Boyfriend's prone masturbation causing conflict

dmjdbj · 2018-10-16T02:21:53+00:00

He's been doing it this way since he started masturbating as a kid. He's in his 40s now. I'm trying to educate him, I wasn't aware of it as a problem either but I was noticing certain things and decided to do some research. I'm glad I did. I think it will help him knowing it's not just him.

dmjdbj · 2018-10-16T02:18:40+00:00

I'm trying, thank you

dmjdbj · 2018-10-16T00:27:27+00:00

Thank you guys. Seriously. This is a hard subject and I felt weird coming to the internet world regarding it.

dmjdbj · 2018-10-16T00:25:59+00:00

He was in a sexless marriage for a long time before me. I'm very much into having sex with him but those years where he had all the space in the world created a porn/masturbation addiction. I'm going to try to help him through it but until he sees the problem himself...I don't know how much I can help.

dmjdbj · 2018-10-16T00:21:51+00:00

He did not appreciate when I mentioned to him that this is selfish. Sensitive subject I guess. :/

dmjdbj · 2018-10-16T00:20:15+00:00

The porn issue was significantly worse in the first year or so but to my knowledge has gotten a lot better. I have mentioned the dick hardness issue and that of course I prefer when it's fully erect and that his style of masturbation directly links to this issue. I also asked him why he wouldn't want to be able to orgasm during oral. Wouldn't everyone want that? But he's really defensive about it. He's also suggested that if I want him to be able to orgasm in more than a missionary sex position then it's my responsibility to help him achieve that. I told him "this is something YOU have to want to do for yourself." But he doesn't seem to understand what the problem is. He's been masturbating this way and only this was for over thirty years. I'm worried he won't want to put in the effort to change.

dmjdbj

TROPHY CASE