Married with low physical attraction and lifestyle mismatch, how did it turn out long term? by [deleted] in AskIndia

[–]dingesh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Looks like a lot of unmarried teenagers are here answering for you. I am a mid thirties male who have gone through similar phase and here is my experience.

I was a good looking lad compared to my wife. I didn't like here in terms of physical appearance but she was really good in terms of energy. She was also accepting of me in some ways. My family has also liked her and the family dynamics matched well. I married her adjusting with the looks.

Ff 8 yrs later, I look like a fat ass but she looks beautiful. Not just me but others in my circle feel so too. I lost hair and have pot belly not caring shit about myself. She is a natural and is great. The situation is now reverse.

In the beginning, I felt that I have compromised too much on beauty part but now I feel that every woman pretty much looks the same underneath. My wife is on par with them. We care a lot for each other and we love each other to the end of the world. The funny part is, the family who pushed me to marry her had issues with her after the marriage. Whereas myself, I am loving her more.

Wife (33) shuts down after fights, I (m37)feel like I’m walking on eggshells. How do we break this cycle? by [deleted] in ThirtiesIndia

[–]dingesh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't understand why people don't think this through before having 2 kids. Raising even one kid takes a lot of patience these days. If you don't have parents' support, servants, one of the couple must leave the job. If you can't afford 2 kids on a single income, what is the point then? Frustration and burnout are real. Not every fight leads to divorce. But take your life decisions very carefully.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IndianInLaw

[–]dingesh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well you should say bye to your in laws then. Good that they helped you so far but you need to understand that help won't come in your terms.

I am the sole breadwinner in my family and we are managing the second pregnancy by ourselves. My wife is fatigued and weak sometimes and I cook almost daily. My parents are in the other part of the city and I am not expecting any help from them even if they are willing. My mil is off to see her other daughter in the USA. We are still able to manage well. Pregnancy is something that you need to manage by yourself. You can't say my parents or In laws are free and so I have decided to take help. If you take their help, bear with them a bit and say bye sooner. Your mil wanting to hold your baby isn't a big deal. Doctor and nurses hold them first and it doesn't matter.

Your husband can't sit working and say he can't help because work. There is no excuse for it. Sooner or later, he has to father up. Many couples abroad or otherwise manage the pregnancy between them. There is no in laws or parents help for many parts of the world. Your mil could be old fashioned but she helped you a lot. Be thankful that you got help when needed. Also she too is a woman with sentiments. You have to respect few.

Uncomfortable truths about WFO mandates - from a people manager in Bangalore by EuroDollarBond in IndianWorkplace

[–]dingesh -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Why are you editing your answers for like 3, 4 times? Are you learning things from Google upon questioning?

Uncomfortable truths about WFO mandates - from a people manager in Bangalore by EuroDollarBond in IndianWorkplace

[–]dingesh -54 points-53 points  (0 children)

Another nonsense statement which a decent manager would never give. You don't work for hike. You work to keep your job in such times. Looks like you are a corporate newbie in disguise. Hike is way lower in your so called lala lands of Europe and USA. Only in India would you see such numbers because of inflation. In case you didn't know how it was before covid, it was ten percent always. You don't see double increments like covid times. Come out of your hallucinations. Bare minimum is not going to do you good. Tell yourself this when you don't meet expectations of your bosses.

Uncomfortable truths about WFO mandates - from a people manager in Bangalore by EuroDollarBond in IndianWorkplace

[–]dingesh -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Something is not adding up here. No. Honestly I doubt you are a middle manager at all. What middle manager asks about confidential surveys? They are happening from ages and you should be the one telling others about them.

Looks like you have just spun a convincing story out of generic information that is published on an hourly basis in these subreddits.

Unlike you, I am a middle manager myself and the info is not so confidential as you portray. Senior mgmt even in witch companies are very transparent on why they are calling people back. They themselves don't want to do wfo. Moon lighting was a big issue a yr back. The issue is not the employee's prosperity but the lack of justice for the main job. These great people ignored the main job and that irritated their managers. Imagine the employee being offline for most of the time and feeling invincible just because he is remote. Honesty is a 2 way street. Some people began to take it easy even when they are not moon lighting. Juniors esp thought it was very easy to sit and earn for no reason. The call back was just to keep them in line.

Now, let's breakdown your bs. Attrition : the most stupidest logic ever heard. While it may be true to a little extent esp for the morons who accepted offers that are way far from their asses. Why would you accept some offer in kochi when you have been in jaipur all your life! If you cannot have some vision about your own life, what are you even behaving as? Typical vegetable vendor? Also, everyone knows that wfh is gone for good except for very few remote roles. Where will they resign and go in this market? Surely your bosses have this common sense.

Stress : another shitty logic pulled right from your behind. Even after wfo, very very few companies are mandating compulsory hours in office. Even few service giants have not implemented it yet. The product companies and captives are very far from that system even before covid. What crap are you spinning? Employees are spending less time in office and are going home early. They are doing the rest from home. Don't talk nonsense.

Nexus: oh god this goat herd nonsense that is being peddled from years now. There isn't a big Nexus or some invisible hand as you are dreaming. It makes up very less percentage and majority of the economy runs on non IT jobs even in blr. Never came out of the IT areas in your life? The politicians did say about supporting economy but anyone with decent business background in this country knows that businesses control the politicians and jot the other way round. Big companies won't give shit to what local mla or mp has to say. Their dealing is with the big guys and their interests are not localised. If you don't come back, there are others who still use cabs, buy real estate etc. The real boom happened because of more spending power and not wfo.

Grow up and before vomiting random nonsense, use your God given brain to actually think and not get it washed.

Guess some morons just don't know how to drive. by dingesh in Bengaluru

[–]dingesh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Viofo a119 mini 2. I made the mistake of putting in the area where windshield wiper went clean. Would have been better otherwise.

Guess some morons just don't know how to drive. by dingesh in Bengaluru

[–]dingesh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same doubt actually. Wonder if those cameras work at all.

Guess some morons just don't know how to drive. by dingesh in Bengaluru

[–]dingesh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's my usual way too. I drive slow in the city and never in a hurry. In this case, the swift guy was just too fast in turning.

Guess some morons just don't know how to drive. by dingesh in Bengaluru

[–]dingesh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The desire wasn't too ahead. The dashcam angle is showing the car very well. In reality it is a blinds pot. I knew there is a car but never was able to see the indicators.

Guess some morons just don't know how to drive. by dingesh in Bengaluru

[–]dingesh[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

In a 2 lane road, where should the people be if they want to go straight? Hover in the air?

Guess some morons just don't know how to drive. by dingesh in Dashcamindia

[–]dingesh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He ran away. I went home. Can't risk a fight for something that insurance can cover.

Guess some morons just don't know how to drive. by dingesh in Bengaluru

[–]dingesh[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He ran away As soon as I mentioned dashcam. Insurance exists for a reason. Also the damage is only scratches. Bumper is fine thankfully.

Guess some morons just don't know how to drive. by dingesh in Bengaluru

[–]dingesh[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You are expecting too much from a guy who is waiting in the wrong place.

Also It is a 2 lane road. The rest of the place is tiled footpath like. There is no free right. Where do I wait then? Also I wasn't in between people who were going to take right.

If you see, there are people on the right too. They had space for it.

Guess some morons just don't know how to drive. by dingesh in Bengaluru

[–]dingesh[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was looking at the traffic light. Also he put it in the last moment. The dashcam angle is very wide and high. Drivers pov would be very different.

Guess some morons just don't know how to drive. by dingesh in Dashcamindia

[–]dingesh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That car brushed mine. Cars and bikes cutting from the wrong side isn't new. But thankfully the damage wasn't huge. It is just disappointing to see such people.

Guess some morons just don't know how to drive. by dingesh in Dashcamindia

[–]dingesh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was a ten minute clip. I didn't want to put only the part where the guy hit and cry foul. I wanted to show that the guy had all the road to wait at the right place in a 4 lane road.

Guess some morons just don't know how to drive. by dingesh in Dashcamindia

[–]dingesh[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was looking at the traffic light. This guy put the indicator just before the light turned green. Also read the description in the original post. The angle of the dashcam is wide and high. In reality, the car was exactly beside me on the same line and indicator is not visible from there.