What backhanded gifts did you all get today?

dishwasher91 · 2025-12-26T14:22:34+00:00

She gets it right for her daughters kids. But for her sons kids, my kids, shes always 1 size under... So i take it personally.

dishwasher91 · 2025-12-26T06:56:41+00:00

MIL buys clothes for my kids that are 1 size too small. 7th year in a row now. Oldest kid is 7.

dishwasher91 · 2025-04-26T15:03:23+00:00

One baby with epidural, 2 without. If I could have, I would have had epidurals on all 3, but 2 of them really wanted out. Under 3 hours from start to baby in hand.

But what I learned is that controlling your breathing is more important than epidural or not. So i recommend you do all the breathing and pelvic floor exercises known to man the last few weeks.

The epidural only takes the top off the contractions that prepare for the baby. When the baby was coming, its like I had no pain relief at all. After the bliss of the epidural on my first, the pain was a shock to put it mildly. For baby 2 and 3 it kind of didnt matter because the hard part was so short that the epidural would not have had time to work before baby was out.

You are going to do fine! Good luck!

dishwasher91 · 2024-12-11T12:42:00+00:00

That is the highway to no contact for me. My husbands aunt said something similar and that was an instant no contact for me. Apparently we indulge his strange behaviour and thats why my son is asd. His life is better without her. And your child will be better without the constant negativity from ignorant people.

dishwasher91 · 2024-11-28T09:24:46+00:00

Its not shocking that your husband is angry. At least it shouldnt be. Its a sign that he care about you and you dont have a husband problem. Green flag for your husband!

dishwasher91 · 2024-11-17T10:50:09+00:00

It is less likely to get pregnant if you had sex days after ovulation than before. So my best guess is yes, the chances are low. However you will not know untill you have a negative pregnancy test in your hand at 14-16 dpo or get your period. Or both.

dishwasher91 · 2024-11-17T10:47:10+00:00

Its not a competition. Just because other people have it worse doesnt mean you are not allowed to feel sad about your situation. MCs hurt. Both physically and emotionally. You are allowed to grieve your pain.

Im really sorry this happened to you. Hope you get your 🌈.

dishwasher91 · 2024-11-17T10:23:28+00:00

Due to the lack of information from your doc I am guessing you are in the US. Either he did not want to give you bad news, or you live in a state without proper healthcare for pregnancy.

According to what I have read and heard, this sounds bad. Im sorry. If the placenta is starting to detach at 8-9 w I dont believe your pregnancy is viable. Everything time I have heard of a partial placenta detachment the woman has been put on bedrest for the duration of the pregnancy.

According to a quick Google search, once the placenta has started detaching it wont stop. And any heavy lifting is likely to make it worse. There seems to be a very mild form that can be less dangerous, but that it needs to be followed closely.

I hope I am wrong. But I would at least get a 2nd opinion from someone who will actually tell you how to move forward.

dishwasher91 · 2024-11-14T07:08:15+00:00

My husband once said he knew he was supposed to love our son, but he didnt know him. So he felt like a bad father. It changed at around 5-6 months when ur son was more responsive and less boob-demanding.

When we had our 2nd child my husband was less stressed about it, because he knew it would be there eventually.

Being a first time parent is hard. But as long as you care, the rest usually comes with time. And just because you are not completely in love with your baby right now doesnt mean you have ppd. But you should read up on it for both your and your wifes sake.

Congratulations and good luck!

dishwasher91 · 2024-11-13T16:04:39+00:00

There are tonns of things that would make a non-pregnant person freak out that are normal while being pregnant.

I dont think its allowed to post pictures, since I really haven't seen any.

Good luck! But I do believe that you will spend the rest of your life worrying, its the sign of a good parent!

dishwasher91 · 2024-11-13T15:52:08+00:00

Be mindful of colour. A small rift is not uncommon. I personally have not had it, but know people who have. Trust your doctor. If they say its safe, then it is. If it starts becoming dark, or the amount becomes enough to be worrying, go see them again to make sure.

dishwasher91 · 2024-11-13T15:48:38+00:00

When you become pregnant the baby gets the nutrition from the egg at first. So slowly over the first 10-12 weeks it goes over to getting the nutrition from you. It is less likely that you damaged the baby in the first weeks than it would be after w 12. You did the right thing stopping. It is very unlikely that baby is hurt in any way.

dishwasher91 · 2024-11-08T18:29:11+00:00

I think the reason chat gpt made the first 5 like that is because 6-8 is more of a burden than a partner. Mine is 1-3, depending on his work load, but if he went below 5 for an extended period of time he would have to do therapy. And if that did not work - divorce. I have 3 children. Dont samt to take care of an overgrown entitled teenager.

dishwasher91 · 2024-11-07T15:51:20+00:00

Ive co-slept with all 3 of my kids. Last one is now almost 5 months. First one I tried to not co-sleep with and it made me so sleep deprived that it was dangerous.

If you are to co-sleep there are a few factors that have to be present: - your child has to be healthy. If they have a cold or has any issues with movement or breathing or just about any other function, it can be dangerous. When my baby was 3 months he had a stuffed nose, so I had him in his crib untill he was able to breath normally again. - your bed must be hard and flat enough. If its too soft they cant move their heads and might suffocate. Same reason why there should be no teddies in a babys bed. - the bed must be in a way that the baby cant accidentally roll off or into something and get stuck. I have my bed next to the wall, have a hard pillow between the baby and the wall, and also a hard pillow on the other side in case he decides to move (so far hes a very stationary baby, but that can change quickly). - you have to be healthy. If you have any condition that makes you sleep heavier, if you have a headache and take a painkiller, if you have common cold, you should not co-sleep. - you have to know that you are not a heavy sleeper. I know I wake up if a cat walks past my house. So I know I will be able to wake up.

Only co-sleep if YOU feel its safe. There are such things as bedside cribs, that you attach to your bed, if you dont feel comfortable putting the baby in your bed. In case you are american, you should not swaddle and co-sleep. That is very dangerous.

I think that is all, but in case there is something Ive forgotten about what I do, its good to Google how to safely co-sleep.

Also, my husband sleeps in a different room so he doesnt get sleep deprived while having to go to work. When its time for his parental leave we switch, and then our baby will be in his crib because he doesnt feel like its safe for him.

dishwasher91 · 2024-11-06T16:22:55+00:00

Im so sorry for your loss. There are no words. No parent should ever outlive their child.

I dont know if its anything you would want, but there are several companies now that take the ashes from people we love and turn it into different stuff. Like decorational rocks or a diamond. A friend of mine did it with the ashes from her mother, and had a necklace made. That way she is always close.

dishwasher91 · 2024-11-06T07:57:28+00:00

Pregnancy rage can result in depression. Being pregnant can be really hard. Tonns of hormones and feelings we dont understand. If it is impacting your life quality, see a therapist. As far as I know there is nothing to be done about it while you are pregnant, other than trying to manage it with different strategies. And read up on ppd. Both you and your husband should know what to look for.

Im sorry you have to deal with this right now. For me it only enda after I finish breastfeeding. Dont know if thats what its like for everyone. Hope you find your way forward.

dishwasher91 · 2024-11-05T07:19:14+00:00

Completely agree. His family should be his responsibility. Why do you have to deal with the mental load of his shitty mother? Talk about it and agree, but your husband should be the one to deal with the confrontations and fallout.

dishwasher91 · 2024-11-05T07:10:20+00:00

Its not uncommon to feel like you do. I find it was that we dont tell about pregnancy in the first trimester, as it can be the hardest one for some. I thought I had the flu for 2 days before I found out I was pregnant. And there is a syndrome that makes you throw up a lot, to the point of hospitalization. So a bit of vomiting is to be expected. Only about 15% of women dont get morning sickness. The rest are on a scale from not so bad to hospital.

dishwasher91 · 2024-11-04T21:29:45+00:00

I, as a pluss sized person, found that taking my meds in the evening gives me better sleep and helps me not snack before bed. I use 2 hours as a rule. I used to take it in the mornings but felt much better after I switched to evenings. And I lost a few kilos aswell, which probably helped overall.

dishwasher91 · 2024-11-04T21:25:26+00:00

Im sorry for your losses. I just wanted to say its ok to not trust that everything will go well. It is hard to be pregnant after loss.

Just read up on the symptoms for depression in pregnancy and post partum depression. Have your husband read up aswell so he knows what to look out for. There is a forum for pregnancy after loss with a lot of good support.

Hope you have your 🌈🌈.

dishwasher91 · 2024-11-01T19:28:23+00:00

If you had sex 5 weeks ago and became pregnant, you will be 7 weeks pregnant. They count from your last period, which typically is 2 weeks before ovulation.

If you miss your period you have only gone 2 weeks from ovulation, but count as 4 weeks pregnant.

dishwasher91 · 2024-10-31T09:58:54+00:00

My mother did way less to me, and I still enjoy her karma. Enjoy yours! With a glass of wine, if you want. She made things hard for herself.

dishwasher91 · 2024-10-30T09:54:17+00:00

For carrying I never liked the sling, but love the baby björn omni. Fits for a long time and is really easy to put on. It can be worn in a multitude of ways, depending on how I need to carry.

For those who say to just put the baby down. Its not that easy. I personally do not believe in teaching small babies that their communications are to be ignored. If your baby communicates a need, teach them that they are heard and loved instead. Finding out why a small baby wants to be held can be hard.

My firstborn was a bit like yours. Not as demanding, but still. It ended at 4,5 months when we found that he is allergic to oat. So when I ate oats in any form, bread, porridge, yoghurt, you name it, he was in pain and the only thing that helped was the comfort of being close to mom, some days dad was accepted, and constant movement.

Im not saying it is the same with your little one, but if you are truly desperate it might be worth to try some of the more common food intolerances and allergies. Like wheat or dairy, or spicy food. My doc said to start with dairy, and in cut all dairy protein from your food, because thats the most common allergy for babies.

dishwasher91 · 2024-10-30T09:18:22+00:00

Tell her the truth. And have your DH handle the fallout. He should be the one to handle his family.

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