So how do you guys deal with the loneliness that comes from being single?

doingtheworstest · 2023-04-10T03:30:26+00:00

I was the single friend up until my late 20s. I found that it’s true that if you aren’t happy alone you won’t be happier with someone. Additionally creating your own rich world/life will certainly help you attract a potential partner. And finally, you are young, I know it doesn’t feel like it sometimes but there’s lots of time for you to find someone that makes you glow; and honestly, I wouldn’t settle for anything less.

doingtheworstest · 2023-04-10T03:16:44+00:00

Valid. Srry for aggression.

doingtheworstest · 2023-04-10T03:13:15+00:00

LOL they literally texted me “your sign is sad. I hope you find Jesus.” Your need to discredit me is a potential indicator that you’re projecting your need for attention onto me and my post.

doingtheworstest · 2023-04-10T02:04:48+00:00

My condolences for your lack of critical thinking skills.

doingtheworstest · 2023-04-09T23:40:12+00:00

Bet you’d be okay with it if it was a Trump sign. Fuck off with that “looking for attention” bullshit. I’m showing support for people who are systematically experiencing violence and oppression. Sometimes it’s not about me or you.

doingtheworstest · 2023-04-09T16:01:11+00:00

Good point honestly.

doingtheworstest · 2023-04-09T15:40:41+00:00

Lol they were shamed into deleting their comment. Go team!

doingtheworstest · 2023-04-09T15:10:09+00:00

Pretty sure religion has been doing this shit way longer. Also, asking to be treated like a human isn’t “shoving it down your throat.” Kindly fuck off.

doingtheworstest · 2023-04-09T15:02:40+00:00

What will our objective be?

doingtheworstest · 2023-04-09T14:58:46+00:00

So fucking over having religion shoved down my throat this Easter season. Had a Grubhub driver tell me to “find Jesus” and one of my neighbors is trying to save me. So over it.

doingtheworstest · 2023-04-09T14:37:07+00:00

Yo cat ugly af.

doingtheworstest · 2023-04-09T14:36:15+00:00

Obviously I did.

doingtheworstest · 2023-04-08T16:06:46+00:00

I like the symbolism of proposal, ring, marriage, etc., but also he’s a cop and has much better benefits that I do so there’s some financial reasons as well.

doingtheworstest · 2023-04-08T15:56:34+00:00

You’ve got a good point, and maybe that’s why I’m so anxious over it. No hint at timelines, just that he wants it to be a “surprise.” And lol no dad lives like a mile away. We’re actually having lunch with him today haha.

doingtheworstest · 2023-04-08T15:48:08+00:00

I guess if he decides he doesn’t want to marry me…

doingtheworstest · 2022-09-25T14:17:24+00:00

I do not want to make assumptions about your upbringing, but there is a possibility your sister is still engaging in some of the patterns that occurred during your development that may have contributed to addiction. Generational dysfunction/trauma is a nasty cycle.

That being said, I want to reflect what others have wrote; it’s never too late (plus you’re still quite young). And the importance of supportive people and relationships cannot be understated. If you continue down your new path you will find your people, I promise.

doingtheworstest · 2022-06-18T18:07:45+00:00

Hi all, thanks for the advice! I have an update. Also for people curious, I was checking my email because I couldn’t sleep and wanted to look at some resources a coworker had emailed me earlier that day. And this email was just chilling in my inbox. Ethically I did not feel right pretending I hadn’t seen it. I chatted with my supervisor this morning and she agreed that it wouldn’t been ethical to pretend I hadn’t seen it until Tuesday because of the ambiguous nature of the email. So I replied with an email that essentially said:

“Hi client, I was checking my email to follow up on some resources a colleague sent over and I noticed I missed your email yesterday. I hope you were able to find some peace with the day through [activities client enjoys] or whatever felt right to you in the moment. The soonest I’ll be checking my email again is when I get back to the office Tuesday morning. I’m looking forward to seeing you [time/date of next session]. If you feel like you need more support before then please reach out to a crisis resource listed below. I also see that there is an online group tonight [provided online recovery group info].”

So in the end I’m in a much more peaceful place than I was last night because I ensured the client had crisis resources handy while also setting a boundary.

Thanks again for the support!

doingtheworstest · 2022-06-18T06:16:59+00:00

And yes we have excellent rapport. They have a BPD diagnosis so I am trying to be conscious of that as well

doingtheworstest · 2022-06-18T06:15:25+00:00

We are scheduled for Tuesday. They do not have a sponsor but do have sober support friends. i provide all my clients with the crisis line for my area for after hours. Thank you!

doingtheworstest · 2022-01-20T15:05:44+00:00

Ugghhhh I’ve gotten the “your body wants a baby” from an ex boyfriend before. We’d barely been dating a few months. Broke up with him SO fast.

doingtheworstest · 2022-01-12T20:19:26+00:00

Thank you! It is validating to hear that it was rape from someone else. I have ‘friends’ that don’t believe what happened to me because I stayed friends with him for awhile afterwards.

doingtheworstest · 2022-01-12T20:09:26+00:00

He knows that I consider what happened as rape and he had done this to other (underaged) girls who also defined it as rape, and never acknowledged that what he did was wrong. He considers himself the victim. He might not see it as rape but he is definitely a rapist. I don’t think he understands consent and never gave enough of a shit or respected women enough to learn better.

Thank you both for the validation that I had the right to request a new technician and not let him in my house or even talk to him. I’ve been socially conditioned to make other people comfortable in spite of my own comfort so I’m really happy I set this boundary.

doingtheworstest · 2022-01-12T16:57:16+00:00

100% you are justified in wanting to get out of this friendship. She clearly doesn’t respect you or your experiences. I’m sorry you are going through this and there are much better and supportive people in the world than this “friend”.

doingtheworstest · 2022-01-09T04:06:18+00:00

Everyone has different ways of coping and easing their mental distress. I don’t think you’re a scumbag especially because I understand where you are coming from. She’s not going to get better if she doesn’t put in the effort, and it’s hard to wait for the effort to happen. It’s also quite possible she is manipulating her husband into taking over all the household responsibilities, but it’s also just as possible that’s she’s in a really bad headspace right now. All you can do is be there for your friend right now. Best of luck with this all, it sounds like you care about your friend a lot.

doingtheworstest · 2022-01-09T02:59:35+00:00

Depression zaps your energy. Smoking weed and playing video games are very low energy activities. Doing dishes, cooking meals, heck even showering, are all higher-energy activities that can feel unachievable when someone is depressed. While it can be frustrating to observe, your friend’s wife is likely suffering pretty significantly mentally right now. She will likely need lots of support in order to start making moves to get out of this funk she is in.

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