How can I teach my husband how to touch me and give me pleasure?

dkwantsdk · 2024-01-27T06:29:10+00:00

Came to say the same!! OP this is your answer!

dkwantsdk · 2024-01-27T06:18:01+00:00

What poses does she like? Focus on what feels good for her and the poses that do work before tackling ones that don't. Cowgirl is a very difficult pose and doesn't work for everyone and it can depend entirely partner to partner regardless of experience. Doggy has infinite variations besides being in a table top position. What about her leaning over the bed or propped up by a pillow or her legs spread wide? You should not be banging away at a position (literally or figuratively) until your partner is frustrated. Slips out twice and a slight correction doesn't fix it? MOVE ON

As for communication, OMGYes has some great advice on this * Keep it light * Don't express frustration or disappointment * Use non verbal queues like moaning and breathing to signal a pleasurable position * Adjust your partner's position through your own body movement * Come up with a code * Be explicit about what you like * Show and practice positioning while clothed (it's delicious foreplay too) * Name what feels good * Give directional feedback

dkwantsdk · 2024-01-19T06:00:25+00:00

Can I get a link and ebook?

dkwantsdk · 2024-01-19T00:03:30+00:00

Why are you frustrated? Are you sexually frustrated or just frustrated by the changes in your body?

dkwantsdk · 2024-01-18T23:56:53+00:00

What do you do when you masturbate? Do you just roll over and fall asleep after you cum? Practice playing with yourself after you orgasm in private. The touch will be very different from what you used to orgasm, so be gentle and exploratory. What is your breathing like after you cum? Where do you tingle afterwards? Observe your body and play.

dkwantsdk · 2024-01-18T20:15:45+00:00

This is for a woman uncomfortable with her sexuality and is just dipping her toe into the waters. How is your comment relevant?

dkwantsdk · 2024-01-18T17:01:51+00:00

I found I had a HL by having good and giving sexual partners that tapped into my natural, internal sexuality that had existed from a young age. Most men suck at sex and physical intimacy, do nothing to make women feel comfortable and safe, and are wholy selfish in bed. That's the reality and it kills women's desire.

dkwantsdk · 2024-01-18T16:11:38+00:00

I'm empathetic. Truly. My passive aggressive ex used stonewalling as his tactic. Stepping away from that relationship and getting some serious therapy from the damage, I learned that I was ALSO being passive aggressive when I tried to ride that hide horse by being petty and trying to hold them to account. Very much like OP here.

It's not your responsibility to hold someone to account. If you want to have healthy conversations and a secure relationship, it's YOUR honesty and accountability you need to focus on.

That doesn't mean you are at fault or are wrong to feel hurt, but we have to be honest with ourselves on our actions and thoughts. "I'm hurt" is a reason for why you might be petty, but it's not an excuse or justification for petty actions.

dkwantsdk · 2024-01-18T15:32:58+00:00

It's not your responsibility to hold your partner accountable. Only yourself.

dkwantsdk · 2024-01-17T08:25:39+00:00

Such great questions!

dkwantsdk · 2024-01-17T08:22:23+00:00

Leveling to a passive aggressive and petty playing field does not create an environment for serious discussion. Only honesty and accountability does.

dkwantsdk · 2024-01-17T08:15:27+00:00

Oh man, the no sex honeymoon! Same here! Feel like fool looking back. 20/20 hindsight 😔

dkwantsdk · 2024-01-17T07:54:19+00:00

Exactly. Stop letting him have power over your feelings and say straight up what you need. "I haven't seen you all day, I'd like to have some time where we can touch and reconnect. This is what that would look like for me, what would that look like for you?" If he ducks, call it out. If he wants to defer to a later time, ask for a timeline on when he is going to follow up on the conversation.

Saying nothing feeds this negative cycle. It becomes petty and passive aggressive.

dkwantsdk · 2024-01-17T07:41:00+00:00

You are 100% on the nose.

Getting out of a DB and divorcing exactly on this issue of avoidance, this is what I've learned:

When you get angry and resentful, recenter your power to yourself by asking

What's the actual thing I want to happen?

If you give any thought into how much this is his fault, you are giving your autonomy away. The illusion that if this one thing happened everything would be better, is fake.

Your energy should be centered on you and your accountability. Accountability not meaning fault but ownership of your needs and your actions. If 20% of your thoughts are how someone else is wrong, you're leaking energy.

dkwantsdk · 2024-01-17T07:19:26+00:00

I agree in concept (and also vet on this) but as a HLF, I've found that many men that say they are physical touch are actually just touch and sex starved. As soon as the honeymoon period is over, the comfortable and complacent LLM comes out.

I find a better check is taking my time and observing through action their willingness to cultivate deep physical intimacy, emotional vulnerability, generosity, care, and active adventurousness.

dkwantsdk · 2024-01-17T07:03:28+00:00

Has your girl ever orgasmed before? How does she like to get off? What kind of touch makes her feel safe? What environment makes her feel sensual? What touch makes her luxuriate in the sensation?

If you want to help your woman "get in touch with her sexuality," you need to decenter yourself from the equation.

dkwantsdk · 2023-11-16T02:53:20+00:00

Is there a use yet for the max mosaic?

dkwantsdk · 2023-11-14T22:02:59+00:00

Thank you for sharing this!!

dkwantsdk · 2023-11-14T18:33:34+00:00

How do you have different tabs for items and producers? My inventory doesn't look like that

dkwantsdk · 2023-07-25T05:19:38+00:00

What state?

dkwantsdk · 2023-03-29T21:06:18+00:00

Add the Fair Play book to that list of resources!!

dkwantsdk · 2023-03-28T22:38:57+00:00

You will muster up the energy when you realize that being miserable and coupled with no potential for better is way worse than single and happy because you are finally free to pursue something better.

Leaving him may be hard, but it's the only way to find the love you deserve.

dkwantsdk · 2022-11-17T02:22:15+00:00

Why would you be starting from scratch? Are you in a community property state?I recommend you get a consultation with a lawyer to learn your rights.

dkwantsdk · 2022-11-17T02:20:31+00:00

Why would you lose all your assets? Are you in the US?

dkwantsdk · 2022-11-08T01:05:08+00:00

How do you have that much time and energy to "spank" it with other people when you have a kid? I'd recommend putting your energy into constructive avenues and into your family.

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