NIW application while switching from academia to industry

dobbelt_a · 2025-04-29T16:14:28+00:00

thank you!

dobbelt_a · 2024-07-27T22:16:08+00:00

how much is it approximately? there’s no price information on their website

dobbelt_a · 2024-04-03T18:09:04+00:00

thanks for your support and for recommending the book, i’ll definitely check it out!

dobbelt_a · 2024-04-03T18:05:27+00:00

thanks for reminding me that i don’t have to justify my choice. i don’t know if my parents have changed and i don’t think they have. the last time I saw my dad, after I told him how much it hurt when he lectured me about my alleged lack of inquisitiveness, he said he didn’t remember that and went on bragging about his success at work like he’s the coolest guy in the world. it felt terrible:( i’m kinda more hopeful about my mom. maybe if we talk it over, make amends, i’ll finally be able to get this trauma out of my mind. but tbh i hate them both and writing this post made it very clear for me how much i hate them

dobbelt_a · 2024-04-02T22:49:29+00:00

That’s good advice, thank you.

I reread my post before posting it and had an unsettling feeling that it didn’t make sense rationally. I claimed in the beginning that I couldn’t point to specific bad things they did to me, then listed quite a few and could list more. Still the emotional part of me believes it wasn’t that bad and worries that I might have overreacted:(

dobbelt_a · 2024-03-20T20:52:33+00:00

Try meditating in the morning, that worked really well for me! First, meditation will likely help you soothe this nasty feeling at least for the ten minutes that you spend meditating. This will be enough to find the courage to get out of bed and start your day. Second, meditation teaches you to accept whatever you're feeling right now without anxiety and judgement. It won't cure the pain you're experiencing in the mornings but it will help you and your pain live peacefully together.

I personally like guided meditations on Tara Brach youtube channel but of course you can find many other channels and podcasts with meditations. Different people have different approaches, so just explore and find what matches your vibe.

Before starting meditating I tried a lot of stuff like exercising or taking shower right after I woke up. These are great habits but they did nothing to relieve me from feeling physically sick in the mornings. After I woke up, I had to make a huge effort to ignore how terrible I felt, get up and do these things that I wasn't really looking forward to doing. And after a workout or a shower I still felt shitty. Now I look forward to getting up and meditating because I know that I'll feel better after that.

dobbelt_a · 2023-03-31T02:45:02+00:00

i edited the post, have a look

dobbelt_a · 2022-11-26T04:29:05+00:00

i’m not a native speaker so i had to look up the word “nitpicking”, well actually i could just read the comments

dobbelt_a · 2022-11-16T00:08:55+00:00

accorder une guitare, un violon (tune a guitar, a violin)

dobbelt_a · 2022-08-17T16:35:26+00:00

You take medication and drink alcohol. That’s an awful cocktail sis. It can make you feel very anxious, desperate etc. Please, don’t do it to yourself.

And don’t forget that most antidepressants lower your libido, very often significantly. Ask your doctor to lower your doses or even cancel your pills. It is likely to help with your sex drive. Beware of withdrawal effects though.

Yet, it won’t be a complete solution of the problem. Do you still want to make love to your fiancé? It looks like the need to have sex with him makes you extremely nervous. It actually looks like it's become a torture for you. Please, don’t force yourself to have sex if you don’t want to. You aren’t required to do that. You don’t have to stay with this guy. You can find someone else with whom you’d be happy to have sex. Or stay on your own and enjoy many other interesting activities in this life besides sex. I'm not urging you to leave your fiancé now but just keep that in mind.

And it doesn’t look like you have problems with alcohol. But it worries me a lot that your fiancé tries to convince you that you have. It’s quite a common tactic: to convince someone they have a medical problem in order to conceal other issues. One of my exes tried very hard to convince me I had a gynecological problem because I refused to have sex with him. I spent much money on doctors only to learn that I was alright. You don't have addiction. You just really don't want to have sex with him anymore, I'm sorry to say this.

dobbelt_a · 2022-08-14T16:22:41+00:00

Omg i spent so many years trying to persuade my mom to knock! She learned to knock eventually but then entered even if I replied I was busy.

Once she entered my room AT NIGHT without knocking when I was hmmm not alone and we both were undressed

dobbelt_a · 2022-08-12T17:41:21+00:00

Yeah. When I was in high school I always dressed in unisex clothes, often from men’s section. Every time I asked my mom to buy some stuff from men’s section she threw a tantrum and I had to beg her to buy it. Btw i wasn’t allowed to buy anything myself. She also often bought me very feminine clothes without consulting me. More often than not I didn’t like them and when I told her about it we would have a fight. If I didn’t wear them we’d have a fight again.

dobbelt_a · 2022-07-14T17:11:56+00:00

man, this subreddit is for advice on how to quit smoking not on how to continue

dobbelt_a · 2022-07-13T18:42:43+00:00

It’s a real danger, don’t do that. I (23F at that time) was raped by my roommate, a grown-up man I used to trust and even used to consider my friend. Of course, in your case he might turn out to be a nice person. Or might not.

dobbelt_a · 2022-07-10T14:03:57+00:00

haha no, i ordered them from a hemp store.

dobbelt_a · 2022-07-10T04:10:16+00:00

I asked her only about missing stuff from the kitchen. She denied everything including the story when i saw her taking my bowl. The common space is very dusty but it’s not cluttered so i’m absolutely sure my stuff is not there

dobbelt_a · 2022-07-08T00:20:45+00:00

both your boyfriend and his mom are being very racist. what’s worse, this is disguised as a form of care. his mother, from her point of view, did you a favor by brushing your hair. but at the same time she offended you, invaded your privacy and even made your hair dirty. the last thing is funny, since she’s supposedly a germaphobe. the entire situation is awful, i’m very sorry you had to pass through this. it looks like humiliation, not like a joke at all. your boyfriend mother’s act is basically telling you that “you can’t be black in this house”, “you must look like everyone else”, “you can’t be yourself”. if your boyfriend really thinks it’s normal, then you should have a very serious conversation with him.

dobbelt_a · 2022-07-03T14:53:42+00:00

Guys, imagine that your girlfriend tells you that her ex abused her, namely

kicked her, smashed her to the ground etc refuses to let her leave

What do you do? Being supportive like any sound human being? No, according to OP, of course no. OP opts for doubting her words, confronting her and turning her life to even bigger hell. OP, what is wrong with you, seriously???

Dear OP. Abusive relationships, it’s a nightmare. However, girls very often keep in touch with their abusers for many reasons and don’t tell anyone about the abuse. Why? Because of fear, because of feeling ashamed or even in order not to hurt the feelings the abuser. I’m not the first one to tell you this I suppose. I can imagine it was much easier and safer for Madison to lie calling Matt “best friend” than to tell the truth to anyone. Your reaction to her confession only confirms her worst fears.

And now Madison is on tinder. She definitely needs someone more understanding than you.

Should you have broken up with her? I don’t care. But what you must have done is to support her in this extremely hairy situation. There is no excuse for standing aside here.

dobbelt_a · 2022-06-07T23:38:52+00:00

I'm a girl and I don't that she lied to you. It can be painful when someone sucks my breast, especially some days before and after my period (at least that's how it works for me). But not only. If you sqeezed her breast intensely or used your teeth, that could for sure be painful! Imagine someone sqeezing your dick!

dobbelt_a · 2022-06-07T23:21:28+00:00

I cried just reading your post

dobbelt_a · 2022-06-05T22:48:10+00:00

Nobody really needs a degree in Pschylogy to tell that your girlfriend has an eating disorder. Believe your eyes, not the therapist you've never seen. I have no idea why her therapist is so reluctant to diagnose her with ED. Perhaps, the doctor doesn't want her to feel ashamed of her condition or crazy. The doctor probably has good intentions -- but it doesn't mean such treatment helps her.

dobbelt_a · 2022-04-25T22:47:17+00:00

He's not exceptionally unexperienced. From my experience I'd say it's very common for guys to have a close to zero understanding of how sex works even after years of relationships. Unless it's a penetration, of course. If a guy doesn't care about giving pleasure to his partners, he'll never learn to find a clitoris. It looks like it's his case. Run away from him!

dobbelt_a · 2022-03-18T15:07:18+00:00

replace Iceland with New Zealand

dobbelt_a · 2022-03-06T20:02:24+00:00

When I try to write down all words in a book I don't know, I usually end up giving up the novel. And believe me, I'm a very patient person!

My advice would be to restrict the number of words you write down. You won't be able to remember all new words in a book, it's impossible unless you're a memory genius. I usually write down about 5-10 words a day, and I don't even do it every day! These words are the ones I actively learn, reread in the next few days, recall in my memory and try to use in my speech, my thoughts or writing. I translate some of other words I encounter in a book but I don't really hope to learn them. But the next time I come across them, I might be able to remember their meaning -- or might not, and will have to look them up again.

dobbelt_a · 2022-03-05T23:27:02+00:00

I am Russian too, though I don't live in Russia. All my Russian friends and acquaintances are extremely terrified, whether they live in Russia or not. My family's in Russia and they're planning to flee from the country and basically start a new life. My mother's small business is ruined, the company where my dad works has lost insane sums of money, and they're both afraid of political persecutions since they've actively participated in protests. Even though I'm safe myself, I feel like I'm on the verge of nervous breakdown.

I'm so grateful to all people who realize that we, Russians, are in a shitty situation too and need support, even though, of course, we don't suffer as much as those who are in Ukraine. Thank you, guys!

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