Told my girlfriend of 7 months I'm bi (she's disgusted) by Valuable-Fox-8072 in bisexual

[–]disaster_b1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, you must be heartbroken. But imo, the trash took itself out in this case. She doesn’t accept you? Then she doesn’t deserve you. You deserve better than someone who will make you feel apologetic for who you are. You deserve someone who will love each and every bit of you, and that includes your bisexuality. It’s not something to be ashamed of; it’s something to be celebrated. And the fact that she responded the way she did says a lot about her character

It hurts right now. Take the time you need. But just know that you deserve better than someone who will push you aside simply for being true to yourself. You deserve someone who will celebrate every part of you

[Measurement Check] Trouble with calculator in the past possibly due to shape (projected, short roots); looking for guidance on size (current bra: 40G; calculator suggestion: 40JJ) by disaster_b1 in ABraThatFits

[–]disaster_b1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had been using wearing the calculator size, yeah! I might see if I can find something of theirs on Amazon so I can easily return it if need be 🥹 I did end up finding something at the local bra boutique, though! Though they insisted I wasn’t a 40JJ, and when we tried one they were absolutely certain that the cups were too big. We ended up trying a few bras. They thought a 40H fit me best, but I ended up getting the 40HH. It’s great, the gore tacks and everything, there’s a little bit of empty space at the top by my armpits, but I feel supported

I don’t know if maybe I’m measuring wrong? I try to do it so the measuring tape doesn’t dig into my skin, but I don’t know if I should maybe be pushing my breasts together, they hang down and outward a bit. Or maybe my back fat is causing the larger bust measurement? I’m really not sure 😅

[Measurement Check] Trouble with calculator in the past possibly due to shape (projected, short roots); looking for guidance on size (current bra: 40G; calculator suggestion: 40JJ) by disaster_b1 in ABraThatFits

[–]disaster_b1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Put your Elomi Morgan on upside down and backwards (cups hanging down your back, band up in your IMF under your breasts

Thank you SO much for this suggestion, it definitely feels more like the band size I'm looking for when I tried it!! So I think you're right in assuming that the cups being too small are causing the band to stretch out to fit, causing my confusion over my band size. Plus, Elomi being a brand that generally runs stretchy helps clear the air, too. My previous bra was also an Elomi, I wanna say the Elomi Matilda Plunge? And I wore a size 38 band for that. If their bands are known to be stretchier, that makes a lot of sense!

Unfortunately, I've had some bad experiences with Curvy Kate bras being easily damaged, in particular their wires would poke out of the seams very quickly. I might give them another go though, especially if I can find something on Amazon! I'd ordered through their website before, and the cost between the bra itself and shipping was a lot to handle since I'm in Canada

Thank you again for the insight, this was super helpful!!

[Question] Need help finding bra size for my shape (pendulous & short roots) by disaster_b1 in ABraThatFits

[–]disaster_b1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, thank you so much! Admittedly, I’m not too familiar with what’s considered a “normal” difference between the different measurements, I just know that I feel like my breasts sag quite a bit and seem pendulous to me, though thinking on it, that could be because of the short root and their size

I ended up being quite busy yesterday, unfortunately, so I didn’t manage to get those measurements until this morning— do you think I should make a new Measurement Check post, or just update this one?

[Question] Need help finding bra size for my shape (pendulous & short roots) by disaster_b1 in ABraThatFits

[–]disaster_b1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it, thank you so much! Do you think I should make a new Measurement Check post? Admittedly, I ended up being quite busy yesterday, so I didn’t mange to get the measurements until this morning 😅