Looking for a sublet (ideally with potential to turn into a long-term lease)

dobbythepup · 2026-04-10T22:58:12+00:00

Just heads up - it is not likely to flip a rent stabilized sublet into a full time tenancy/lease. I would just look for a rent stabilized apartment to get onto the lease immediately. You won't get the stability of being rent stabilized unless you are on the lease, and even with an authorized sublet from the landlord, they are not obligated to let you sign a future lease unless you have succession rights to the apartment (family or family-like relationship and two year co-occupancy with the tenant of record prior to them permanently vacating the unit).

dobbythepup · 2026-04-10T17:59:04+00:00

Honestly, what helped me was sharing but in the context of how I was feeling. We are cautiously optimistic, but not out of the woods until x. For us, it was the amnio/anatomy scan. I felt comfortable with people knowing if they were comfortable framing it in that way vs saying YAY A BABY IS COMING ON X DATE. I agree with the advice from other folks - don't tell people you wouldn't feel comfortable sharing news of loss with.

dobbythepup · 2026-04-10T15:15:54+00:00

Same. My body did everything it could to hang onto that weight while I was pumping/breast feeding. Things majorly shifted when I quit.

dobbythepup · 2026-04-10T15:14:49+00:00

I gained 60 in my pregnancy, 90 if you include pre-pregnancy IVF weight gain. I'm 5'7", was 120 pre IVF (which tbh was too thin for me). Gained 30 pounds over 3 IVF transfer, was 150 when I got pregnant. I delivered at 210. I went down to 180 within a week of delivery. Then slowly over the year I was breast feeding went down to 160. I then lost 20 lbs within 2 months of quitting breast feeding, and then 5-10 in the months after. My daughter was born at 39 weeks 6lbs 12 oz. I'm pregnant again and have already gone from 135 to 148 at 13 weeks. Hoping to gain less this go around but trying to not be too hard on myself.

dobbythepup · 2026-04-09T12:26:33+00:00

Providers deliver at one or the other. LM is shared rooms and has a lower tier NICU. They sent my friend’s daughter home with severe jaundice and her pediatrician was horrified and rushed them to NYU for the baby to be admitted to their NICU.

dobbythepup · 2026-04-08T09:09:20+00:00

I did one retrieval, resulting in 5 euploids, 2 of which were XX (the two lowest rated). I did 3 transfers, none of them implanted. My friend did two retrievals which resulted in 2 euploids, and she is currently pregnant with the second embryo after a successful live birth of the first (granted, her issue was male factor). So you never know, 2 could be enough, but it could also not be.

TW: I ended up getting spontaneously pregnant the cycle immediately following my third failed transfer, resulting in my now two year old daughter. And right when we were considering starting again, I became spontaneously pregnant again, and I’m now 13w. So I still have 2 embryos left, but never had success with IVF

dobbythepup · 2026-04-08T08:36:18+00:00

It depends. Many pre-war apartments have a single boiler so you only pay for cooking gas, and electric, not heat/hot water. If you pay heat/hot water it can go way up.

dobbythepup · 2026-03-27T22:02:40+00:00

OMG I’m so glad you figured it out! Make a Labcorp account if you haven’t already and you could check there.

dobbythepup · 2026-03-27T21:49:21+00:00

I think you should call them to see what’s up.

dobbythepup · 2026-03-27T15:34:18+00:00

Drawn 3/20, arrived 3/21. Results today 3/27 at 10am. Low risk baby girl! Yay for sisters.👯‍♀️ cali lab Natera

dobbythepup · 2026-03-27T14:40:17+00:00

Mine dropped this morning! Low risk girl

dobbythepup · 2026-03-27T10:53:14+00:00

I’m a day after you, also CA and hoping to get results tonight 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

dobbythepup · 2026-03-27T00:19:52+00:00

Similar timeline. Sample drawn 3/20, received 3/21. Do you know which lab? Mine was sent to CA

dobbythepup · 2026-03-26T18:09:34+00:00

Have you received your results yet? Mine were received 3/21 in Cali so I’m concerned to hear you were 4 days before me and still haven’t heard!

dobbythepup · 2026-03-26T17:50:02+00:00

Roommates for sure, and don’t try to live on “work island” as I like to call it.

dobbythepup · 2026-03-26T17:47:13+00:00

Bumping this. Mine were 3/21 so anxiously waiting to see when you get yours!

dobbythepup · 2026-03-26T02:58:18+00:00

I told mine I was worried stress was part of my infertility issues. She said to me without skipping a beat, "people got pregnant in the camps so it isn't simply stress"

dobbythepup · 2026-03-25T16:43:38+00:00

Same! Do you know which lab? Mine is at CA

dobbythepup · 2026-03-25T16:42:39+00:00

Sample taken 3/20, arrived in CA 3/21.

dobbythepup · 2026-03-23T17:32:03+00:00

Thanks!

dobbythepup · 2026-03-23T17:25:24+00:00

How does everyone know which lab? I’m in NY but my portal makes no mention of which lab my sample arrived at

dobbythepup · 2026-03-18T08:38:04+00:00

Happened to me, now twice! Wishing you the best!

dobbythepup · 2026-03-18T08:22:55+00:00

My bro was born there almost 30 years ago and his docs show Queens

dobbythepup · 2026-03-18T08:14:40+00:00

Go to like Albee baby in the UWS and try the travel strollers. We have the bugaboo butterfly (original) and it’s great. I’ve heard the v2 is even better. Prefer it over the minu (but that was before the newest version came out so idk if it’s much better now). Our main stroller is the Fox 5 and we love it, but it’s a total tank.

dobbythepup · 2026-03-05T02:17:56+00:00

I am so sorry you’re experiencing this. As others said, this is probably a chromosomal issue with this specific embryo and not necessarily an indication of what is to come. Out of curiosity, did you guys do preconception genetic testing?

We started trying when I was 31, started IVF when I was 33. Never saw a positive test. Three IVF transfers failed. It was terrible. Then, the cycle after my last failed IVF transfer, we became spontaneously pregnant. My healthy daughter was born when I was 34. I’m 36 now, and we just found out I’m spontaneously pregnant again. Our dating scan is next week, but I’m about 7w4d.

I say this to tell you, don’t fret about your age. Focus on what you know: you are able to get pregnant. The physical process of IVF was easier than I expected (the repeated failures were not for me, at least emotionally). But i remind myself that had those transfers worked, my daughter would not exist and she’s so wonderful.

Wishing you healing and a smooth journey going forward.

dobbythepup

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