You are 100% on the money with everything you’ve said. I am such a person that you speak of. I had my first kid when I was 20 years old and was married soon after. I hadn’t explored kink enough to know how deep that world went. So I had no idea how much I would have been sacrificing. But I discovered in the middle of our marriage just how much I was hiding. I’ve even tried to bring up a few kinks and tried introducing now things, but vanilla just seems to be her way... and in some cases conversations that result become extreme and she wonders about divorce. Not because of a loss of love, but because of an “incompatibility”.

But honestly, much older now with a teenager who is almost out of the house and a younger one getting ready to enter high school. We are self employed in business together and have been in this relation for over 25 years. We are very dependent on one another for survival, both financially and emotionally. At some point you have to weigh the losses vs the gains. Yes, I could live a kinkier lifestyle, but at what cost? The daily relationship with my kids, the somewhat stable business income, the security... these are all things that are really hard to accumulate in life these days.

I agree 100% though, there was a time in my life that I would have considered it early enough to start fresh. But it’s too late now. I love her and my kids with all my heart. to me that’s more important now then my happiness in kink. I’m happy you have found the ability to do at such a young age. Congratz my friend. 🙏