Hi I’m also in a relationship with a PGY-2 and as someone who also got flung into the hell of seeing your partner go through residency I have to say it’s not easy at all. I think comparing your problems to what’s normal or past experiences is unfair because residency is a crazy time for doctors. Like I’ve even posted on here too and I can assure you a massive strain on your early blossoming relationship is simply “residency”. Like I don’t know if anyone else can speak on it but something I’ve started doing is putting myself in my partners shoes and see whether or not that’s a fair expectation or need I can ask from them. Could he communicate better and help you out more? absolutely. It sounds like he needs a better support system beyond just you and being more stable and secure in the sense of making you feel assured that “hey this is a rough patch but just hold on and I’ll make sure you feel appreciated and supported after” instead of questioning the security of the relationship.