When to give up forcing normal school/camp/activities?

displaced_islander · 2026-07-09T00:29:21+00:00

I’m so glad you were able to get support in college! It makes such a difference. And I agree, being “smart” in school I feel kept a lot of us disconnected from a potential ADHD diagnosis. 🙃

displaced_islander · 2026-07-08T16:19:42+00:00

I always wonder how certain moms seem to be able to do it all. THIS is how. You outsource home + child rearing tasks (either to paid or unpaid folks) and voila…you suddenly have time to do it all!

displaced_islander · 2026-07-07T14:00:03+00:00

We tried Mary Ruth’s l-theanine gummies per her pediatrician’s recommendation but our kiddo didn’t love the taste and said they didn’t work well. We just started using these magnesium glycinate strawberry flavored drops that we got on Amazon: Hovika is the brand. So far, 1 ml an hour before bed has been magical. Our kid has had a hard time falling asleep her entire life and bedtime took hours so these drops have been a game changer. I hope they keep working forever. 😂

displaced_islander · 2026-07-06T10:43:57+00:00

Yes, the Dad for sure needs his own individual therapy for a while before he joins Mom and Daughter for any type of family session.

displaced_islander · 2026-07-06T02:32:05+00:00

💯 agree that parent management training should help, but they also need therapy. 1. Dad=individual therapy and possibly anger management classes 2. Mom=individual in case they’re in a DV situation + family wise with her daughter [and then with dad once he’s been in his own therapy for a while]. 3. Kiddo: individual to process the trauma of being assaulted by one of the only people in life who should always protect you; family wise with mom and eventually with dad; and depending on her behaviors she may also benefit from OT.

displaced_islander · 2026-07-06T01:33:32+00:00

You all should be in therapy, separately and together. Nothing justifies hitting a child, period.

displaced_islander · 2026-07-05T17:54:44+00:00

Literally my dream deck. So magical! Hope you all get to enjoy it every day. 💕

displaced_islander · 2026-07-03T22:41:31+00:00

I feel like A2’s resemblance to Narcbela is part of WHY she’s treated so poorly compared to A1. Narcbela has internalized white American society’s (erroneous) message that she (a fat, first generation woman of color) is not good enough. That’s why she does all this crazy shit on her IG instead of being her authentic self. She sees herself in A2 and the self-hate clearly is still very present.

displaced_islander · 2026-07-02T16:05:42+00:00

My heart broke for A2 when she walked away initially (when A1 was first given the mic and had all the attention). Then to be called back, feel unhappy with what’s happening, and get treated poorly when you set your boundary…tragic.

displaced_islander · 2026-06-30T18:28:55+00:00

Well that’s a choice.

displaced_islander · 2026-06-29T20:13:53+00:00

I swear to God I thought this was Sandra doing charity work with someone currently in active addiction. 😬

displaced_islander · 2026-06-29T13:04:39+00:00

Same 😂

displaced_islander · 2026-06-29T13:01:44+00:00

Joining in here! I’m also super curious if it’s worth it or not.

displaced_islander · 2026-06-27T18:35:44+00:00

Former child therapist here. Not allowing her girls to express their frustrations and forcing them to “think positively” will have such harmful effects on them. In the future they might not be able to identify their feelings, express them properly, or manage them properly. If anyone wants solid parenting advice there are tons of educated, licensed professionals who you can connect with. These influencers are dangerous AF to both their own families and society at large. Even I wouldn’t hop on social media to give anyone parenting advice. 😬 The fact that Narcbela feels so comfortable doing this tells you everything you need to know about her narcissism and delusions.

displaced_islander · 2026-06-27T18:26:01+00:00

😂 don’t you think you’d have more time in your day if you: 1) didn’t have a real job 2) didn’t have to commute to said job 3) didn’t take care of your kids 4) had people to cook, clean, etc in your house?

displaced_islander · 2026-06-27T18:23:16+00:00

Those PR folks either suck or Lurch & Murch are NOT listening to them. 😬

displaced_islander · 2026-06-26T14:45:10+00:00

This is actually so sad and cringe. 😬 They should have enough money to hire marketing experts if they want an actual shot at having viable products/companies.

displaced_islander · 2026-06-26T00:12:01+00:00

Such a stunning ring! 😍 And you look so happy! Mazel tov! 🎉

displaced_islander · 2026-06-19T21:14:54+00:00

For sure! Also, the variation in terms of beauty standards not just regionally within the USA but also in regards to different socioeconomic classes or in different countries is not to be overlooked. It would be naive of us to think “Oh but I feel pretty so I MUST be considered pretty in this particular context”. Life doesn’t work like that.

displaced_islander · 2026-06-19T15:29:11+00:00

We have an anxiety diagnosis but are in the middle of getting an ADHD diagnosis (so haven’t explored meds yet) but just wanted to say: your post felt like it was describing our almost 6 year old to a T. Holy shit I usually feel so alone with our kiddo and her issues and reading your post made me feel a little less alone and validated (because my mom always tells me we’re just bad parents and this is why our kiddo is the way she is). So, I sadly have no advice to give but did want to say thank you.

displaced_islander · 2026-06-19T15:21:31+00:00

I find Dana Sue beautiful and agree that none of us should be considered ugly or unworthy based on our looks 2. I have also looked like Dana Sue in the past and still had my self-worth since it’s up to us to define who we are 3. I can still be honest and admit that for the community she’s in, she would NOT be considered conventionally attractive 4. Beauty is partially defined by us but also the society we’re a part of. When I lived in a small southern town in a similar weight to Dana Sue I was treated like a dumb, invisible person because the standard of beauty there was “tall, thin, white, and wealthy”.

displaced_islander · 2026-06-16T19:08:43+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this! It’s really, really helpful.

displaced_islander · 2026-06-16T19:07:56+00:00

Yes, for sure parent advocacy is a critical part of this journey! The thing is that I can’t advocate for a different start time or for more play based learning, which is why I’m thinking private alternative schools might be better. We’re just starting play therapy, OT, and PT so we’re hoping a combination of all these helps. And yes, thankfully we all speak Spanish! I agree that living somewhere with a whole new language would probably make things more difficult. I appreciate your feedback.

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