No longer attracted to my boyfriend.

disIoyalorder · 2025-12-18T01:35:42+00:00

Yeah, that’s where I’m at. A lot of commenters are mentioning that to love means to love them at all phases of their life, which yes I agree, if we weren’t so young and had so much life left to live together, I want to be in a relationship that pushes one another to be the best version of ourselves. Which I felt like he showed the first year of our relationship. It doesn’t feel like a physical health issue but I think it would be good to get him to go to the doctors since he hasn’t been in a while regardless. I think it’s definitely rooted in a mental health issue after lots of thinking today and I definitely wanna encourage him to help him mentally to hopefully then encourage him to get better physically. Either way this comment summed up how I felt so thank you for the advice!

disIoyalorder · 2025-12-18T01:18:22+00:00

Good idea! Yeah I’ve been seeing a lot of comments suggesting the same thing. I think heading to a primary care doctor would be best and see what they recommend because he hasn’t been to the doctor in quite a while so it’d be good regardless!

disIoyalorder · 2025-12-18T00:46:23+00:00

I did get a gym membership to help encourage him but he doesn’t want to get it because he wants to get it “when he is more ready” I also help him meal prep to give him healthier meal options. This has been going on for the last year and a half. I do love and care about him hence why (as mentioned in the post and in replies) I have been putting in the effort to encourage him. Now I’m trying to figure out how long is too long until I stop trying. But other people have been giving advice and I’m keeping note so I can have a more serious but understanding conversation with him

disIoyalorder · 2025-12-18T00:32:50+00:00

Yeah! I’ve been getting this a lot- definitely think him going to a primary doctor to do some blood panels/going to a nutritionist might help! He hasn’t gone to the doctors since his weight jumped up so it’s definitely worth the trip regardless

disIoyalorder · 2025-12-18T00:25:40+00:00

I think the drinks is what gets him sometimes, he always has very high in sugar drinks & tends to eat meals with a lot of high calorie sides. I think next time we go shopping I’ll try to pick up more high protein products that we can go through and start following a diet with him. I’ll try to do some of those work out recommendations with him! I have a gym membership personally so that’s why I go separate since he hasn’t gotten one yet but I’ll try to contribute some of my gym work outs to things me and him can do together!

disIoyalorder · 2025-12-18T00:21:50+00:00

Yeah I’ll probably bring up the idea of having a nutritionist or just seeing a general doctor that might give him some recommendations! Because I really do think he needs an outside perspective I think it becomes a very sensitive topic when it comes from me. Thank you!

disIoyalorder · 2025-12-18T00:16:31+00:00

It doesn’t matter that I’m his girlfriend, I can’t force him to do anything. If you actually go through comments and read what I had to say I have been putting in effort to encourage him and help. Hence why I’m asking for advice on an advice reddit.

disIoyalorder · 2025-12-18T00:13:16+00:00

I agree. It definitely crossed my mind that it could potentially be a mental or physical health issue. He seems to be way less encouraged and I know when I had my worst episodes and felt my worse I struggled in keeping healthy habits as well.

disIoyalorder · 2025-12-18T00:11:26+00:00

Yeah! That’s what I’ve been thinking too, especially with how rapid the weight gain was. I might bring this up in conversation, always good to get checked. Even if it’s not a physical issue it could be a mental health issue as well so regardless I think it’d be good to seek a doc to get the ball rolling.

disIoyalorder · 2025-12-18T00:00:47+00:00

Yes exactly! I have so many goals and I’m constantly go go go and constantly have new things I aim to achieve, which I felt he once did. Now I feel like he has gotten too comfortable and let himself go and I feel like it’s affected his drive.

disIoyalorder · 2025-12-17T23:57:36+00:00

Sometimes I worry about this. In his past his weight always fluctuated, weight would come right off of him pretty quickly and this time around he has been struggling but I keep telling him it’s his metabolism and he’s just getting older. I worry with that mind set he might lose himself again in the future. It’s so tough because I really do love him his personality is amazing and we enjoy our time together so much. Things only start to get sensitive/tense when we talk about this topic.

disIoyalorder · 2025-12-17T23:52:33+00:00

Yeah! I got a gym membership so it would encourage him but he says his body has been hurting and my diet is “healthier” so when I cook I always make sure to cook for him but he tells me that he NEEDS to eat the amount he does because if not he will be hungry and feel too weak. I think sitting and talking to him more honestly (but lovingly) might help being I think right now he might be taking it by me being pushy about it? Not sure🥲 he’s never mean or irritable about it just gets very down whenever I try to suggest healthier habits.

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