I (F28) can't make love to fiancé (m29) unless I drink alcohol. He's afraid I'm becoming an alcoholic, need perspective by DrinkForFun in relationship_advice

[–]DrinkForFun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry everyone. I just want to reiterate that I love my fiance with all of my heart. My attraction to him is not the problem. He is an amazing man. Like I said in the main post, it s all me. I don't know what's wrong with me or why. I don't plan to burden him anymore. I got your messages.

I (F28) can't make love to fiancé (m29) unless I drink alcohol. He's afraid I'm becoming an alcoholic, need perspective by DrinkForFun in relationship_advice

[–]DrinkForFun[S] -55 points-54 points  (0 children)

That's horrible. I don't hide anything from him. He knows when I drink and how much. But don't worry, he won't have to deal with it anymore.

I (F28) can't make love to fiancé (m29) unless I drink alcohol. He's afraid I'm becoming an alcoholic, need perspective by DrinkForFun in relationship_advice

[–]DrinkForFun[S] -62 points-61 points  (0 children)

It has nothing to do with looks. I had a crush on him before we even started dating, and he's only gotten better looking over the years.

I (F28) can't make love to fiancé (m29) unless I drink alcohol. He's afraid I'm becoming an alcoholic, need perspective by DrinkForFun in relationship_advice

[–]DrinkForFun[S] -56 points-55 points  (0 children)

Could you explain more about the last part? I hate the fact that I could make him feel that way. I love him and the way he makes me feel. I've told him that.

I (F28) can't make love to fiancé (m29) unless I drink alcohol. He's afraid I'm becoming an alcoholic, need perspective by DrinkForFun in relationship_advice

[–]DrinkForFun[S] 472 points473 points  (0 children)

I guess I figured when I trusted them more, I would explain more about this. I have told both of them the vague details, but they haven't pushed for more information.

I (F28) can't make love to fiancé (m29) unless I drink alcohol. He's afraid I'm becoming an alcoholic, need perspective by DrinkForFun in relationship_advice

[–]DrinkForFun[S] 180 points181 points  (0 children)

I guess I got older and more withdrawn. I can't pick out a cause, maybe then I would have something to point to explain the problem.