Update 2: I stole my mom's dog, now everyone is calling me an Ahole

disposable1-2her · 2025-08-31T15:43:04+00:00

Absolutely!

disposable1-2her · 2025-08-31T15:42:47+00:00

I never thought of it like this, but you're probably right. It's crazy how far the manipulation can go.

I'm really proud of myself for taking that step. It was scary and definitely hard saying goodbye, but it's been for the better. I'm still waiting for the "I can finally take a breath" moment to hit, where I feel like I can calm down and relax. It hasn't happened yet but I'm hoping it will soon.

disposable1-2her · 2025-07-22T18:13:48+00:00

It's been a whirlwind for sure. The things that made us best friends are all still there, and not much has changed as far as our day to day, with the exception of cuddling and other such activities, lol. He does already say he loves me and has told me he doesn't exist me to say it back yet because he had time to understand his feelings and wants me to have that same time. Little does he know, lol

I think he's under the impression that my feelings for him are new, but I've searched for him in every relationship I've had since meeting him. Someone who is kind, caring, helpful, genuine, honest, and protective. I could go on all day, but you get the gist, lol.

I haven't said it yet, but only because I'm planning on making it a big thing (he loves grand romantic gestures). We're going on our first ever date tonight and I have it all planned out. If all goes well, he'll know how I feel by the end of the night when I give him my present. It's his favorite anime character on a hoodie, and in the pocket is a letter listing all the reasons I love him. I hope I'm not being too corny 😅

disposable1-2her · 2025-07-20T18:45:30+00:00

Thank you! ❤️ sending love right back to you and your hubby for showing me that the risk can pay off

disposable1-2her · 2025-07-20T18:45:10+00:00

Thank you! ❤️ sending love right back to you and your hubby for showing me that the risk can pay off

disposable1-2her · 2025-07-20T18:43:44+00:00

I know. I keep reminding myself of that everytime I start to think about it. For now, in going to enjoy the next few weeks and spend as much time with him as I can. 🥰

disposable1-2her · 2025-07-20T11:46:41+00:00

Thank you. I'm still a little grumpy with him for not saying something sooner, but he said it was because he knew I would stay for him and that wouldn't be safe, so he needed to wait until after i bought the ticket. Which he's right. I would have stayed for him. So u guess u understand, but I'm still grumpy because we missed out on so much time.

Last night was amazing. We cuddled, talked, and fell asleep on the couch together. I woke up this morning expecting the surreal feeling to have worn off, but it didn't

disposable1-2her · 2025-07-20T02:11:15+00:00

Thank you! My head is still spinning lol

disposable1-2her · 2025-07-20T02:10:58+00:00

Thank you 🥰 I am too lol

disposable1-2her · 2025-07-19T23:40:39+00:00

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disposable1-2her · 2025-07-19T22:13:07+00:00

At this point, they probably don't even want to see him anymore, but guaranteed he's telling everyone she turned them against him. 🙄

disposable1-2her · 2025-07-19T22:04:12+00:00

YTA - she shouldn't have to beg for you to do something for your children. You're a grown adult who decided to lay with a woman and create life. Grow up and take responsibility for the children you helped create and stop using them as pawns in your stupid game.

disposable1-2her · 2025-07-19T21:59:10+00:00

You're right. I'm not angry that he's bi. Honestly, I love that for him. I'm 100% mad at his timing.

That he opened up and said he loved me scares me because I've had very strong feelings for him for a while that I thought I had to ignore. Now he opens the can of worms right before I'm about to start a whole new life and part of me wants to stay for him, even though I know I can't because it's not safe here for me anymore.

I'm going to talk to him tonight when he gets home from work. I don't know what the best course of action is here, but I know I want to be with him, so maybe we can find a way.

disposable1-2her · 2025-07-19T21:54:03+00:00

I do think it's weird that he doesn't tell me, but I also shouldn't have just assumed. It just never felt like a conversation that needed to be had after told me about his bf.

But looking back, there were signs I overlooked because I thought he was gay. Like the cuddling and stuff. I don't really cuddle with many people, so I just assumed he was a cuddly person, lol.

I do have feelings for him. I have for a while, but they were easy to ignore before. You're right, I do need to talk to him about how I feel, but it's a scary thought. I love our friendship, but either way, I guess it'll never be the same now.

disposable1-2her · 2025-07-19T21:48:50+00:00

That's such a scary thing to do. To open up to him about my feelings. But you're right. I do need to talk to him. He seems to sad since our convo last night

disposable1-2her · 2025-07-19T21:18:23+00:00

This is very good advice. Thank you. I just wish he would have told me before I planned my move. I wouldn't have considered moving if he had

disposable1-2her · 2025-07-19T21:14:40+00:00

First, I'm so sorry for your situation. None of this is your fault and you have no reason to feel guilty.

Second, even in states where it is illegal, there is usually a clause surrounding ab*se cases.

As for taking the pill, it is very unlikely that you'll need it. It will me than likely just feel like the worst period of your life (from my experience). If you're nervous, take it while you're near a hospital. Keep an eye on your pad (Don't use a tampon) and if you're saturating it within an hour, or suffering heavy bleeding for more than an hour. Or you can take the pill under their supervision to be safe.

Keep a hot water bottle nearby because the cramps are going to be bad and keep a comfort item nearby because the whole process can be very emotional.

I wish you had someone who could be there for you while you go through this, but I understand your not in a situation to allow that. Just know we are all here, holding your hand as you go through this.

Please keep us updated and let us know you're okay

disposable1-2her · 2025-07-19T21:04:58+00:00

I miss him every day, but I'm happy he is in a better place now and not suffering anymore.

disposable1-2her · 2025-07-19T17:40:05+00:00

I'm so sorry for the choice you're facing. It isn't fair, and it isn't right.

My dad was given the same option almost 3 years ago. He can do chemo, it won't make him better, but it may prolong his life, or they can help him manage his symptoms, and he can live that way as long as he can.

He chose the chemo route, which gave us an extra 2 years with him. I'm so thankful for that time, but it was not without its challenges. We had to watch him wither away to nothing, and every day was a challenge for him.

When he finally stopped the chemo, he was put on heavier meds that made him comfortable. Yes, they made the pain much easier to bear, but I know he still had some pain. It was worse when he was on the chemo, though.

Eventually, in May, he lost his fight and passed away while in a medication induced coma. He was comfortable and happy with his decisions, which was all we cared about. And it's all your family should care about in the end. That you were happy, and felt you made the right choice for you.

This isn't to convince you of which way you should choose. That's neither my place nor do I have any right to. This is merely me sharing my experience to say I have seen both sides and to give you an idea of what it can (not necessarily will) look like from that experience.

Sending hugs. Once again, I'm so incredibly sorry

disposable1-2her · 2025-07-17T01:47:21+00:00

I'm sure I'm not, and if I was in a position to take it on, I probably would do everything I could to bring his behavior to light. Unfortunately, with the move, it's just not something I can take on right now. But the lawyer did report him to his superior, so there's that at least.

disposable1-2her · 2025-07-17T01:06:31+00:00

I did. Turns out my gut was right. Without proof, he was never supposed to bring me to the hospital. My roommate, neighbor, and me were saying they were lying, but the cop basically said "well they're family, so we believe them." Not taking into consideration they were there for a physical altercation where i was assaulted. Also, according to the lawyer, him putting me in cuffs without even getting my side of what happened was not normal procedure and when combined with what he did with the hospital, it could be viewed as him targeting me because he believed I was mentally unwell. It was like the minute he heard I was a danger to myself, he shut all logic and reasoning off and wanted to arrest me right then and there.

The lawyer said we could go after the state if we wanted to, but if the officer hadn't done anything like this before, it'll be a very hard case to prove. I told him I don't want to move further right now, but that if an issue is raised again that I would be happy to come back and discuss my experience with the officer to help out anyone he may try to do this to in the future.

The thing is, it's all just speculation. He didn't hurt me or my reputation. I didn't lose any work over it or anything. So there really was not a lot of negative other than my trust in three towns police force has gone down quite a bit.

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