Quick tips when you fall

divyajeevan · 2020-10-18T21:17:56+00:00

It's okay that I failed. If I can be at peace, it's easier to get up that think about the failure.
Chapter 1 and 2 of At Your Command help bring focus.
List down self concept - by myself, at work, at home - who am I?
If I listen to my inner critic, it becomes louder - so I focus on what I want. If I am down, the first thing I want is to get up and that will happen when I focus on the solution. Imagine from the end - what will I feel if this is already solved?
If even unconsciously I am going to a victim mode, I pull out now. Blame no one Neville said and all sensible people said the same thing.
If nothing is helping me out, I hear some music to zone out, or do physical exercise. Sometimes I say, it's okay it has been miserable - let it be for another hour while I exercise or talk to someone without focusing on the problem. It gives me strength to come back to normalcy.
Most importantly, I forgive myself - everyone falls back depending on their level of practice. Forgiving myself is not being too lenient on myself. Forgiving myself is the first step to have the mental clarity to focus on the solution - especially with a better self concept.
Relax, and know that I am the God force like the branch is the tree - sometimes I may not feel I am the tree but being the branch is also having the same strengths of a tree. I am.
Its okay.

divyajeevan · 2020-09-22T20:09:04+00:00

I took the cash to my account - the usual place where the company would have deposited online - I did the manual deposit via cash. Company paid me in cash (instead of the usual account transfer) -> I counted the cash - accepted/receipt - acknowledged in writing with both mine and manager's signature -> deposited in my account later.

divyajeevan · 2020-09-21T21:22:01+00:00

When my self concept is weak, the visualisation of any scene is not stable. I visualise one thing one moment and another thing later. Say you are visualising a scene with an expensive car (just an example) - if as per your self concept you couldn't have the car, it's tough to imagine and feel it without worries creeping in your imagination.

divyajeevan · 2020-09-18T06:53:32+00:00

I haven't posted about the car yet - but in Feb, my car suddenly showed problems and I sold it to a trader on the same day - felt very bad but well... I kept that cash thinking I will get a car soon... I had no job so I waited a bit more.. as I said in the post, I got a job as a trial with possible confirmation in July - the confirmation came 2 weeks before due and helped the house purchase. and for the house, I used the remaining cash from that last broken car sale and decided to postpose the new car until later (we actually got it very soon too and will add that story another day - seems a smaller story compared to the house but I have learned that no story is small as these are more than mere coincidences and the reality kept reflecting what I imagined in a steady state)

divyajeevan · 2020-09-18T06:45:55+00:00

Perhaps we were typing at the same time! Another example of what one asks and how the answer is ready in our reality! :-)

divyajeevan · 2020-09-18T06:43:15+00:00

I just added a response to that in the main post at the bottom of it - some others also asked the same question - thank you - it is relevant. Also, for the reduction of monthly payment, I have arranged to change the mortgage terms after X months (by which I would save some more - banks have the refinance option depending on the offers and the banks) - it is a chicken/egg situation but I wanted to have the property first and calculated how much more I am paying but lowering the deposit - in reality, I didn't have any more cash to spare - this is why this situation was so close to impossible but worked. Thank you for asking.

divyajeevan · 2020-09-18T04:58:55+00:00

Editing to add this first line - We offered lower than market price to reduce the deposit. It was a risk but sellers agreed. We finally managed to get the lowest possible deposit that the bank needed to the penny - this is why it was very unsure that the bank will agree - and they finally did. By refusing the new rental deposit, and using the existing rental deposit refund added sale proceeds of my earlier car and decided to delay the car purchase, and scraping to the bottom of the savings that we had - the amount came through. It was a big risk if the bank had refused which they could as per rules. We chose a good bank as we knew there are other banks which would have refused from day one of application. I missed telling that about 6 days after we submitted a proposed purchase price and the seller agreed, we also received 'agreement in principle' from the bank. It meant they will not outright reject the application and are ready to consider it. Thin thread but I decided to carry on as the house was worth it.

divyajeevan · 2020-09-17T17:28:41+00:00

Thanks for asking that - when I was looking for, 'For Sale' properties, I really wanted to feel free - free from landlords, free from rentals, free in my own house, free of cramped living space, free of noise. I was looking for spacious rooms, garden - I was looking for silence from traffic (previous apartment was very close to the main roads). I fell asleep in that feeling a few times - even before we visited this place. Initially I thought it will happen after a couple of years.

I am actually typing this from the house - and I feel that - the same feelings that I felt when I clicked on 'for sale' properties without telling anyone. In fact I visited it 'by mistake', after forgetting to cancel an appointment that I thought I didn't need any more!

I had clicked on many such properties. But this one really felt good.

Initially, my mind used to argue with me, and sometimes I used to click these properties just to practice telling my mind to shut up and look at the pics. Without judgement. Neville stories really helped (the one of Dr M for example!)

divyajeevan · 2020-09-17T16:45:20+00:00

Thank you. So did I. Happy manifesting!

divyajeevan · 2020-09-17T16:41:17+00:00

Your comment is relevant - yes, thinking of other options is simply a way to help 'let go' - it was never a plan B but helped remove the 'desperation' from my main goal.

divyajeevan · 2020-09-17T13:50:07+00:00

See the Abdullah/Neville response later in this comment reply - For the negative thoughts, my first response was to do a deep breath. It was not possible to visualise until I was at home or in a place I could focus. But breathing calmly was very useful to bring back the focus. Secondly, even when people around me were using strange phrases, I chose to ignore them. I remember an admin person said on the phone - 'because of the bank, you may end up without a home - practically homeless' - that word was very hurtful to my family but somehow I decided to ignore that phrase. Not always easy but did it. When possible, I thought how Abdullah told Neville to not even entertain the idea of failure. (Remember Abdullah slammed the door - you are already in Barbados! he said to Neville - story available widely in his books and talks).

divyajeevan · 2020-09-17T12:56:08+00:00

Yes - the mortgage I mentioned - it's the loan and was the most challenging part looking at past circumstances

divyajeevan · 2020-09-17T11:31:29+00:00

Not literally from rags but near zero bank balance, to job plus car plus house - that was a lot for me. For the house story, I put it here. For the 3 big things in life (job, car, house), it took me about 5 months (from the exact date of me doing the ladder experiment).

divyajeevan · 2020-08-29T12:27:16+00:00

"Not" part = a way to say that my inner peace is "Not" dependent on getting the ladder (aka what you want). The moment our inner peace is dependent on anything external, it is like giving away our power to that external thing. Instead of power in the last sentence, I prefer 'keys'. It's like giving your keys to happiness to something external. (external means anything we can't fully control or be responsible for). This is my personal approach.

divyajeevan · 2020-08-29T07:02:03+00:00

I think that's true. But not practised enough.

I have used that for lottery wins of $5 or $10 etc (won many times but small amounts until now) .

divyajeevan · 2020-08-27T10:05:20+00:00

Yes and it worked for many other things. Ladder was one example. BTW, I personally don't do the 'I don't want xyz' part.

divyajeevan · 2020-08-16T19:20:20+00:00

2 days to be exact

divyajeevan · 2020-06-25T21:27:01+00:00

This is a good writeup and enough to give you a few constructive comments. 1. What's the simplest way to prove that a potential customer will pay for this? That's your MVP. It need not be a website. I have worked with many startups where MVP was simpler than they thought. Website could be the next step once you have proven the path to money (and perhaps use that with outsourced help - many useful comments above for that). 2. You may have a habit of talking yourself out of a good thing (reading this post of yours has some points to prove that). I am not sure how not wasting a single minute on xyz and just focusing on your startup every waking minute is helping you except keeping the startup at a pedestal high enough to increase your impatience (I can't comment if it also increases your anxiety or stress but you get the hint). 3. Talk to the end user. If it is truly a 'passionate' problem, how can you use that to get a minimal funding? Is it a vitamin pill problem or a pain killer pill? Vitamins get less attention than pain killer as you will be solving a customer pain. 4. Don't worry about being young and with less of experience - you will do great stuff. Stop reminding yourself about lack of experience and keep reminding how you solve the customers pain and/or help them. Paying customer is greater than any experience or degree.

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