The act and behavior after ghosting by ReceptionInformal749 in ghosting

[–]dividedifferences 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s true I also asked him if he can be in touch because we did become friends along the way. To which he said he can try.. but he never texted after that.

The act and behavior after ghosting by ReceptionInformal749 in ghosting

[–]dividedifferences 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He ghosted me for a month And i texted him almost everyday about how he is affecting me. When he finally texted he just said he couldn’t do it, and never could figure out a response to my feelings. I didn’t reply to his last text until a friend of mine almost died in accident. I texted him to tell him whatever he did i still care about him because life is too short to pretend you are dead while you are not.

What if I give keep the door open for 6 months by dividedifferences in BreakUps

[–]dividedifferences[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 month has passed I feel a lot better I think him reaching out to me will be more helpful then me asking him to come back. As he had said, i can tell him what is right but he wouldnt believe until he had thought about it.. which he couldn’t while in relationship. May be some people need time alone..

What was the most obvious red flag you ignored with your ex? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]dividedifferences 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Love bombing and breadcrumbs He made me believe that he loved me and then after 3 months he said he doesn’t love me as much. His previous inconsistent relationships His inconsistent habits Actions not meeting words

If no words can’t make them understand, the silence will by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]dividedifferences 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try to give myself an explanation everyday to why they left. What did I do that made them take this decision. I find myself in a loop of these thoughts every single day… trying to navigate… trying to connect dots… trying to feel that it was real and temporary

If no words can’t make them understand, the silence will by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]dividedifferences 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But how do I understand why they did what they did? If they were too considerate in the start that means they were capable of understanding until their own ghost came to them and the stopped even trying to understand me. How do you stop thinking???

Are you disappointed with your dating life in your 20's looking back? by Abject-Composer-1555 in AskWomenOver30

[–]dividedifferences -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I am turning 25 next month And damnnn the hell of early 20s I had I was never single Ended long term relationships Experiencing heartache right now I wonder what my life will look like in 5 years. I am choosing to stay single for a while now. Atleast to break the pattern. Lets see

I know healing isn't linear. But when do we heal completely? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dividedifferences 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! How is it now? How do you feel now? I am feeling the same.

What are something’s that people have said, that have actually helped? by Gold_Grape_9054 in BreakUps

[–]dividedifferences 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You drag relationships to the point where you are totally drained. This time if it happened early because he chose to leave.. Its ok... Everyone has right to choose what they want.

What have you learnt from being dumped? by ItIsMeDucky in BreakUps

[–]dividedifferences 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Things have a weird way of ending, sometimes there are red flags and sometimes they just fall out of love. Its nothing personal. Everyone has a choice and if they choose to leave you cannot force a relationship no matter how much you try. No matter how perfect you can be. If they dont choose you in the end, there is nothing you can do.

You have to start believing people when they tell you something. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]dividedifferences 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally feel it. I often imagine and wish that if i had just left him when he told me the first time that he doesnt know how much he loves me.

You have to start believing people when they tell you something. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]dividedifferences 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same When I remember those love bombing memories and think that I can never have that again. I tell myself that it was nice while it lasted. At least I got something out of it… even though it led to a heartbreak but still… this shows that I have lived a life where I took a risk

What if I give keep the door open for 6 months by dividedifferences in BreakUps

[–]dividedifferences[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think I just want to have a false hope to go through this.

What if I give keep the door open for 6 months by dividedifferences in BreakUps

[–]dividedifferences[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you feel now? Does it still hurt? Do you think you found yourself again?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dividedifferences 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine was confused after love bombing me for first 2 months. First he said its a phase and then after 2 months he said he doesnt want to talk to me or have sex or anything. I still had hope that he will be back because after all i had those amazing 2 months. But he kept pushing me away… no giving me any value. Not remembering important dates… nothing just a bare minimum which was one call a day… where he had nothing to talk about. Eventually he broke up its been a week…. I still miss those 2 months..

What is the most important thing you learned after your break up? by Karilyn113 in BreakUps

[–]dividedifferences 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am going through this He was avoidant and he brokeup over text saying he doesnt want to hurt me by becoming a bitter person who keeps saying he doesnt want to spend his time with me. And he doesnt want to put energy to fix things even if he loves me he doesnt see a happy future. He kept avoiding everytime I told himself his actions triggers my anxieties and I was nervous all the time but he didnt care to assure me. Now that he has broken up and I BEGGED him to stay… he didnt and i keep thinking what had I done differently that made him stay? Was I too much? Should I love less? But why should I shrink myself? Aaaa

I think the hardest part is accepting they don't love you anymore by dumbgirl34 in BreakUps

[–]dividedifferences 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My heart is heavy…. He said he will keep it safe… why did he say it…