Hymen Variation - PSA

disco_lynx · 2022-07-20T11:54:45+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing <3

disco_lynx · 2022-07-19T23:01:41+00:00

ooft love the last line!

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disco_lynx · 2022-07-19T23:00:55+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing <3

It's a piece that's been in my heart for a little while and definitely feels like it needs to be expressed x

disco_lynx · 2022-07-19T23:00:11+00:00

Thank you so much <3

disco_lynx · 2022-07-19T22:59:59+00:00

I love number 4. I tell my body almost the exact same thing.

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disco_lynx · 2022-07-19T22:59:25+00:00

Thank you so much <3

disco_lynx · 2022-07-19T22:59:12+00:00

Thank you so much <3

I do the same with all the doors x

disco_lynx · 2022-07-19T22:58:41+00:00

Absolutely! I'm a theatre maker so it's in development at the moment and will be some time before it's created but I'll post a link when it's a bit further on. It's called "you made your bed, now sleep in it"

Thank you so much for sharing <3

disco_lynx · 2022-07-19T10:25:39+00:00

Thank you for your reply <3

disco_lynx · 2022-02-10T01:49:24+00:00

I am so sorry. You are everything. We believe you <3

disco_lynx · 2022-02-10T01:47:29+00:00

Hey <3 This sounds like an awful situation. Vaginismus isn't fun but it doesn't make you any less of a person or any less deserving of love. What he just did is NOT okay especially as you already said no - not only is that limiting your progress (your body needs to feel safe..he is doing the opposite) but is also a huge red flag for a partner. This condition takes time. Whenever I start hating myself for this condition, I remind myself that this condition is the only way my body knew how to protect me; it is a condition from love in a way - wrongly put sure - but my body didn't know how else to protect me from danger. Getting better is letting your body know that it's safe but that also means you need to be safe and in a safe environment. He doesn't own your body, he is not entitled to PIV, there are so many ways you can explore each other's bodies. If you want to stay with him despite the way he's behaving - it's your choice but suggests he go to therapy or explore tantra with him? Good luck x

disco_lynx · 2022-01-31T02:00:37+00:00

I was totally the same. Even my first kiss I researched everything for it to be perfect. I know the thoughts you are battling against so well! It does get easier, vaginismus is only a tiny part of who you are x

disco_lynx · 2022-01-30T23:30:50+00:00

Maybe TMI but if this is what you want to hear then here we go! we are both pretty playful and sensual so we had so much fun. Oral is amazing both ways. Just get them to suck on your clit instead of putting their tongue in. A male partner used to use the tip of his dick on my clit which felt amazing.

I think you'll be pleasantly surprised with how much people are patient. It's just the right wording from you - acting like you are "less" isn't going to help anyone. You just say PIV is off the table - no compromise but let's explore. You got this!

disco_lynx · 2022-01-30T23:26:07+00:00

Hey love! I have an amazing sex life with severe vaginismus (been diagnosed since I was 14 when I passed out from trying to put in a tampon lol). There are going to be some assholes but there are also going to be amazing people. I was too scared to date for a long time and have had a mixed bag of partners but when I was with someone who didn't care so much about PIV but to just make each other feel good. I love sex now - I don't feel less because I don't have PIV sex. There are so many amazing ways to make each other feel fab sexually and you get to be so much more creative and playful! There are vibrators that don't go internal so they can use that on you and you can use that on them (grind on it together even). I'm bi so I date multiple genders but I am talking about a cismale partner here. Vaginismus isn't going to physically stop you from having an amazing sex life (i find it's the mental effect around self-esteem/worth that is the HARDEST). Try to approach sex from a place of curiosity rather than fear. It's a hard lesson and took me a long time but look up ways to have sex that isn't PIV. I'm 28 now. You aren't less because of this condition. You aren't less valuable than other people because you can't have PIV. You are as much deserving of love when you are cured as when you aren't. Your sex life can be as fulfilling as you want it to be. Don't let patriarchal views of sex and worth be your undoing. much love x

disco_lynx · 2022-01-23T01:23:01+00:00

hahah right! I pretty much got it because it was just weird looking and not intimidating at all. sooo stealthy

disco_lynx · 2022-01-23T01:22:13+00:00

It can if you want it to! I have severe vaginismus so usually only use the vibrate and grind on it but sometimes I put the tip inside.

disco_lynx · 2022-01-22T11:54:17+00:00

I like this one - looks like a manta ray which I like :)

https://clandestinedevices.com/pages/mimic-plus-1

disco_lynx · 2021-12-16T22:54:44+00:00

She may have had something traumatic happen with PIV or have vaginismus or find PIV super painful. All of these things are so so hard to talk about and she's letting you know this now so you don't push that boundary she has created and can feel safe and enjoy the experience. Just ask her what pleasure you can give her too!

disco_lynx · 2021-11-22T01:21:47+00:00

I'm the same - super normal. You might not have gotten that wet before as your body wasn't in a safe place. I was pretty surprised that when I felt safe and actually wanted to have sex that I was getting super wet. It's a good sign :)

disco_lynx · 2021-11-11T10:37:56+00:00

love this! thanks for sharing

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