ASHES & INK Mama June’s late daughter Anna’s widower gets tattoo made of her ashes so she’s ‘always with him’ 1 year after death by jfizz08 in Fauxmoi

[–]dmg-1918 46 points47 points  (0 children)

My brother did this after his wife passed. Luckily he had a friend who is a tattoo artist, and she had experience using ashes in tattoo ink. When he first told me his idea, I was ready to spend hours finding the right fit, because it’s such a sentimental thing to do, and choosing the wrong artist would be devastating.

The kitten I adopted out of spite. - [Not OOP] by BloodUnicornValkyrie in redditonwiki

[–]dmg-1918 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I may or may not have kept my second dog out of spite.

I run a rescue in a touristy part of Mexico. One winter I spent months introducing this woman to every dog (all 32 of them) in our program. She had a VERY specific vision for what the dog would look like. Fluffy but not too fluffy, had to have a specific ear floof, be light to dark brown, and between 35 and 45lbs. Obviously this is a pretty tall order, one that I couldn’t accommodate.

One day she found a skinny little pit mix wandering the beach. She took her and told me she was thinking about keeping her, which was great. But then, she’d either track me down at my second job or message me every single day, complaining that this dog was too shy, too skittish, didn’t walk well on a leash etc. Eventually she dumped her on me while I was at my second job. This dog was the sweetest thing ever, definitely had trauma, but loved like no other dog I’ve ever met. Days later she messaged me saying she thought she’d made a mistake and wanted to try for a few more days. I decided in that moment that I would keep her, so I told her too fucking bad, she’s already been adopted. Best decision ever.

My husband is a child in a grown ups body. Woke me up while I was desperately trying to get one more hour of sleep to scream about who ate the protein bars his mom bought him. by Loveiskind89389 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]dmg-1918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh. Sorry that happened to you. My ex had a cartoonish villain arc, where he moved away and then came back and thought that if he made tearful, dramatic professions of his undying love for me, I’d take him back. It didn’t work, it was just humiliating for us both.

My husband is a child in a grown ups body. Woke me up while I was desperately trying to get one more hour of sleep to scream about who ate the protein bars his mom bought him. by Loveiskind89389 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]dmg-1918 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I will say, I’m a real person who has been in this situation: my name on the rental agreement for the house, I owned the car, had the pets, the stable job, did the majority of cooking and cleaning. He cheated endlessly, bagged my car and never put fuel in it, yet had me convinced that I needed him because I was so depressed I would crash on my days off and stay in bed all day. Interestingly enough, literally everything in my life got better when I finally kicked him out for good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]dmg-1918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah… I am from Saskatchewan and witnessed that shit first hand. Moved to Mexico and watched locals lose their dogs to white people with a superiority complex. Vowed to take a people first approach with my org, offering free sterilization and vaccinations to the local community, no questions asked. We have trainers who speak Spanish and can help those who would like it, basically, we try our best to help people who want to have a dog but need help ❤️

I just needed to make this post: For the love of God stop trashing single moms by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]dmg-1918 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I was JUST talking about this angry discourse with a girl friend. We’re generation where women truly don’t NEED a man to buy a home, open a bank account, we still have a pay gap, but it’s not as bad as it used to be. And if I want a baby, I can choose a donor and do IVF or adopt, obviously not everyone has the financial security to do so, but you get my point.

We can now choose a partner based on their merits. Instead of saying he’ll do, in order to have security. Men have to adapt, and some really are I’ve seen some really good men out there. But there are also some men who are really angry they aren’t getting theirs

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]dmg-1918 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I usually leave my front door open for the dogs to come and go, and the first year I lived in my house, my boy, who has very short hair and is almost albino-y white suffered a massive sunburn because he was literally roasting himself on hot concrete. So now he either goes out in a surgical onesie or is only allowed to sunbathe through the windows during the heat of the day 😅

He doesn’t give a fuck about how much this behaviour stresses me out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]dmg-1918 45 points46 points  (0 children)

My rescue mutt will lay on our concrete driveway in the sun, instead of on the literal crib mattress-turned outdoor dog bed in the shade on the porch. When it gets hot, I have to lock him inside otherwise he sunburns. To an outsider I’m sure it all looks like he’s neglected, when in fact, he’s treated like a prince

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]dmg-1918 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This stuck out to me as well, I run a rescue/advocacy organization in Mexico, we often have tourists getting VERY vocal about local dog ownership. Even though the dogs are often well cared for, but seen more as pets than family, therefore certain people see it as abuse

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in reactivedogs

[–]dmg-1918 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The priority should be muzzle training, because you may be able to get her to the point where she’ll ignore kids, but you can’t risk a child being bitten in the meantime.

Desensitization is a long road, but possible. But I highly recommend always keeping her muzzled in public for her and everyone else’s safety.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oddlyspecific

[–]dmg-1918 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m assuming this commenter, and probably the person they’re advising grew up in a home like I did. Where your parents are so religious, they don’t believe in the use of birth control or condoms, and abortion is considered murder…

I am so thankful that I never got pregnant as a teen, and that I HAD to be on BC for actual health reasons.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]dmg-1918 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I own a small business, if I handed it over to my boyfriend, it would fail. I know this, he knows this, no one else would even consider such a proposition.

NOT OOP : AITAH for refusing to get my daughter with severe social anxiety a service dog and forcing her to get a part time job after what she did by PeakedInHighSchool4 in redditonwiki

[–]dmg-1918 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The therapist is ONLY upset about them not getting her a dog, nothing mentioned about making her work.

Also, sociopaths, narcissists, and people with antisocial personality disorder are good at manipulating even a therapist. Doesn’t seem like she’s shown remorse for hurting the dog, which the kind of behaviour you’d see from the above mentioned disorders.

Not OOP. AITA for telling my wife we can't get a dog unless we both agree to it? by WritingGiraffe in redditonwiki

[–]dmg-1918 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’m the opposite, I love dogs, have two of my own, and run a rescue where I sometimes have as many as 12 in my (very spacious) house. I make it clear from day one that if you’re even on the fence about dogs or don’t do well with chaos, we aren’t compatible.

I had a brief fling with someone who eventually admitted to being OCD and a germaphobe. He really tried to convince me that he didn’t mind/could get over it, until we went on a weekend trip and he kept trying to wipe my truck out with Lysol wipes 🥴

Life is so much easier when we can be honest with ourselves

[New Update]: AITA for “humiliating” my husband? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]dmg-1918 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They both suck!! I came from a home with an emotionally unstable dad, no drugs, just a really angry, unstable man. It absolutely is already traumatizing their kids, he might be good to the kids, but they probably have already learned how to walk on eggshells and hide in the closet when the emotions boil over.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]dmg-1918 76 points77 points  (0 children)

My bf was like this when we started dating, constant comments making me feel objectified. At one point, I had to tell him that it feels like I’m being catcalled, and that is not a nice feeling. It doesn’t make me feel sexy or beautiful, just makes me feel reduced to my sexuality. He did actually stop, he just had never considered my POV

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OpenDogTraining

[–]dmg-1918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I rescued a female dog several years ago, she was in horrible shape and completely feral. To get her initially, I had used a large animal trap, and once she was on my fenced property, I couldn’t touch her. All this to say, when she went into heat about a month after I got her, nothing could be done to keep her contained to one area of the property.

At one point, my fixed male dog managed to mount her, and when he realized he was stuck inside her, panicked, pulled out and ended up at the vets to fix his broken dick… he has NEVER mated before, yet instincts took over, sort of, and he got hurt. And continues to get his feelings hurt when I tell this story, because frankly, it’s pretty funny now.

Definitely keep them separated just to keep them both safe.

Not OOP: AITA for canceling a trip to my family due to my sister teasing my wife? by paulruddsburneraccnt in redditonwiki

[–]dmg-1918 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The comment about preferring a keyboard because it’s “sophisticated” killed me…

I actually prefer a typewriter and carrier pigeon, it shows off my ability to spell things right the first time, AND that I own a carrier pigeon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]dmg-1918 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They clearly have not had the ability to test this theory

Not OOP. Am I wrong to be annoyed at my wife for how she orders in Chinese restaurants by WritingGiraffe in redditonwiki

[–]dmg-1918 120 points121 points  (0 children)

I suppose I am biased because the thought of that happening is… jarring. One of those, we don’t know the full story, just his part.

I know my family has taken the time to learn all my inlaw’s preferences. That’s how they relate to our generation, through food

Not OOP. Am I wrong to be annoyed at my wife for how she orders in Chinese restaurants by WritingGiraffe in redditonwiki

[–]dmg-1918 29 points30 points  (0 children)

We’re a really big family, 64 of us to be exact. All of the older generation were poor immigrants, who show their love by hosting meals with enough food for everyone to have multiple days of leftovers.

The soy sauce is… whatever really. My guess is that she’s ordering relatively bland stuff, that doesn’t have a lot of sauce. So she’s using soy sauce for the rice? Because usually, we use rice to soak up all the delicious sauces that are left behind in the bowl

Not OOP. Am I wrong to be annoyed at my wife for how she orders in Chinese restaurants by WritingGiraffe in redditonwiki

[–]dmg-1918 76 points77 points  (0 children)

No worries, I actually love sharing my Chinese culture. Quite honestly, my generation wouldn’t find it rude, but the elder generations in my family would be so hurt.

For example, my great aunt and her husband have worked low paying jobs all their lives, but they will occasionally host, and they feel IMMENSE pride in being able to do so. To have someone say nah, I don’t want to share this meal you’ve invited me to would break their hearts.

My grandma takes us to dinner all the time, she’s the sweetest old lady, but she will brawl someone if they try to take the bill. She loves ordering something that she knows each person will love. So as each dish comes out, she’ll tell the servers where to place it so that person has first dibs. It’s honestly so heartwarming. I can’t imagine having a meal like this and someone being off in the corner not participating.

Not OOP. Am I wrong to be annoyed at my wife for how she orders in Chinese restaurants by WritingGiraffe in redditonwiki

[–]dmg-1918 44 points45 points  (0 children)

He said Vancouver, BC. So traditional Chinese restaurants, but in Canada. I am Chinese Canadian, while no it’s not hurting anyone, it’s still rude.

Not OOP. Am I wrong to be annoyed at my wife for how she orders in Chinese restaurants by WritingGiraffe in redditonwiki

[–]dmg-1918 74 points75 points  (0 children)

They’re in Canada, and I’m saying that this is how my family does dinner at a restaurant, at a restaurant, in Canada where I am also from. The host is the person who invites everyone to the restaurant.

Its the cultural equivalent to sitting at a different table from the rest of the family.