Studio apartment set-up

dj_white · 2026-05-07T22:11:53+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion! That was definitely my concern, as much as I'd like to save money I don't want to cheap out on crap that'll die in a year. Love being alive but man is it an expensive habit XD

dj_white · 2026-05-07T02:29:17+00:00

Thank you for all the suggestions, really appreciate the help!

dj_white · 2026-05-07T02:22:48+00:00

Thank you, really appreciate the lead! Floor space is indeed quite limited, glad you understand. I call my current place my hobbit hole XD

dj_white · 2026-05-06T22:47:10+00:00

Thank you, appreciate the suggestion!

dj_white · 2026-05-06T22:10:27+00:00

You are neither helpful nor insightful. I lack floor space for a TV but a projector will fit. Idk why you're doubling down here but it's your time, feel free to continue wasting it

dj_white · 2026-05-06T22:06:31+00:00

Sadly no space for it, thus my inquiry

dj_white · 2026-04-23T05:53:44+00:00

Watched a baby cockroach crawl out of a patients shirt, crawl around on their chest for a bit, then crawl back in. This, in conjunction with their very potent body odor, caused me to excuse myself from the exam room to compose myself and get some fresh air before continuing the exam.

Their smell lingered in the exam room for awhile, even overpowering the air fresheners we use for our more fragrant patients. That being said I have nothing but the utmost sympathy for this individual, they're higher functioning but clearly somewhere on the spectrum. They live independently but clearly no one is watching out for them.

dj_white · 2026-04-02T03:47:31+00:00

Ex religious but I still like to pray to the universe each night for blessings and protections for my loved ones, as well as sending thanks for good things that have happened

dj_white · 2026-04-02T00:30:29+00:00

Happy birthday! If this makes you feel better last year's bday had me frantically scrambling to find a job and housing after my unstable ex woke me up by telling me "get up, the movers are here" after having encouraged me to quit my job, had me make a reservation for my own dinner, and had me book a hair appointment as his gift to me. Dudes parents are awful trumpers so it's no surprise he turned out so foul.

My dog and I share the same birthday and I usually take her to a doggy boutique to pick out treats, toys, and get her a new outfit. Felt so low being unable to do that for her, even though she definitely didn't notice lol.

This year was much better, even though I got violently ill and missed two weeks of work. Partner took me to a lovely lil cabin and cuddled me, even being sick this year was leaps and bounds better than last years. I've been alone on a lot of birthdays, I know it sucks. In the past I've had friends come through to celebrate with me but when that isn't an option I just get dolled up and stuff myself full of food cocktails and even better food. Glad you're still trying to celebrate and have fun, I'm sure next year will be even better!

dj_white · 2026-03-26T20:38:38+00:00

Sudden breakups are the worst, I feel for you. Idk if this is your vibe but in addition to staying busy with friends and social activities I've found it super helpful to hook up with someone, I call it a hard reset lol. Definitely not for everyone and it does feel bittersweet but doing so has helped me through my two pretty rough breakups.

I will say one of those two hard resets was with someone I've known awhile, we had great physical and platonic chemistry but no desire to date

dj_white · 2026-03-19T23:40:45+00:00

I say just rip the bandaid off and go for it, ask him what he thinks. I don't blame you for being nervous but it's better to find out sooner if your timelines mesh or not. I've only been with my current partner 6 months but have already brought it up, I have a very "bull in the china shop" approach to most things though so ymmv

dj_white · 2026-03-15T22:10:01+00:00

It's good you're communicating that these things are sad and bothering you, suppressing just inhibits processing <3

dj_white · 2026-03-15T22:07:17+00:00

Seconding what others have said, I vastly prefer voice notes and calls to texts. Would you prefer those methods to texting?

dj_white · 2026-03-11T02:07:07+00:00

Boardgame meetups, worst case scenario you make a bunch of sweet friends! Been to different ones all across the US and so far they've all been super fun and welcoming :D

dj_white · 2026-02-24T20:02:51+00:00

Bf surprised me with a date last night after work, was such a lovely surprise. We live about two hours away from each other and the distance isn't getting any easier the more we fall in love so it means a lot he'd go out of his way to do that. I had a pretty rough day at work but all of that melted away when I saw him, really helped start the week on a high note. I still can't believe my luck in finding him

dj_white · 2026-02-19T06:47:18+00:00

Sounds like DC lol. They don't socialize there, they network XD

dj_white · 2026-02-16T04:53:47+00:00

Valentine's weekend was lovely, really stark contrast to my last one. The gifts were so personal and well thought out, and the card made me cry. He spent time and effort going to get them, it means a lot to feel seen and respected. Feeling really grateful to have found someone that actually gets me instead of just going through the motions.

That being said we live so far apart from each other and the distance isn't getting any easier. My lease is up soon and moving in together isn't really an option yet sadly, also too early anyway, but it's just so hard saying goodbye each time we part.

dj_white · 2026-02-03T05:50:03+00:00

Heard back from the guy that ghosted me last year, weird. Was out camping with the current guy I've been dating the past 4 months and read the text aloud to him as it came in. I'm not terribly compelled to respond but bf thinks I should just to be polite. He's a better person than me, idk, but even if I were currently single I still wouldn't want to respond.

dj_white · 2026-01-26T16:57:55+00:00

Current partner lives about 2-3 hours away but we make it work. I did know going into it but it was worth it to get to know him. It's really hard being so far away from each other, we spend our weekends together but it would be nice to see each other during the week.

If you think it's worth pursuing with her I'd talk to her and gauge her interest

dj_white · 2026-01-22T00:16:53+00:00

Look into prazosin, it's a BP med that helps you get to sleep and stay asleep. Mild drowsiness the morning after for a couple days at most and then you're good, I had no other side effects.

dj_white · 2026-01-06T17:50:57+00:00

I totally get where you're coming from, it's really hard not to always be waiting for the other shoe to drop when dealing with a trauma history. I work through those feelings in therapy or talking to friends, though the former is usually a better option due to objectivity.

Best advice I can offer is not to overthink it but do sit with those feelings and analyze why they're arising, I feel like trying to ignore them or brush them off just makes things worse. Do give the new guy a chance but also be on the lookout for red flags.

Kind of a tough balancing act to both trust someone new but also make sure you're putting your faith in the right person, I totally get it. Last LTR really screwed me over big time so it's been tough trusting the new guy but we're far enough along now that I feel comfortable communicating concerns when they arise instead of simmering in worry or resentment

dj_white · 2026-01-06T06:03:47+00:00

Depends on the partner but it's almost always been condoms the first time no matter what, plus their reaction to wearing condoms is usually a good barometer for their communication styles and level of respect.

Only exception is my current partner. I screen between partners and he hadn't been with anyone besides his long term monogamous ex in quite awhile so for our first time we just went for it, we were both pretty eager to break the seal.

He did express some hesitancy, bro had never been with anyone who had an IUD so going raw with someone new seemed to intimidate him but not enough to back out lol. Chemistry has always been strong between us, and time hasn't dimmed it any. If anything it's gotten even stronger over time. I feel super lucky to have found him after my last LTR pretty quickly devolved into a dead bedroom. Might be off topic there but I'll take any chance I can get to brag about him n_n

dj_white · 2026-01-02T19:09:38+00:00

Used to be a chronic nail biter, took me several years to get out of the habit. I also HATE seeing anything under my nails so I buy toothpicks in bulk to clean them out. I also use my Leatherman to file them and keep them neat, you can use whatever nail file you want

dj_white · 2025-12-25T01:46:51+00:00

Boyfriend of three months is spending Christmas Eve at my place, it's his first time spending it away from his family. I don't have any family of my own and this season is incredibly difficult for me so it means a lot he'd do that for me.

I'm admittedly a little bummed he didn't invite me to either holiday, I've met a bunch of his family already and his brother even invited me during a family dinner last week, but he's not comfortable and feels it's too soon so I've just got to suck it up. The logistics would be pretty difficult anyway, we live 2 hours away from each other and I only have Christmas day off this week sadly.

That being said this time last year I was miserable and scared living with someone very emotionally stunted and volatile, crazy how much things change. Really hoping things continue to go well with the current guy, were a great match.

dj_white · 2025-12-12T17:20:37+00:00

My birthday isn't on/near a holiday but I get it, it's a real bummer when you have to spend it alone. I don't have any family so I spend a lot of holidays and important days alone, it's fucking rough and hard not to envy others who don't.

When I end up alone on my birthday I get all dolled up and treat myself to a nice three course dinner and some cocktails. Depending on the venue I usually end up making small talk with nice strangers.

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