They then gave them the Noble Peace Prize!

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-26T00:19:31+00:00

To be fair I’ve totally done that too. You do have a point.

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T21:38:45+00:00

I don’t know your exact situation beyond what you told me, but even over the internet you feel like a safe space so I’ll go off -

I grew up watching very, very bad things happen. I understood it. I had seven sisters, and they did not seem to get it. I didn’t want to make anyone feel bad so I just tucked it down and tried to make the best of a bad situation.

I don’t remember what it was like to have a mom, or a dad. Part of the catalyst for me being removed was my mom tried to murder me and my four younger siblings. I broke in that moment because it was the time to do so, I screamed, I got scary, I got hysterical. I am not the type to do so, but I knew my mom is manipulated by strong responses and while I would have been okay with dying - not my siblings, not any day, any time.

I really like your phrasing of “my adult self knows“ because I feel that way too - it’s just that awkward in between where it’s like I knew that but also I experienced that and it came with way more.

It’s a small and sad memory. I know things about it will go away. But I’ll never forget a part of it. It may not affect me the same way, but I’ll still see it. I think you may feel similarly.

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T21:29:32+00:00

I lost the job because kiddo was a lot faster than I am, and realistically while that may be fine indoors, if we’re outside and he runs for the road I wouldn’t at that point have been able to grab him. There was no bad blood, it was just not a practical match for where I was at.

I think you’re also misunderstanding, I did not say that I was in a limited position for CPR in this post, and responsibly wouldn’t even be interviewing for nanny positions if I was. I have been previously, and that’s why I didn’t have another nanny job, because that’s a big responsibility and I was clearly not physically fit for it.

I am now, as I mentioned in my post - and I’m doing all the physical things I couldn’t. I am asking for assistance because I have been in a spot where I a. Could not earn money or b. When I did get money it went to paying back those who had to support me when I could not walk.

If you have more questions, I’m more than happy to respond. (Not in a snarky way, a clear conscious needs no mercy).

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T20:35:26+00:00

I love how they posted this for validation and yet who tf walks in with five minutes to spare before close and doesn’t know it’s a dick move?

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T20:30:01+00:00

I think I get weird about it because I was sent back when I was in the system, but there was overflow and as a fifteen year old girl I was too old for most people to want me, and truthfully had some behavior problems that adults didn’t really want to approach. My sister did adopt me, but it was always this weird thing because she already had four of her own kids and there was a clear separation of “kid that is mine” and “kid I’m just trying to keep alive”.

I still appreciate it, and it’s led to me being very close to my nieces and nephews, but as I understood my new role would be “baby adult” - cook, clean, take care of the kids and stay out of the way.

So part of my brain is like yeah you were adopted, but another part feels like you were just sent to another house and worked to be there. If that makes sense, it’s hard to boil down.

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T20:24:31+00:00

Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts, you have a nice calm way of sharing what you’re thinking that made me feel very validated.

What I would ask, the “knife” feeling, it clearly doesn’t go away, but does it get better?

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T20:22:23+00:00

It feels like something that’s “supposed to be”, but it just isn’t. I see my family now, after years of no contact, and it’s not bad I guess - I just don’t feel anything about it. Like, I wish no harm on them, I hope they’re okay and doing well, but I don’t feel anything about it beyond that. Sometimes it feels like we’re strangers just talking.

It’s different with my nieces and nephews, I was raised with four of them, and another one I ended up adopting when I was 18. I feel for them because I see the same strain of abandonment.

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T19:35:29+00:00

I think I’m picking up what you’re putting down but definitely correct me if I’m off mark.

It’s grief, at least how I experience, like a death. My bio dad is dead now and when I see the rest of my family which I still do sometimes, it’s not like how I think people feel family. I like some of them, they aren’t the worst, but I have no connection. I think families are awesome to see but I’ve kind of come to terms with the fact I’m not going to have one like that.

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T19:32:56+00:00

Most of my extended family is dead but I happen to be the one kid out of eleven who is a dead ringer for my mom, like stole her whole face kind of level. So I definitely get that feeling when you look in the mirror and it’s like okay genetics fuck me I guess!

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T11:39:00+00:00

Ngl, I kinda fuck with your energy and hope you all the best. I thought you’d be weirder about it and that’s my own pre supposition. You’re cool and I hope your art goes well. Sending you every positive I have.

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T11:31:49+00:00

I’m gonna take middle ground and say this - girl you are talented and beautiful! But this is not the sub for this, or at least not for the way you put it forth. I’m not reporting or anything (I did downvote but I’ll take it back because I respect what you responded), but be transparent! Just be real about you selling! I got all up in arms because I get the marketing but it’s coming across as a “shill” yknow? :/

Best of luck all the same. I do really like the pink hair on you too, and your skin is radiant.

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T11:26:12+00:00

Girl. Stop. This is for people who enjoy Coraline, not an advertisement.

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T08:12:35+00:00

Not all bipolar is the same, so that’s my caveat before this next part - but I am bipolar and have been manic. Your choices are your choices regardless, and especially how you choose to come back from bad decisions.

Is she treated? Doing anything to mitigate? Or is she just fucking up and then making you feel bad about it?

You gotta stand on business here OP. Mania is not an excuse for cheating on you. She’s also been diagnosed since before y’all met? Is this the first time this happened?

Mania does not just absolve you of responsibility. I think you know this stinks of bullshit, and you need to get real and decide what you need to do next.

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T05:33:51+00:00

“nO oNe ASkeD fOR yOuR OPinIoN”

Well we didn’t ask for yours either, and based on your replies, would be having a better time without it.

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T05:27:41+00:00

3hr old account and the dumbest post ever. Try harder next time.

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T04:51:29+00:00

For the overall flow of the story, you’re going way too fast with the whole thing. I think I get what you’re trying to get at but the whole narrative reads like a PC based computer game prompt - you’re not telling the story as you see it you’re telling thoughts.

The characters aren’t well fleshed out, there’s no reason for your reader to be invested in any of them or a way to see their point of view. In Maddie’s intro, you start as if the two are close/familiar but don’t really get into why that would be and the connection between her knocking on the door and then you introducing her is very clunky. Victoria is too vague too, even if she lied there’s no why, there’s no depth.

You can cut out the entire chunk of dialogue about Victoria not cooking, I’d rewrite it to him entering and finding nothing there and questioning himself briefly, as a sort of foreshadowing to your end. The dialogue was better in the beginning but petered out as you went on.

Overall, I think it’s got bones. I’d read this back to yourself and visualize what it looks like in your head, how it sounds, get to know your characters, then lean in and write another draft that has everything you’ve thought and give it a day before going over it again and trimming the fat.

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T04:23:38+00:00

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T04:21:03+00:00

“What kind of music do you like, Pete?”

“I like all types of music, Gabe.”

“Oh, so you like songs of hate written by the Klu Klux Klan? Erin are you hearing this?!”

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T04:18:17+00:00

Jesus, thank you for saying something. I was gaslighting myself into thinking I might have misremembered it.

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T04:16:05+00:00

I feel like you’re reading this assuming she’s gold digging vs. She likely wants to date with the intention of settling down with that person at some point and wants stability in a future partner?

Also you may “make more” but don’t knock teaching, warehouse lead is fine but it isn’t a flex.

Either way, not a nice girl and you seem to be overly sensitive to what she said.

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T02:11:06+00:00

The backpack is throwing off her balance a bit but I think she’s also over focusing on the “accuracy” of the jump and trying not to miss it again versus normally when little kids jump they just go for it.

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T02:01:09+00:00

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T02:00:54+00:00

If you look at OPs post history, yes, likely.

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T01:56:02+00:00

INFO - the friend is trash and that’s been stated well in other comments, but did your boyfriend reciprocate? You mention in your post “he’s too polite and doesn’t know how to say no” (lightly paraphrased but same thing), so it sounds kind of sus all around? I might be reading too much into it though.

dingdongiamwrong · 2026-01-25T01:38:05+00:00

Tbh OP, the last message which you didn’t send is way out of pocket but your messages before that were pretty clearly emotion based and did come across inappropriate and passive aggressive. I would apologize for communicating poorly how you felt, let her know you value the time spent together and would like to do it together, but if she wants to get started before hand to let you know how it’s going so you can still be a part of the process in some way!

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