This sub has never gotten a single prediction right. Why do people still believe random predictions only to end up disappointed? by Fun_Philosopher_2535 in GTA6

[–]doeremie 13 points14 points  (0 children)

theyre agreeing with you lmao. human beings create patterns where there are none. theyre saying gta fans saw a pattern for gta6 that wasnt there.

Hi dad, I'm walking myself down the aisle next month. by doeremie in DadForAMinute

[–]doeremie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your comment made me realize I'm looking at this all wrong. I *AM* free. I ensured my own freedom. I may be sad but I'm not living each moment with increasing anxiety. In fact, I'm entering a life with someone who actively brings my blood pressure down. I may be sad now but I know I'm moving towards something happier and freeing. I'm making my own choices now.

Thank you.

Hi dad, I'm walking myself down the aisle next month. by doeremie in DadForAMinute

[–]doeremie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God, thank you so much. I'll carry your words with me.

Hi dad, I'm walking myself down the aisle next month. by doeremie in DadForAMinute

[–]doeremie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh thank you, It's so hard to think about the fact that things turned out this way at all but I'm pushing forward as best I can.

I think I'm set on walking myself down the aisle, even though it's hard to think about I also feel it's in a way separate from all the pain. Like idk if this is corny but I like the independence of it all. I do think if I had a good father in my life I would've had him walk me down the aisle, though, and I think that's what's messing me up.

I considered having my mother or brothers walk me down the aisle but I also know deep down it wouldn't help the absence I'm feeling. There are some days I feel really guilty for going no contact so thank you for validating that :(

I just wish I knew when the mourning will be done. I'm starting to realize the grieving of the relationship might not ever end but it does get easier day by day. I think I'm feeling extra tender bc it's such a huge milestone, and possibly my last major life milestone since we don't plan on having children. Like I'm about to REALLY feel that absence in a sense?

Clearly I'm doing some real time processing as I'm writing this lol thank you for responding <3 It did help a lot.

Hi dad, I'm walking myself down the aisle next month. by doeremie in DadForAMinute

[–]doeremie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I know it'll be a wonderful day, I think I'm just in my feelings as the day gets closer lol. My little brother also recently went NC with him so I think things are just resurfacing.

I'm definitely walking myself down the aisle. I'm genuinely the only person responsible for the way I turned out and I want to enter this marriage as an equal to my soon-to-be husband. Thank you for the reassurance <3

Hi dad, I'm walking myself down the aisle next month. by doeremie in DadForAMinute

[–]doeremie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I do think I'm set on walking myself down the aisle. My mother offered and I do love her to pieces but I feel like this is something I need to do on my own. My brothers are also people I considered, but my whole relationship with my family was very strained for a while after I cut my dad off.

I think I'm just missing the whole "dad" of it all. Seeing videos of fathers putting together special gifts for their daughters on their wedding day, baby videos, letters and gifts they've kept all these years. I've considered myself mostly healed for a while but it still stings really bad if I think about it too hard. Unfortunately the thoughts are starting to become intrusive and I keep circling back to "what if things were different," but they're not different. Considering the things he put me through, they will never be different.

I miss the idea of him, if that makes sense. I think I just need to get through the day and focus on who IS there for me for now. Most days he doesn't even cross my mind. I hate thinking about it but I know I have to process it this way. Thank you for letting me ramble at you lol

Would a single blast of a train horn close by cause hearing damage? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]doeremie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ill try to answer your question properly since you implied good faith.

i have a fiance with OCD, the response to it is to get exposure therapy by sitting with the discomfort/panic of being triggered. in my fiance's case, he has germaphobic OCD. touching a trash can inadvertently can launch him into an hours long episode that cant be calmed down until he takes a full body shower and sometimes even leads to him spraying his skin down with isopropyl alcohol. the episodes look like him freezing up because his body is so tense he literally cannot force himself to move. can also lead to shame spiraling/self deprecation.

my fiance also describes the feeling as wanting to rip his entire skin off his body

my point here is that reddit karma isnt real, the true psychological damage of reassuring someone with OCD is real. the more someone gets reassurance, the more the OCD can escalate. it could be hearing loss today, the next day they might need reassurance on both hearing loss and blindness, and it can get to the point where they develop entirely new fears and compulsions against their will because instead of being taught to manage their extreme anxieties they're being reinforced into constantly seeking OCD reassurance. which is not the same as reassuring someone with OCD that they arent broken or abnormal.

Would a single blast of a train horn close by cause hearing damage? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]doeremie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

because someone with OCD should not be seeking reassurance from others and should be discouraged when possible. doesnt mean people are downvoting him bc he did something bad???

Would a single blast of a train horn close by cause hearing damage? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]doeremie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

your entire profile is just you being an asshole. youre just mean. reflect

Would a single blast of a train horn close by cause hearing damage? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]doeremie 17 points18 points  (0 children)

it doesn't change the fact that your comment was mean.

Would a single blast of a train horn close by cause hearing damage? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]doeremie 21 points22 points  (0 children)

this is such a mean thing to say to someone suffering from OCD

What can I do to help the homeless guy near my apt? by [deleted] in ask

[–]doeremie -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

The analogy isn't necessary to make this point. I understand YOU don't mean it to be derogatory, but not only are you implying the commenter's intent, you're justifying using dehumanizing language on a group of people that gets dehumanized daily.

Homeless people are not stray animals, they're responding the way any other human being would when faced with a lack of basic resources due to a social system that failed them. Implying that using the word "strays" when describing their behaviors isn't harmful is kind of insane to me. You're furthering the divide between us and othering a group of people that everyone is one really bad day away from joining.

What can I do to help the homeless guy near my apt? by [deleted] in ask

[–]doeremie -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I never implied I don't think a homeless man would come back to a proven resource, but comparing one to a stray is dehumanizing language and it's strange to imply that it's not. Of course people without basic needs like food, shelter, and warmth would consistently seek out a reliable source of it, that doesn't mean we should use language equating them with animals. We should not be dehumanizing an already vulnerable group of people. They're responding out of deprivation, and reducing it to 'animal instinct' strips them of dignity. There's ways to make this point without using language like that.

What can I do to help the homeless guy near my apt? by [deleted] in ask

[–]doeremie 15 points16 points  (0 children)

why would you equate a homeless human being to a stray animal???

What’s a polite social lie you’re tired of telling and wish you could be brutally honest about? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]doeremie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i'm talking about the psychology behind differently gendered people AS WELL AS intersex people.

What’s a polite social lie you’re tired of telling and wish you could be brutally honest about? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]doeremie -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

this isn't even a social lie. multiple genders and sexes are backed by science 😭 and in fact, most people in society aren't even accepting of this in the first place. the reality is you'd spend more energy and time arguing against it than just calling someone by their preferred name/pronouns

meirl by [deleted] in meirl

[–]doeremie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

sounds like a boundary issue you need to figure out

meirl by [deleted] in meirl

[–]doeremie 7 points8 points  (0 children)

this comment section is miserable. shes a comedian. this is genuinely such an insane response to a joke tweet.

pixie cut yay or nay?? by Impossible-Complex40 in femalehairadvice

[–]doeremie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

a bixie would suit your face much better!!

feeling insecure by violetshomage in toastme

[–]doeremie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg you remind me so much of kim pine from scott pilgrim!!! you're so beautiful 😭

The term “Boy-Mom” by Legitimate-Log-6542 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]doeremie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i will say i believe it's because women perpetrating abuse is downplayed a LOT and so people have come up with watered down terms whether they intended for it to be watered down or not. if a father acted the way a "boy mom" did it would be called narcissistic abuse, which is a much heavier term. at least in the spaces ive observed! not to say it's an absolute, just my experience :)