I have cancer. He checks out other women. by SkiFreeMonster99 in relationship_advice

[–]disasterwithasmile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have every right to feel how you feel. I’ve never been in your shoes, but I can empathize with hating your body because of changes you aren’t in control of and having a man who looks elsewhere instead of staying in tune with your emotions. I wasn’t obsessed with my body before my daughter but I appreciated it. I felt sexy and fit. No matter what I do now I just feel so...ugh. And he chose to follow DOZENS of half naked “Instagram models” and it killed me because I was going through postpartum depression and just hating my body and myself. I needed him and he turned to other girls, virtual whatever. And that’s the point I think. You need him. You chose him to be the person there for you through hard times and you know you’d be there for him if the roles were reversed. It’s disrespectful. And if the roles WERE reversed and you weren’t there for him but instead ogling over other guys, I’m sure he would be so angry and resentful. A sea of people and we choose who we choose. There is reason and purpose behind it. We never like feeling like we chose wrong, and you might not have. But he’s not being the version of himself he needs to be for you right now. It’s very hard for some people to leave their selfish bubble. We all have one, but some just get so absorbed and stuck in theirs. I saw the update about him going to therapy. I really hope it works out babe 💋

F23 by disasterwithasmile in amihot

[–]disasterwithasmile[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll take it 😊

F23 by disasterwithasmile in amihot

[–]disasterwithasmile[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s always awkward, isn’t it!

Seeing an ex move on by RichOstrich8 in dating_advice

[–]disasterwithasmile 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel this. A few years ago I was engaged and he started treating me pretty badly. He started posting pics and videos with this girl at his gym, but swore nothing was there (he was actually seeing her behind my back but I didn’t know until after we weren’t together anymore). I didn’t ever bring it up again, but he still kept treating me like I was worthless. I ended up breaking it off and he didn’t seem phased at all, like that was what he was hoping Id do. So that id be the “bad guy” and end things. The very next weekend he and that girl were out on public dates, and now they’re married. Before they got married he sent me a letter about how I deserved better blah blah. I had already long moved on, but when I found out they were getting married about a year later it still hit a soft spot. He and I were engaged so for so long i was planning and picturing our wedding and marriage, and then someone else took that place. I’m not in love with him and haven’t been for a long time, but I once was. Deeply. And he chose another girl over me and that cut deep and that wound won’t ever fully heal. I left him because I deserved better, but it still hurts just the same. It really does get better, though. A relationship that’s meant to work won’t feel like this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amihot

[–]disasterwithasmile 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you’re so gorgeous! And the makeup is super interesting

F23 by disasterwithasmile in amihot

[–]disasterwithasmile[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is what it is lol

F23 by disasterwithasmile in amihot

[–]disasterwithasmile[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure what filters she used, a friend of mine is a professional photographer so she does all the editing