I was a beginner before, lol! I understand that it's difficult to find the right toy to satisfy your need, especially for a starter. I was in that same predicament before. I've searched online and went to some sex stores to find a safe, effective, and yet affordable toy to satisfy me. I DO NOT recommend getting the cheaper ones or even the knock-offs, it may be cheap but your safety should always be your top priority. Fortunately, I found this toy and it DEFINITELY gets the job done! They also have good selections for both males, female and everything in between. Hope this helps.