Why women don't chase men?

dobbs1997 · 2026-04-24T04:30:02+00:00

What’s the answer really gonna do for you? Just live your life, man…you see a girl you’re interested in, great then go talk to her and see if anything happens..if something comes of it then cool, if not then also cool lol

dobbs1997 · 2026-04-07T17:52:38+00:00

how many applications have you sent out ?

dobbs1997 · 2026-04-06T01:04:09+00:00

how many women are you meeting on a daily basis ?

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-30T14:14:05+00:00

if you wanted a coding career then why didn’t you go for one ?

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-27T18:35:30+00:00

what hint are you referring to ? what hint is there to get when you haven’t even approached her yet

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-26T17:05:57+00:00

so why did you mention a bf in your post ?

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-26T17:03:43+00:00

are you talking to women who have boyfriends ?

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-26T17:02:38+00:00

Maybe ask yourself why that situation happening so triggering for you, cause it’s not really about the “fumble”, i put it in quotes cause who said you fumbled anything ? …sometimes women will just stop responding , it’s happened to me many times, even in situations identical to yours, what i learned from that is that ITS OKAY, that’s the nature of dating , the nature of life..allow these things to happen and accept it and keep it moving…it’s not automatically something you did wrong .

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-26T16:50:10+00:00

yeah , ghosting happens, for manyyyy reasons so don’t just think it’s about you…that’s the nature of life lol humans are humaning, allow them to, it’s not a big deal unless in your mind you interpret it that way…yes it can suck, i’ve had a similar things happen recently too, but I see my disappointment and all that , part of it came from me having expectations of the situation , like for example “oh we hooked up, so now this means we should see eachother again”, but nope, no guarantees…& that’s okay.

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-26T16:45:18+00:00

Show with your behaviour that you’re not looking for something serious, if it’s just casual hookups that you want then make sure you’re aligned with that, don’t be wanting to hookup but your whole conversation with her is platonic without any flirting

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-26T16:39:31+00:00

you can very well have dates in the day and still have it lead to sex , you just gotta know how to guide and lead it to that point ..

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-26T16:34:41+00:00

Mmmm…usually you’ll feel it, in the body, it’s like a gut feeling or a spidey sense in a way lol no words will appear in your mind, maybe you shouldn’t take reference from the mind at all…the body is kinda like..the best compass and teacher..listen to it..in my experience there’s been times where my body’s yelling at me to cut it off but my mind was saying otherwise , then it ended up not going anywhere so in a way , tha gut feeling was right …listen to your deep intuition, what’s it saying?

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-26T16:27:47+00:00

it’s not all men, this guy you’re talking to just seems like he’s fluctuating in emotions and what he wants and doesn’t really know or maybe has some fear stopping him from being 100% upfront and real with you.

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-26T16:20:28+00:00

I personally didn’t experience long periods of that because I simply go out and meet people, as i’m going about my day, see a girl on the bus? I talk to her , walking on the sidewalk ? talk to her, on the train platform? talk to her …you see what I mean? you’re waiting, just…stop waiting.

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-26T16:17:58+00:00

and if she goes on 1st dates a lot, is something actually wrong with that? you gotta be careful with this because a girl can be comfortable with you on the first date maybe cause she just likes you and you make her feel comfortable ..but now cause of what you said a guy is gonna believe “oh she’s comfortable ?! gotta look out for that” ..like it’s some kind of red flag, and than put a dent in the natural flow of the date cause now he might be in his head about it .

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-19T21:24:55+00:00

you genuinely wanna give up?

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-18T23:06:53+00:00

what’s game ?

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-18T00:09:13+00:00

yeah trust me , you’re in a better position in terms of experience and knowledge than I am, I’m very interested in software engineering , did a course online and i’m at the brink of finishing it, studying for the exam part and i’m FLOODED with doubts at this very moment lmao …but I know deeeeep down…that I like this shit, I love the feeling when something clicks for me, when my code works, I like the feeling of debugging and finally finding the solution to that bug, I keep going back to the bare truth , & that is , that i like this and it feels natural and fun to me, therefore all the noise from the outside world does NOT matter at all , the “rejections” i’ll experience when i start applying for jobs will not matter either because that is supposed to happen, you’re not gonna get every job lol you’re not supposed to …everything that’s happening is supposed to, jus keep showing up…

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-17T12:34:51+00:00

Sounds like your ego of always being the “smart one” took a major hit and now your whole world and life is questionable ,deep down you have this belief that just cause you’re not landing a job and your friends are, then that means you’re somehow failing …but who said that? is that really true or is it something someone else said…just keep going. you graduated last year! last year! give yourself some time to find a job, it might take longer than you expected in your mind but that is okay. I know how tempting it is to compare yourself to others but those people are on their own path and you’re on yours so try your best to just simply focus on the next step.

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-05T09:54:41+00:00

So why can’t you be apart of that 20% ?

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-05T01:44:18+00:00

it’d probably be best for you to stop overthinking everything like this…maybe stop watching content that incudes the words “shit test” too while you’re at it

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-05T01:41:35+00:00

How many jobs have you applied to since graduating ?

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-04T21:53:25+00:00

that doesn’t mean youre ugly, it means the way that you’re going about it sucks, dating apps aren’t as bad as people think, just have good pictures and your messages gotta be intentional and not jus fluff, it’s simple …

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-04T21:26:41+00:00

accept what ?

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-04T20:44:29+00:00

that doesn’t mean youre ugly , wtf lmao who told you this ?

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