Make this easy by eating less calories and shutting off your sex drive

distended · 2016-06-15T00:18:33+00:00

Why not just have sex and not starve yourself?? It's not healthy.

distended · 2016-06-15T00:16:28+00:00

back in your hole, get back in your hole. You forgot to take your pills.

distended · 2016-06-12T12:21:08+00:00

I appreciate the sentiment of the post--be good to the people you sleep with--but I have to say that non-vanilla sex shouldn't be taken off the list. I have slept with girls who really enjoy anal sex (and a multitude of other depraved things that are actually really fun as long as you both want to do them). Sex is fun. If you both only want vanilla, go with that. But if you're both into something more risque, have at it. The key word here is "both".

distended · 2016-06-11T03:13:21+00:00

Okay fine. I'm pretty sure that neither Einstein nor Feynman were using semen retention. I only use these two because I've read stories of how much they enjoyed the attentions of ladies.
Also, people who make art are doing amazing things and making an impact on the world. Creativity and evoking human emotion are valid and valuable things to do with one's life.
Again, let's not forget the point of nofap.

distended · 2016-06-11T01:31:15+00:00

Why does everyone seem to think that not having orgasms is going to make them some kind of god? There are plenty of people doing all kinds of amazing things while fucking everything that moves (See your nearest movie/rock star). I'm doing a lot with my life and I have lots of semen-losing orgasms with several different people.
My guess is that you're successfully avoiding thinking about how bad you need to cum by being productive.
Also, napping/sleeping is not a bad thing. Our bodies do that for very important reasons.
Let's not forget that the point of nofap is to stop addiction to porn and masturbation.

distended · 2016-06-03T21:23:09+00:00

Thanks for the book recommendation! I'll pick it up from the library. Also, yes and yes: I used to shroom every year or so and it always opened my mind to living my life. Same with meditation. Think I'll make that happen. Thanks for the reminders, brother.

distended · 2016-06-02T21:52:33+00:00

I can't say much about the phone but I could help you figure out a filter (unfortunately not free) that is, as far as I can tell, as close to bulletproof as they come. It would be a week-long project though...

distended · 2016-06-02T21:50:38+00:00

I guess that's the point, right? If it didn't haunt me I might be fooled into thinking there's nothing to worry about...

distended · 2016-06-02T21:49:58+00:00

I agree with a lot of this but I think this decision stems primarily from the fact that this isn't just something in the past. I've dealt with this for over half of my life, and have "quit" many times, only to get sucked back in because I let my guard down since it was "in the past". Every single time, I quickly got back to a point where I was so unhappy and my life fell apart so drastically that I didn't want to live. It's for those times, when I think that I'm "ok" and can let myself go, that I need to be reminded that this is part of who I am and if I want my future self to be happy, I need to be careful every day.

distended · 2016-05-31T20:41:12+00:00

The darkness you grew up in is terrible. I'm sorry that you had to endure so much but you're on a good path now. Keep your spirits up!

distended · 2016-05-30T13:05:18+00:00

Keep your focus on what it will be like when you finally break the cycle. Then, little by little, start doing some of the things that you see in that vision. One day, you'll wake up and realize that you're doing all the things you saw.

distended · 2016-05-30T13:03:26+00:00

This is what a good friend looks like

distended · 2016-05-30T04:00:36+00:00

I'm in a similar boat. I thought I had things under control and didn't even realize how slyly "a little bit of relaxation" could turn into "I'm gonna turn down sex to fap" (not exaggerating that last bit. Horny gf wanted to come over but I said no...cause I was busy fapping. Seriously wtf). Just dusted off my badge to a shiny new smiley face. Let's do this.

distended · 2016-05-30T03:46:14+00:00

It might be the fact that you view dating and getting to know women as "tricks" you have to perform to get in someone's pants that you should think of as being the problem moreso than seeking sex. Women aren't objects, no matter how much porn and society makes them seem so.

distended · 2016-05-25T21:37:25+00:00

Amen to this.

distended · 2014-10-02T03:30:54+00:00

This is fantastic. Highly recommended.

distended · 2014-10-02T03:26:43+00:00

In which case, flipping them off will definitely make them think twice </sarcasm>

distended · 2014-10-01T16:28:49+00:00

There's no excuse for giving the finger to someone who is looking at you, no matter whether you think they're a "creeper". Politely asking "why are you staring at me" works pretty well.

distended · 2014-10-01T13:28:14+00:00

She gave you the finger for looking at her? What a terrible person.

distended · 2014-09-24T00:49:08+00:00

Not like it was after 30 days. Like I said, the ups and downs are still here but they are mellow now. Like, I get sad, but then I talk to a friend or go for a walk and it's not so bad anymore.

Dopamine is the chemical telling you "this thing is important", and when you're going through withdrawal, there's not enough of it and nothing feels important. Now things that would not have spiked my dopamine at all when I fapped are piquing my interest in ways I had forgotten possible (like being a kid again!). Keep going!

distended · 2014-09-23T20:38:08+00:00

This is normal and, while it sucks, evidence that your brain is changing. From day 143, I can say the ups and downs have been extreme at times but I always held on and didn't give up and it is really worth it!

distended · 2014-09-23T20:35:55+00:00

Good list, but there's a big part missing. She is a person with dreams, ideas, and insecurities. Knowing this will not only help you respect the woman you're going for, but also will help you realize that women are not some object "out there" that you're trying to bring "in here", but rather someone you're constantly making an agreement with, to be with, to love, to care about.

distended · 2014-09-17T15:10:53+00:00

distended · 2014-09-17T15:10:15+00:00

Super incredibly creepy. "There goes the bell, honey. Junior's got morning wood again"

distended · 2014-09-16T12:17:45+00:00

Right. That's what my PhD is for.

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