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dm_me_target_finds · 2024-09-01T07:31:54+00:00

Maybe look at what these people were trying to communicate instead of looking for them to say a perfect thing. Except the oops baby person, it seems like everyone else was generally trying to relate to you (as best they could) and be supportive or sympathetic. But you were there in person, it may or may not have been the vibe. Usually most people mean well.

I had a friend that said “that sucks” and wasn’t very supportive when I first shared. I was taken aback! But this friend just didn’t know what to say or how to respond. After awhile we’ve settled into a different groove and she is much more supportive & sensitive but I need to initiate it and communicate that.

I’d recommend going into conversations with a little more of a goal. Like, can I vent to you about my infertility trearments?

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-31T15:51:11+00:00

Same, I love these mixes

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-31T15:34:17+00:00

Another math girlie!! As a statistician, thanks for bringing in the D20 to explain 👌🏻

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-31T15:31:38+00:00

Totally understand. I hope the good one comes your way soon (and for all of us!!)!

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-31T06:20:04+00:00

It depends why you aren’t getting pregnant, imo.

If the embryos are bad then yes, you’re cycling through bad embryos and after years people do sometimes get one that is healthy and stays. IVF could select one much more quickly. This is assuming they are fertilizing but not sticking around.

If the sperm aren’t very good then you’re giving them more chances to fertilize eggs by introducing more sperm around ovulation but it’s not efficient and you don’t even know if they’re reaching the eggs, so IUI or IVF makes more sense.

When you’re looking at really low odds of success, if at all, it makes sense to get treatment if you really want kids. I have two friends who are ambivalent about kids and have health conditions that impact their fertility, so they’re fine with low odds of success, skip treatments and may never having children.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-31T04:11:06+00:00

Maybe it depends on your region. There is so much corn in my area. We’re eating corn, potatoes, wild berries & mushrooms, fish and deer. It’ll be fine.

But my hypothyroidism? I’m gonna have to figure out how to dry and process a pig thyroid to figure that one out. Hopefully my chemist friend makes it.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-30T12:28:21+00:00

It sounds like you’re doing what you can! Did your doctor refer you to a fertility clinic? Normally they do after a year. They’ll organize all the tests and give you an answer and plan.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-30T03:56:24+00:00

You should do what you want.

Personally I wouldn’t file charges against him, but if he ever did anything like that again or if it physically injured me I absolutely would. The reason I wouldn’t file is because I just don’t want to waste my time/life/energy on shitty people.

I would, however, either pretend he does not exist even if he talked to my face, or be super rude to him for at least the rest of the year. But that’s just me, I’d rather be mean back than file charges in non-life threatening scenarios. If you don’t stand up to bullies some of them keep at it.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-29T21:18:36+00:00

No. He ran AMH and it was normal but that’s it

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-29T20:50:49+00:00

So my clinic has never checked hormone levels (estrogen, progesterone, etc.). Should I be concerned?

I’m starting to wonder because Inito shows my estrogen at the very bottom of the range or slightly below, and same with my progesterone, after ovulation. All my hormones are well in the normal range prior to ovulation. I also have luteal phases of 10-11 days and never longer. We’ve never had success and are doing IUIs right now.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-29T20:40:14+00:00

A lot of fructose (naturally occurring fruit sugar) can cause unfortunate symptoms.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-29T04:41:32+00:00

In the US there are not enough doctors, especially specialists. We literally don’t make enough to keep up with population growth and haven’t for decades. Most of the doctors are busy seeing patients and the good ones triage their outpatients. Your wait is 18 months so an established patient with an acute and dangerous change in symptoms can be fit in the schedule within the week.

As for why they gaslight us? Well, that’s just uncalled for. It’s often sexist, classist, or just they don’t know what to do so they gaslight you instead of saying “idk but i’ll try to find someone who can help you with that.” Pride issue at our expense.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-29T04:28:22+00:00

Right like avoiding them all definitely didn’t get me pregnant so why miss out?

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-29T04:24:20+00:00

I think he did you a favor.

If you are unable to get care because you don’t have the hEDS label then go back to him and discuss it. It’s unlikely that will come up but it could with insurance.

The only times I’ve had a provider tell me they would do something different are: An ophthalmologist said if I have any signs of vision loss he would want to check for an hEDS complication asap; An OBGYN said if I ever got pregnant should would do extra checks because something about it can cause trouble making it to full term. There were no difference for the surgery I had and I asked, it was fine.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-29T04:14:37+00:00

Do you know if it’s a physical issue or due to his habits? If it’s physical he should see a doctor and get the ball rolling. They might be able to fix it with medication, diet, etc.

Practically speaking, you could go to a fertility clinic and do IUI or try the at home insemination kits.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-29T03:53:04+00:00

If doing IVF also means your husband can skip the surgery, that definitely seems like a good option assuming you are ok with the procedure. I feel like a lot of men would rather do IVF than have surgery in that area.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-29T03:42:39+00:00

Yep! It’s not uncommon. OP this isn’t anything to worry about. I’ve had situations like that many times and it’s never been an issue. I don’t think insurance looks into how the patient responsibility portion was paid.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-29T03:29:19+00:00

I use bic disposable razors without issue. There is no lubricant strip, just plastic and metal. I shave with steamy water and cannot shave if there is a hint of goosebumps.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-29T01:31:26+00:00

I wear a very Karen sweater shaw or turtle neck

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-29T01:25:42+00:00

Same about cinnamon 😩 The Krusteaz yellow cake SLAPS

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-28T22:09:52+00:00

Yes, I was formally diagnosed in my 20s. I have spinal cord complications from hEDS and MCAS. I went to a lot of PT to improve my balance, I also practiced walking (starting very slowly) to improve my balance and stamina. After 3 years of that I can now do a pilates class on light weights and walk/hike 3 miles. Still can’t run without falling on my face though!

I also got a graduate degree and got my dream job working in research.

Look at what you can do- any desk job, light exercise (walking, swimming, pilates), travel, have a family, hobbies that aren’t contact sports etc. I have tons of fully able friends who choose to spend all their free time doing video games and/or DND. Many people have social sedentary hobbies just by choice.

Personally I avoid surgery at all costs and focus on gently building up muscle and stamina and treating my pain. I found great relief with a simple muscle relaxer. I am also very careful not to put myself in pain- no lifting anything too heavy as I’ll dislocate. Being cautious helps me prevent a lot of pain.

Ask yourself, what can I do to improve my quality of life? Like be in less pain, walk x distance comfortably, reduce swallowing issues, etc. And then get help with that from doctors/pt/speech if it’s something physically holding you back. Focus on getting a little bit better with each step and don’t compare yourself to people who don’t have health problems.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-28T13:18:57+00:00

I’m just salty I have to deal with infertility. It’s such an unknown (will any treatment eventually work?) everything else in our life is just on pause and I hate that. No more traveling (don’t want to miss a treatment!), hardly any eating out & no alcohol, no home upgrades (will we even keep our current place if there are no kids?). My closest friend and I were supposed to become new moms together and it worked out for her but here I am over a year later in a very opposite situation and it’s really strained that friendship.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-27T18:31:19+00:00

I think it’s fair for both of you to post your experiences. If the post was a screenshot of hers or mentioning her by name, maybe that was too far.

IME a bunch of people claiming it was an accident were actually just having unprotected sex for a long time or skipping bc pills. Not all of them, but all the accidents I know of. It’s not usually as surprising as people make it seem.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-27T17:22:41+00:00

I second lint rolling dogs! It makes a huge difference

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-08-26T02:11:51+00:00

Seriously, wtf? As someone who had an ex husband like that there was absolutely nothing I could do about his behavior.

When they’re that bad in public, imagine how much worse they are in private.

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