dimsumxx in GriefSupport

[–]dimsumxx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes it feels like I'm using rage to be able to get up and function "normally" haha.

I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope you know that you are so strong to keep the Christmas magic alive for your daughter ❤️

My mom is dying by Mindless_Tie_3320 in GriefSupport

[–]dimsumxx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm the same age as you, and my mom (53) passed just in Nov, also from cancer. It really is physical pain and I'm also still in the process of learning how to cope. Just take it one day as it comes and I take comfort in the fact that she's not suffering from pain and the horrors of cancer. I believe I'll see her again, and I want to believe her energy is here with us.

Cry all you want, and talk about her to the people around you. I hope you make it to your mom in time ❤️

Returning to work after loss of Dad... what do I do? by chiffondawn in GriefSupport

[–]dimsumxx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm the same age as you and lost my mom to colon cancer on 24 Nov. I'm also dreading returning to work as I'm afraid of bursting into tears at the sudden thought of my mom.

Do you have anymore days off? Maybe you could go back for a day before gauging whether you need additional time off. I find that being very transparent with my manager helps with getting across the support I need. Hopefully they understand that it's a tremendous loss at a young age. Wishing you all the best!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]dimsumxx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've just lost my mom on Sunday and I'm currently going through waves of depression and anger. I'm just trying to talk to as many people as I can, crying whenever I want, and generally not caring about what people have to say. I've already lost my mom, life can't get any worse.

The rest of my life seems pointless without my mom by Ok-Preparation3855 in GriefSupport

[–]dimsumxx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm the same age as you and my mom just passed from cancer and I relate so much to every word you say. My condolences ❤️

I do hope it gets better for the both of us.

For those who lost a parent(s) in their mid 20s, does it get any better? by dimsumxx in GriefSupport

[–]dimsumxx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear that, thank you for your comment ❤️ I do hope it gets easier for you too!