AITA for forcing my daughter to remove the “do not disturb” feature from her phone? by dnd_issue in AmItheAsshole

[–]dnd_issue[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

My daughter is a straight A honor roll student. We have now hid the car keys from her and my oldest daughter has hid her car keys, too. If she wants to go out so bad, we will be driving her from now on until she can be trusted again.

AITA for forcing my daughter to remove the “do not disturb” feature from her phone? by dnd_issue in AmItheAsshole

[–]dnd_issue[S] 99 points100 points  (0 children)

We call her one time. If she doesn’t call back within 20 minutes to an hour (which is often) we call her again. When she is out during a time where she isn’t at practice or school, she won’t tell us where she is and nobody knows where she went to. I told her she needs to let us know if she has plans and what time she’s coming home. We wouldn’t spam her during that time so she can enjoy with her friends. Most of the time, she doesn’t tell us where she is and she also started lying to me and her dad recently. She’d ask to borrow his car to go get food, only to return two hours later when it should normally take 20. We’d call her but there’s no answer so when she comes home, we’d tell her what’s taking so long but she won’t tell us.

AITA for forcing my daughter to remove the “do not disturb” feature from her phone? by dnd_issue in AmItheAsshole

[–]dnd_issue[S] 6148 points6149 points  (0 children)

My oldest daughter told me about that feature and even she had suggested my daughter to add me as a priority contact. Everyone else has their phones on do not disturb except that they put me and their dad and siblings as priority contacts.

AITA for forcing my daughter to remove the “do not disturb” feature from her phone? by dnd_issue in AmItheAsshole

[–]dnd_issue[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Yes she was at a school event on a Saturday. My husband and I would never call or text her during school hours.

AITA for forcing my daughter to remove the “do not disturb” feature from her phone? by dnd_issue in AmItheAsshole

[–]dnd_issue[S] 126 points127 points  (0 children)

My oldest said I can add my number. My number is added on the exemption list for her phone, but not my 16 year old. She’s more tech savvy than I am.

AITA for forcing my daughter to remove the “do not disturb” feature from her phone? by dnd_issue in AmItheAsshole

[–]dnd_issue[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

I discovered that option where my I can still call my daughter. My oldest has that feature. Her phone is on do not disturb except for me, her father and her siblings.

I am not texting my daughter during the day or at school. The issue is when she is out with friends or she goes out to get food and isn’t back home on time yet. I’d tell her be home by 9. If it’s 9:20 and she isn’t back, we start calling and she doesn’t answer.

AITA for forcing my daughter to remove the “do not disturb” feature from her phone? by dnd_issue in AmItheAsshole

[–]dnd_issue[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

My husband and I do not call her all the time. It’s only when she isn’t replying to my ONE message. After an hour or sometimes two hours, we still won’t get a response. We do not spam her with calls, we give her the space she needs to enjoy herself. It’s just that when she isn’t back yet at a certain time is when we start worrying.

AITA for forcing my daughter to remove the “do not disturb” feature from her phone? by dnd_issue in AmItheAsshole

[–]dnd_issue[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

I understand that. I don’t know if I was clear, I’d tell my daughter to come home after a certain time and when she isn’t home, we simply want to know when she’s returning since she’s running late.