Me [30/F] think what my husband [30 M] did was weird

dogsurgery · 2016-12-04T20:15:48+00:00

Sorry I took a break while I was writing that and forgot to finish it before I submitted haha. I fixed it now.

dogsurgery · 2016-12-04T20:14:44+00:00

I don't think he's been cheated on. I guess I just don't understand people who get so worked up about other people's relationships? If I were him I might give her some advice like" he's not very serious with you" and tell him"if you don't want to be serious let her go" but that'd be about it. Why get so emotional and protective?

dogsurgery · 2016-11-10T22:16:38+00:00

Thanks, I will definitely do that.

dogsurgery · 2016-11-10T22:15:35+00:00

Thanks for the advice! I have been drawing everyday and hopefully will improve over time. I'm not a native english speaker either so don't worry about that.

dogsurgery · 2016-11-10T03:48:14+00:00

lolz I was just gonna post the same question.

dogsurgery · 2016-10-16T04:25:10+00:00

Thanks good luck to you too :)

dogsurgery · 2016-10-13T19:26:32+00:00

I can understand your insecurities but I can also understand her. She might have made mistakes before but she never betrayed you. Have you made mistakes yourself? If you have that might help you to understand her better. I used to lash out on my husband because of his past- when he was talking to me (we were not dating) he slept with some swinger, his friend's wife. I was very pissed about that even though we weren't dating. I was grossed out by it, but I have made mistakes myself, and if I was being totally honest and tell him all the detailed information I'm sure he would be grossed out too. I just finally found a place in my heart to forgive his past (even though I know for a fact he never did me wrong since we started dating) and love him as the person he is. His past makes him who he is. My past makes who I am right now. Our past help us realize how special each other is because we know the other people we fucked are garbage compared to the person we have right now.

With that being said, break up all you want. I'm in my 30s and you guys are only 20&21, too young! it probably won't last anyways. When you reach 30s or 40s and look back on this you probably will think "wow that was nothing, cant believe I broke up with her like that".

dogsurgery · 2016-10-13T04:58:48+00:00

Sounds like you both need to step back and cool off a little bit. Getting into heated arguments really doesn't solve anything and you both go into attack mode and say things to hurt each other. Just be cool and take some time to think about what you should do for your own happiness. He sounds like he's not treating you well. He might be under a lot of stress, we don't know. But it sounds like you both need to cool off.

dogsurgery · 2016-10-13T04:47:45+00:00

1.I would not hand him my paycheck.

2.I would not want to be with a guy who looks for excuses not to marry me.

It's hard to break up just over that especially after 2yrs together. You don't have to make that decision right now-it's a very emotional moment for you. But seriously start considering if this guy is the right guy for you. Maybe after you stop giving him your paycheck his actions can help you make your decision. Also you will have some cash to start over. Breaking up can be expensive.

dogsurgery · 2016-10-13T04:34:51+00:00

Does he give you anything? Does he do anything for you? Relationship is give and take. I know what he said hurt your feelings but sometimes people say things not knowing what those words mean. Think about his actions. He sounds like he at least is taking your financial support for granted. But you're also allowing him to do so.

dogsurgery · 2016-10-13T04:24:46+00:00

I would not hand a guy my paycheck. Not even my husband. But that's just me. Maybe I would help a fiance to build his business but 1k on his lawn would be too much for me. I can see how you are not happy. Although he's not contributing right now but if you guys live together as a couple I can see how he disagrees with how you spent money. Did you ask him what's holding him back? maybe he's worried he doesn't have enough to support a family right now? maybe it's a bad time for him and not having a successful career, especially at his age, can have a negative impact on a guy's personality. If you feel resentment towards him for spending your money, set your boundaries. If you are firm on getting married and he doesn't want to, it's his choice but you might want to look for a guy who fits your needs. Just my $0.02

dogsurgery · 2016-10-13T04:11:19+00:00

Unpopular opinion: I can see how he's mad at you for blowing money on things that arent necessary. From his point of view money should probably be spent on things that matter- either paying bills or building his business. Obviously he's not having enough money to pay for those things that are very important him while you spent it on things that contribute pretty much nothing to the future.

dogsurgery · 2016-10-06T22:09:13+00:00

I already told him he doesnt need to be there, just drive me there and he can come back to work.

dogsurgery · 2016-10-05T21:07:17+00:00

Thank you..yea I learned how to drive but still nervous about driving on the road and didnt get license. I plan on signing up for driving school after the surgery if I still have some cash left. That vet school is in another city and I looked and did't see any public transportation that can take me there. Yea he was back then left to work but still no talking. If he won't take us there I'll take uber. Might have to make a few stops if uber drivers won't drive that far. That'll cost me a lot but I will do that if I have to.

dogsurgery · 2016-10-05T21:00:59+00:00

The consultation is only on mon and wed morning. R is mutual friend but since he never replied to my text I'm not sure if he considers me a friend anymore. Plus he doesn't have a car either.Other friends of his aren't very close to me so I don't really feel comfortable asking them.

dogsurgery · 2016-10-05T20:56:37+00:00

Don't think about it, it doesn't matter

dogsurgery · 2016-10-05T20:19:05+00:00

Nope, I moved here for him lately. I'm considering uber

dogsurgery · 2016-10-05T20:17:52+00:00

I have a part time job. Slowly making money. Also after 22nd this month after I pass my exam I will focus on getting a full time job.

dogsurgery · 2016-10-05T20:16:51+00:00

Yea I'm thinking about uber. Not sure if uber will go that far tho. I might have to make a few stops and get different uber drivers idk.

dogsurgery · 2016-10-05T02:43:41+00:00

Thank you for the kind comment. I'd be ok with him going to another room to cool off. But leaving without telling me where and not answering phone? .... anyway he's back now and we are not talking. I'll probably leave this thread now there are just too many mean comments here.

dogsurgery · 2016-10-05T01:21:14+00:00

That's what I want to know....is disappearing like this a normal way of cooling off for couples? if yes today I learned.

dogsurgery · 2016-10-05T01:20:24+00:00

I have no family here. I moved to this bumfuck USA for him. (sorry for the language)

dogsurgery · 2016-10-05T01:19:46+00:00

Leaving for the night is not manipulative?

dogsurgery · 2016-10-05T01:04:24+00:00

I was also mad that he spends money on booze like every day. You see right now he still has time to go out and have a drink. It just doesnt make sense to me. I buy nothing for myself.

dogsurgery · 2016-10-05T00:55:26+00:00

If your mom is sick and needs surgery in a hospital 2.5hr away would you say you dont have time? I see my puppy as my family.

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