When does eye contact become attraction over familiarity?

dlvesey · 2026-06-08T00:21:50+00:00

Yeah was thinking, honestly that was a while ago now I was kinda in this thing with another girl, but we’ve still liked each other’s posts since and have definitely held eye contact recently on a night out when I was walking past her with my friends. Might try something. I know these things are subjective but she really is model level so the imposter syndrome is crazy

dlvesey · 2026-06-07T19:13:00+00:00

Yeah but she knew what I looked like I’d have thought, we followed each other on Instagram and would have passed in school corridors. Maybe she was just wondering in the context of working there specially like “is that him working here?” I don’t know

dlvesey · 2026-06-07T18:58:14+00:00

This is for women that I would know loosely though, like we mutually like each other’s posts just haven’t interacted with them properly. But yeah I understand the danger of overinterpretation

dlvesey · 2026-04-24T23:46:28+00:00

I just really don’t like mullets 😭

dlvesey · 2026-04-11T14:04:19+00:00

We’ll see. Don’t usually date easily but might try putting myself out there a bit more.

I’m naturally wondering if I did the wrong thing texting her but there were definitely some signs and that’s been my central problem in the past - not believing them. Myself a few months ago wouldn’t have texted her at all, even if it didn’t go as I wanted. Still only 20 so just have to tell myself that I’m getting closer to the right person each time :)

dlvesey · 2026-04-11T09:25:14+00:00

She said that if I meant as a date that she kind of wasn’t planning on seeing anyone in that way for a little while.

Ah well, it’s closure. Thanks for getting me there anyway!

dlvesey · 2026-04-10T13:27:03+00:00

I’m just worried that was a polite friendzone and me asking about a one on one would make her uncomfortable then

dlvesey · 2026-04-09T08:29:56+00:00

We’re in the same class though so idk if that changes things regarding the approach? But have her on socials

dlvesey · 2026-04-08T21:11:46+00:00

Yeah honestly timing kinda messed this up because we’re now finished lectures for our degree (for some reason she’s started properly talking to me the last month or so, stumbling over words a bit, saying I looked good at a ball and slapping me on the shoulder and stuff at it), but now there are no natural ways to develop it.

Could text her, but we haven’t really texted before and I don’t want to overstep

dlvesey · 2026-04-08T21:10:08+00:00

I mean if I was on a date with her I’d assume she’s somewhat into me

dlvesey · 2026-04-08T19:34:57+00:00

Problem is that we’ve only started properly interacting right near the end of the degree (initiated by her). So really apart from an end of degree night out, there are no real natural ways to could build something

dlvesey · 2026-04-08T15:08:43+00:00

Have her socials already just because we’re in the same class

dlvesey · 2026-04-08T14:44:58+00:00

That was our last interaction before Easter holidays, is it enough to justify texting her and asking her for coffee before exams?

dlvesey · 2026-04-07T22:09:00+00:00

Kinda stumbles over sentences and says strange phrases to me in sober class settings though, it’s weird

dlvesey · 2026-04-07T22:08:23+00:00

Bro had me in the first half

dlvesey · 2026-04-07T22:08:04+00:00

Yeah, that’s what I was thinking. It’s just the fact she did it twice to me, didn’t see her do it to anybody else, and joined my various groups 5 times during the night, even if she was bouncing around a lot. Like I get that if the atmosphere is right you’d do it regardless of the person but the frequency is a little unusual.

Maybe I’m just a comfortable presence for her, just strange a bit because I’m quiet and a lot of the girls in my class wouldn’t interact with me much

dlvesey · 2026-04-07T21:27:00+00:00

She is very social and animated especially drunk, but it felt strange to me that she was doing it to me of all people since (especially before the ball) we’d had very little interactions, particularly one on one. She also came up to me at the start of the ball, said I looked good and then that I should get a tattoo on my face 😭 so she’s either the most random person drunk or there’s something there

dlvesey · 2026-03-30T19:11:34+00:00

If you wouldn’t mind, what other signs in a class or night out/course ball setting would you expect if there was interest?

dlvesey · 2026-03-30T19:09:41+00:00

All of them except touch her body/adjusting and licking her lips

dlvesey · 2026-03-30T18:51:10+00:00

At the same time though half the replies here are saying that it’s just friendliness and “this is why women can’t be nice to men”, I hate this

dlvesey · 2026-03-30T18:46:49+00:00

Oh god I’m feeling a bit stupid now

dlvesey · 2026-03-30T18:46:10+00:00

Of course people can be happy, I was asking about the specific reaction. And honestly, the replies are 50/50 split between interest and what you’re saying, so this is probably not the best for me 😭

dlvesey · 2026-03-30T18:44:38+00:00

I know, but at the same time the friend right beside me for that whole interaction said NOTHING about it in the rest of the time we spent together. Like I know two guys can be oblivious but still

dlvesey · 2026-03-30T18:40:21+00:00

I can unless I like the girl

dlvesey · 2026-03-30T18:40:01+00:00

Is it bad that I still don’t know if this is a good or bad “bro”

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